Would anger management help Bullie medical personel, or racists, or ethnic haters? It is quite proper sometimes to get angry and let racists and sexists know that they are sociably unacceptble. To take up for people who cannot take up for them selves is applaudible. Am adding another link. I bet i know one of the people the AMA is apoligizing for. You did'nt even begin to mention the herbs that would help anger stress. Mints do not. I grow all kinds of mints. Lots of room and lots of mints. I'm in zone 6 and passiflora grows wild up here, eveywhere. Talk about a potentially toxic herb. must have slipped up again Doctor. Here is a link that might be useful: AMA to Apoligise to Black Doctors

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I was married for 18 years to a man with major anger issues. Like your husband, mine was not physically abusive towards me. But emotional abuse is just as bad. Those scars are just as deep you just can't see them on the surface. I too "fell" out of love with him early on but stayed because he threatened many times to take my children from me if I even tried to leave. Do you have children, is that why you stay? If you don't have children, don't have them with him at all. He may be calmer now, for awhile, but he will revert, trust me. When I finally left my husband he didn't understand why. I told him anger, meanness and "you" are just not a nice person and if I wasn't married to you I wouldn't even want you for a friend...ask your friends. So he did (surprise, surprise)and even more surprising they all told him the truth. That was ten years ago. Last year he told me divorcing him was the best thing that ever happened to him because that was the only thing that would and did get through to him was loosing everything, including his kids. Forcing him to really take a long honest look at himself, with the help of a counselor. However it did take him almost 10 years to reach that insight. Asolo is correct, you are in danger, maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but it will come eventually. Each sucsessive outburst that he gets away with will be just a little more intense until it eventually becomes physical. But to answer your original questions: NO!!! It is my belief that it is not possible to "fall" back in love. That level of love requires a level of trust that I don't believe can ever be restored. But that's just MHO. Alexis

Mine are 5, 7, 10, 13. I yell sometimes, too. Sometimes I feel like they don't take me seriously until I am angry enough to yell. But I have to remember something I read once: When you're yelling, they only register the yelling, and not one word of what you're actually saying to them. That's so true, I know that's how I feel when someone takes a hostile tone with me, I hear the hostility first and maybe somewhere after that part of the actual direction or request. When I want to just scream at one of them (or more than one) I have to tell them to leave the room. I send them to their own room and wait 10 minutes before I go up to talk to them. Then I can clear my head, find the fewest words possible to get my point across (I ramble when I'm angry). Then I have to maintain a quiet voice on purpose, catch myself when I hear it rising, and bring it down again. I try to remember to let the kids do some of the talking, asking them to tell me what they did wrong. They know, they don't need it screamed at them, and they think about it harder when they have to say it themselves. And I have to be quiet and listen to them. Then when I do talk, I've listened first and I'm calmer. Sometimes I know *I'm* the problem, I'm in a bad mood and short fused, and the kids don't stand much of chance. They can do the smallest annoying thing and I'm ready to blow, it's not their fault. In that case, I know I need to deal with myself first. If I can, if DH is home, I leave the house, go for a walk, a drive, whatever I'm in the mood for. If I can't leave, I need a family time out. The sound of the TV or video games drives me nuts. I ask them for some peace and quiet, the TV is off, they go to their own rooms to occupy themselves, I might play some upbeat music. I am much calmer if that stupid television is OFF! I can't stand the thing when I'm grumpy. ;o) It helps me to make an effort to whisper when I feel like yelling. It also comes as such a surprise to the kids they actually listen harder. And overall, I feel like yelling less and they behave in a way that prompts less yelling, if we spend fun time together. I think they just feel more important to us, and we feel better about our parenting. We stop and notice the people they are, not just the annoying behavior. When we know the tension is getting thick, we have to make an effort to go for a walk together, play a board game, or turn down the lights and watch a movie. When they are getting enough of the right kind of attention, we all behave better. I notice their improved behavior when I keep my behavior in check, which encourages me to keep it up.