I believe that this woman faces mental abuse without a doubt because I myslef is being subjected to very similar ways within my marriage. I never looked at it this way before but after reading her story i realize that it does exist and that i need to put my foot down and stop taking this type of treatment. I have only been married for 2 months prior to that i we started talking about 8 months before i got pregnant im 8 months pregnant with his child now. At this point in my pregnancy I lost my job and I stay at home it took him 5 months for us to move in to his parents house in the second floor. Initially I wanted an abortion when i found out that i was pregnant because I knew i wasnt ready financially to maintain a child as well as I didnt feel the timing was right. I come from strict parents who do not tolerate this type of behavior getting pregnant before marriage is a big no no So I was dating him at that time when I found out I was pregnant we werent officially boyfriend/ girlfriend but I did get the opportunity to meet his family and friends and they all seemed like really genuinely nice people, he however was a charmer and me being naive and vulernable decided to tag along. i knew he drank and partied alot but I kept thinking to myself that he would change I was going to end our relationship at the end of that summer i got pregnant but when i told him that i was pregnant he was so happy and i felt a warmth in my heart that ok this is his child too and to end this pregnancy would be wrong. boy did i ever regret not doing it, he became controlling and over powering, he wanted things his way or no way, i let alot of things slide, now that we have been married he would go out with his friends and cousins and leave me all alone, i was horribly sick with the cold so badly and he would ask me if i wanted to go out to a house party when im all conjested and cant breathe when i talk to him about it he yells back at me especially when hes drunk, he wants his food brought to him in bed while he watches tv he'll leave the trash piled up for days and ill have to take it out and being pregnant he wants me to clean the floor with a cloth on my knees and tells me to clean up before he comes home, and when he goes out drinking im thinking he"ll come back and we'll watch a movie or cook dinner together and he just comes to bed throw his socks on the floor n his coat on the bed and his hat wherever he feels like. then when i try to retaliate he wont let me speak only his point of view matters he dont care what i have to say or how i feel, i try to stand up for myself i know im soft spoken so he can easily talk over me. he claims he does everything for me and no other guy would do what he does.He says that i take advantage over him. he hasnt bought a thing for our baby yet he relies on everyones assistance, my family bought the car seat and stroller, instead he bought two tvs and games. Another thing he never bought anything for the kitchen yet i had to take money from my parents because I lost my job a few months ago to go by groceries sometimes and when i do he asks for receipts. whats worse is his mother and sister defends him constantly, they would call my phone and asks where he went and did he eat. they use my car for everything to the point where it got dents and scratches on it. If his sister does something for me he tells me im not appreciative he has a way of turning the tables on me making me feel guilty. When hes the one that neglects me and I have to simply tolerate it. Like this weekend for example friday he went out drinking when i call his phone he picks up and says he'll be some soon hes up the block or i kept on constantly calling his phone because i am sick a cold to bring me some food. He left home around 4 pm didnt get home until 1 am, thats not all saturday still wasnt feeling good i said ill go by my moms but was indecisive he told me he was going out to a club i was ok then ill go by my mom for the night he calls me next morning at 7 hasnt slept or didnt go home yet, then picks me up goes to the liqour store gets beers and alcohol brings his cousins over then decides to leave me home alone and goes to his cousins house to watch the game and tells me to cook when im sick and can barely eat anything have no sense of taste and cant breathe. Theres no double standard here in this relationship when i try talking to him about it he'll say "i know babe but im working on it you know how i am " so its like i just have no choice but to tolerate it. He paints a picture that we are about to have a family and we going to be happy but its all a show. i just feel manipulated and trapped and confused he uses love as a way to somehow make me feel that he cares but truly its just a tactic to get me to give in to his ways. I am young and I will admit was naive and i believe i let my low self esteem get in the way of things but its sad that i cant find a way to get up and leave or even talk to my parents about it my mom went into a deep depression as a result of this and i have to be there for her my dad just blames me for getting pregnant if there are any suggestions for help out there please let me know im on the verge of desperation.

We can often have so many problems on the internet. We all make our own statements, reply, then suddenly there are problems. Person "A" said something that I did not pay much attention to. Person "B" said something that I can really comment on. There is nothing wrong with my response to Person "B", but suddenly Person "A" who I have long forgotten about is as angry as can be. What I have said in my response to Person "B" has been considered an insult by Person "A". Everything is twisted and distorted, and a disagreement begins. If you stayed with my logic above, my solution has been to try to pay more attention to those who post even when those posts don't concern me, and then to mention names when I specifically respond. I also try to explain myself a little better to keep from accidentally flaming a person. One more thing is that I need to be very clear when I don't want criticism. Sometimes when I ask for suggestions, I only want suggestions for one thing. If I don't make that clear, I can get really offended if I think that someone is trying to tell me how to live or how to feel. Vickie, I doubt if you have ever been a troll. Trolls intend to be disruptive. What you have described is just an internet problem. Sammy

You cannot run in a panic right now, you will scare Rhianna. If you scare her she will not talk, IF there are signs of physical abuse, by no means wait, But if there are no signs physically, then you must take things slowly and on her terms so you do not scare her and tramatise her more. calm talks are the best. She may not tell you today, she may not tell you tomorrow, BUT if she knows she can tell you and you won't freak out on her, she will tell you, trust me, she will. Listen to her, what she says and doesn't say...That sounds odd, I know but if she says something that just doesn't sound "right", it could be the clue to a talk. Again above all else, BE cALM. Deep breaths, Make her calm. Matter of fact terms, "Mom he showed me his pee pee"..Oh he did, boy that must have been icky, I wouldn't want to see that...calm not OH MY GOD, YOU SAW HIS PEN!S. One way can keep her talking, the other will make her clam up. All will/can be fine eventually. Remember too, she may not like him because he just isn't nice to her. And her moodyness may have nothing to do with him. Oh yes and remmeber with you talk to enforce upon her that if anyone says they'll hurt xxx if they tell, that they don't have to worry, you owuld never let that happen. AND if they promise anything if they don't tell, that is not the kind of secret to keep. Good secrets and bad secrets..good conversation for another time. Vickey-Mn

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