For Sale: Metal Tag maker, no electricity required. Good way to build arm muscles. No rose tags included, but I might have a variety of naughty lady "Social Security Id Card Blanks." (remember back when you used to carry that little paper card in your wallet and wanted that nifty personalized metal one) (and if only I was not kidding and the "proud" owner of such a machine-my parents from back in the swapmeet days)

My brother and I moved swiftly and surely to isolate our mother's assets when it became clear her failing health would preclude her independent life style. That was 2 1/2 years ago. She has a revocable trust now. Assets are protected, we have powers of attorney, and the chaos that follows any death will be minimized. She has "gifted" every year since her health "crashed and burned". Her home has been emptied of its contents and her assets have been directed to its maintenance. I can only tell you, that having an elderly, frail, mentally failing parent in your home and in your care is no day at the beach. To be perfectly honest, I hate the encroachment on my personal freedom. But she is my mother, she needs my help, and who better than I to see she is well cared for, indulged, given mental stimulation on a daily basis? "Baby boomers" need to pay attention to this issue... , laws governing "look back" and estate planning change every month/year; you need to pay attention to politics! "Look back" for Mum had we tried to put our names on the deed to her home in 2003 was 3 years. With the trust it was reduced to 7 mos.. Get thee to a lawyer specializing in ELDER LAW and estate planning, ASAP. Loop holes on inheritance and the transfer of potentially valuable real estate are being closed routinely, even as we're being told that we should reduce our expectation of social security and Medicare. Smarten up! move now and isolate the assets. You'll be glad you did.

Time. Time. and more TIME. that's the only thing that might make bio like you, or be civil toward you. Show SS that you are ok with him loving his mom. It's important for them to have a relationship. don't make him feel in any way that the relationship you have with him is impacted by your relationship (or lack of) with her. Don't take it personal. He's a kid trying to navigate dangerous, unknown waters. He'll come out of it eventually. I assume your BF is more mature around BMBF than BM is around you. Plus kids are usually more attached to moms, and moms are usually more open with their feelings, so kid could be picking up on mom's weirdness more than dad's feelings about BMBF. (if that makes any sense) Keep strong on the snooping. It will not get you anywhere you want to go. I know it's hard, believe me!!! but if you have gut bad feelings, ask, and then snoop away. That's how I caught my ex and his cheating. But I had a lot of reason to check, and I asked him time and again, and i knew he was lying. Totally different situation than what I'm getting from you. Maybe you can talk SS up around everyone next time. Find something he did (maybe you encouraged him to draw a nice picture for his biomom?) and then mention what a great artist he is. That way biomom and he feel special. The best way to melt an iceburg is by pouring a lot of warm water on it. Douse her with kindness, but all via the son and how great he is.

You can mention this on your dispute BTW, also you can tell Paypal, if necessary, you could get phone records proving he did not call - by asking him first to advise exactly when did he call and can HE PROVE the long distance call from WHAT phone number. Ask him first to provide the proof of call through the DISPUTE contact sheet and he will have to reply to this. If he can't provide any proof, 9/10 times paypal favours the customer - I know - I've had quite a few disputes over the years in similar situations and ALWAYS got a refund because the seller could not PROVE what they claimed. The proof is in the pudding they say. Good luck, McPeg