Thank you golddust. My dad loved facebook. He loved posting old pics on there and reminiscing and being nostalgic. His services were yesterday. It was standing room only. He was loved by many people. It was really touching to see just how many, although it was a long exhausting day and it's now pretty much just a blur. My Dad has always been there when I needed him for pretty much anything. It is going to be tough not to be able to just pick up the phone and call him. Or even worse, the sad reality of him not being here for our next big family party in August. There will definitely be a huge void. In my heart of hearts, I know he is ok. I'm not extremely religious but I firmly believe in God and what he holds for us after we pass from this life. I have received many signs since his passing, and I have not even looked for any. I just have so many unanswered questions regarding his estate and he did not have a will. So unfortunately, I have a long road ahead with the estate. He was part owner of a business in which the partner stopped paying him profits and he had started litigation against the partner. He was also involved in suing my grandfather's partner for his estate because the partner had forged a check and wiped my grandfather's accounts clean while he was ill. I'm sure the stress of it all contributed to his sudden death. He was devastated to have been betrayed by both of them. Not looking forward to any of it, but I will right the wrongs that were brought against him. The moral: If you don't have a will, get one now. Life is fragile and it could end any second, it's a great mystery and we just never know when our time is up.

Sheila, for what it is worth, here is my advice: Because you have put so much time and work into this project, you will definitely not want those ends to come undone. It is not going to make an unsightly lump to make a bit of a knot with just one loop around your needle. I would weave into the cloth, away from the edge for about an inch, then make the one loop knot. I would then weave in the same direction as before, for another inch. Then I would double back, but not exactly in the same place as before- move up just a bit (this way you'll avoid making a lump in the piece). If you choose not to use the one-loop knot, I think you should add one extra thread-through in the opposite direction. In my opinion, it also helps if you do not use a blunt yarn needle, but a sharp one which will enable you to split the thread when you weave in, not just through the easy spots in the stitches between threads. It will hold faster that way.

That post made me think of someone going out and writing a book on how not to drink too much and then handing their book to someone who doesn't drink, who goes to Al anon, and whose parents were alcoholics. Then the self satisfied author walks away with a smug expression on their face thinking that they have just educated someone through their special unique wisdom and experience. I especially enjoyed the paragraph about not meddling. I thought that the post author might reread that one a few times and think about applying it to situations other than ones that involve their immediate family. (Like an online discussion board maybe?) If you haven't actually walked in someone else's shoes, you might think twice or more times about educating them about being in their shoes. I guess that this author is convinced that when you go past a certain age and/or you assume a certain identity like MIL or older mother, then you lose all of your brain cells and you become a stereotype of the most bothersome person that ever lived. They think that anything we say about our experiences is questionable and that any pain we have felt is well deserved. Interesting. I recall once upon a time long ago and far away when I was younger and I thought I knew a lot. Maybe not as much as this particular genius author thinks that she knows. But I used to think I knew a lot. Eventually humility happens. To some of us anyway. If we're lucky. Then we can look back on doing something that resembles this post and cringe. Ginny

I never sew clear up to the edge, but stop several stitches before the seam allowance...then, do a quilters knot and draw my thread in the batting, toward the body of the quilt, away from the edge, back up through the top in 1/2" or so, and clip it there.