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Name one of the most valuable lessons you've learned recently

17 years ago

Name one of the most valuable lessons you've learned recently? Mine is not allowing someone who says their my

friend walk all over me. I'm done!!

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czech_chick
17 years ago
Don't lend money to your friends!
earthlydelights
17 years ago
think it all the way through before you push someone away. it might feel right for the minute, but the consequences have been hell.
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Kathsgrdn
17 years ago
12 year olds (almost 13 yos) can sure be hormonal. Yesterday, went through all emotionals: demanding/smart mouth, crying, sweet. Don't know if I'm going to survive the teen years. lol.
gadgets
17 years ago
My sisters and I were invited to a special luncheon. Some said they 'forgot' to register to go, another -did- register but came up with 'better' plans at the last moment. I made up my mind to go by myself AND to do everything I could to enjoy myself. I found that I could go outside my comfort zone (walking into the unknown alone) and make my own good time. I thoroughly enjoyed myself.

Shirley
auntnete
17 years ago
sadly I let a 'friend' push my buttons and loaned him money. I am out the money and a friend
Marilyn Sue
17 years ago
I learned that no matter how hard you try to do some things, it apparently isn't good enough for some people, not my husband or my children, some other member of the family.

Sue
carla35
17 years ago
Some people just can't understand that they can't understand what they can't understand.
vicki_lv
17 years ago
We found out that no matter how much you do for family members, sometimes they just don't think it is enough. They want more, more, more. Or they have no concept of respect for us, in our own home. And they fail to see what they have been given so far. Wonder what would happen if we took it all away?

We are SO over it.
mylab123
17 years ago
Doing nothing is as big an action as doing something.
jannie
17 years ago
You don't have the right to be happy all the time, but you do have the responsibility to be cheerful all the time.
barbara3
17 years ago
Even though you think you have the other person's motives all figured out, always be ready for that zinger out of left field!
mariend
17 years ago
Do not loan money to relatives, no matter how much they claim they need it (large amt) did not do it. Person still unhappy

Think twice before you move to a small town where everyone is related to everyone else.
pawsitive_gw
17 years ago
Pick up all dog chew hooves before stumbling out of bed at 3am for a potty break. Owowowowowow............
debo_2006
17 years ago
I learned that you can not trust even family. They'll stab you in the back quicker than a friend will.
carol_in_california
17 years ago
I learned I don't always have to be right.
And it is better to open my ears and close my mouth.
joyfulguy
17 years ago
If your kid'll finance your travel on vacation ...

... let 'er!

And thank her!

While staying in her (new - to her) house at the other end!

I'll have to stay up late to figger a better deal than that - it seems to me!

Hi Paws-itive,

Rumour has it that those (^&*@$#]) canines have been known to move those chews, on occasion, even after the (so-called) boss has kicked 'em outta the way.

ole joyful
lindyluwho
17 years ago
The best way to make co-workers (aka supervisors) know how much work you do is to be gone for a week and not do it.

Linda
User
17 years ago
Don't stand in the way of someone and their sense of entitlement to a free meal.
intherain
17 years ago
Life is short. Don't sweat the small stuff.

My dear brother-in-law died of a heart attack last week at the age of 41. Collapsed after doing his favorite thing - playing waterpolo. Jamie never worried. Lived each day to the fullest.

Sheryl
wildchild
17 years ago
You can't fix stupid.
kayjones
17 years ago
I have learned to let your loved ones know you love them while they are alive - they may be gone tomorrow!
haffie
17 years ago
I watched Britain's Got Talent/Susan and learned again what I had "forgotton".
ronm80
17 years ago
Lessons I learned from gardening. Dogs don't remember where they buried their bones and squirrels don't remember where they hid their nuts.
Mystical Manns
17 years ago
Have your annual checkups no matter what.
Tally
17 years ago
Ignorance is curable but stupid is forever.
dreamgarden
17 years ago
If you want someone to leave you alone, lend them money!
rthummer
17 years ago
Don't let people that have a 0 feedback on ebay bid on stuff I am selling. I got burned 3x in one week. Never again. What are the odds on that happening? Hmmm....
Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
17 years ago
I trust my instincts more.
susanjf_gw
17 years ago
that you all have a lot of great advice!
okwriter
17 years ago
Not so much a lesson as on observation.

I would trade all of my worldly possessions for just 30 more minutes with my mom...
workoutlady
17 years ago
You can really accumulate alot of junk in 25 years. I didn't believe my mother when she said I'd fill up this house eventually.

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