hee hee... i haven't checked the AV gallery for awhile, and when i just saw this pic, i thought, "oh, how lovely!!" (i love those blues.) then i thought, "i will post a note..." and scrolled down and saw that i posted one in june saying how pretty your plant was. i still love it! rebecca

Wow, that is an incredible color. Looks to me that it is very happy in your garden Xuan! ;-) I am not familiar with that method of germinating daylily seeds. You fill a glass part way with rocks/marbles, fill with water to just below the top of rocks, and place the seeds on the rocks?? How long did it take them to sprout? Very impressed with your daylily bed! Will love to see more blooms as they open ;-) CMK

Thank you carrie, and denisew... She was just soooo tiny...me being the NaNa I am...had so many 0-3 mo. clothes...I had to go buy some preemies...LOL...yep...lots more money..LOL..go figure! carrie, Happy Birthday to your sister, yet you say 'was' and I hesitated to say Happy Birthday......But Im very glad Maddi was born on her Birthday!!!! denisew, when I talk to my near 23 yr old son, its funny, ... if he's alone driving, I ALWAYS tell my kids I love them before I hang up...and IF he's alone he will say loudly "I love u too!" ... yet if he's somewhere with someone he'll mumble, something to the tone of ikllkjlkjltoo...LOL! Kids are great..most of the time anyway...LOL! Dena

The feelings you have are what many mothers of sons feel after their marriage...if that encounter made you feel outside a circle..its because you are...I also have to wonder what mothers of daughters are telling and teaching them about in laws.... They are mothers to grown children as well and have to know how a mother to an only son must feel...its really not the same as having a daughter and no one can say it is....I have seen how my DIL's look out for their mothers best interest at the risk of breaking a MIL's heart....my oldest DIL will exchange these looks with her mother as if no one is watching...like they are collluding telepathically...it is so juvenile... They have done this around me many times in my own home...and I hate being around them....my husband berates me if I even mention this is taking place....I am planning my exit out of this marriage and feel my DIL has ruined my family....my husband has never stood by me or supported me emotionally...and having a person enter your family...a small family at that and seemingly treat you poorly will create major conflicts in a marriage if one spouse tries to ignore the others pain...just an acknowledgement is fine.. If truth be told my husband does not care for his DIL but fears speaking up about it to me....obviously we are not going to last to 40 yrs happily.... One thing that parents of a son will do is extend themselves for fear of losing him completely...you say you have heart to hearts with her...but this is probably not the best move....a DIL will use information you give them against you later...in arguments with your son...I was told this by many women in the past....and believe it...my sister created a lot of tension with my DIL based on things that she would tell her when I was not around... We also extended ourselves by buying vaca property with my son and his wife....big mistake 10 yrs later....my son is now behaving more like an unhappy bus. partner....sending emails telling my husband he has not contributed as much financially...wanting to sell which has been my view all along...but my husband did not take my advice and prediction and now sees but really doesn't see... My advice would be to accept the fact that your DIL is going to be a mamas girl....and you will likely feel the chill more than once...do not try to have something that may never be there...you have to remember..she came to your family as an adult...she has no back story with you...your son may not be willing to speak in your defense.... I wish I knew then what I know today...life for me would be so much easier...now I have the stress of having a son, but not really...and having the stress of a controlling husband who chastises me for being hurt...insisting I deal with issues like he does..which is to repress....2 GS's I only see when there is a free spot somewhere....a truly unhappy existence at the moment....I am in the process of letting go as well