Our DD had a similiar experience years ago. We moved to another town and invited some girls for a birthday party. She was 10 that year. No one called, no one came. 5 months later we bought a house in another area. 3 girls from her class invited her for a sleep over the first week we were there. 2 of the girls are still in touch these many years later. She is 34 now. Who knows why this happens. She was a sweet girl who did well in school but at the first school/neighborhood she had no friends, the second lots. Good luck with the party, hope things work out well.

I think people just have forgotten how to RSVP and it is very common these days not to hear from people, but it sure is aggravating (and rude).

I know you hate that, but I sure hope it turns out to be a wonderful day of celebration for him.

That is just terrible. But I'm thinking maybe people will still show up - is that possible and what would happen then? It really hurts to see kids go thru this.

I too was thinking of the people who didn't RSVP but will still try to show up tomorrow and you won't be there. I think you should have called them and explained that you needed a head count for the facility. I know it is more work on your part but you would then know for sure if your grandson's friends really were coming. It is lousy that the parents don't respong to your request, but now you may look like a loon if they show up and you aren't there. It is a tough situation to be in.

It shouldn't have to be...but I think you need to say...Please call and let me know if your child plans on coming before such and such a date...or your child will be left out because I have to call by that date to have the spots comfirmed.

I believe some kids don't show the invite to their mothers until the last day...like OH Yeah mom...I'm supposed to go to Joeys birthday party today...

Doesn't it break you heart what kids can do to other kids...

patti

I guess I'm a bit confused... Your grandson invited kids who are in the 10- to 11-year-old range to a birthday party that will be held 80 miles from where the invitees live?

I'm confuse like Lindsey. Where is the party being held. Yes it is rude to not RSVP but I would have to bite my tongue real hard if my 10 or 11 year old got an invitation to a birthday party 80 miles away.

If I am misunderstanding I apologize. Also why would he have to round up kids at the last minute? If he is having a hard time being accepted inviting the kids to his party as original guests could have been the ice breaker needed.

By the way when my kids were eleven they sort of outgrew the big parties by their choice. They would rather do something special with a few of their real friends and maybe have a sleep over.

I am so over parties because of stuff like this. I would like to transition DD (turned 11 yesterday) to just inviting 1-2 friends to something -like going to Universal for the day, then a sleepover-rather than doing a party, but nope-she wanted a party again this year. Its alot less people this year though due to several obnoxious ones last year. I reserve the veto power on who to invite.

a town 80 miles from where we live, but he has friends there also and that is who he gave the invites to

the kids are local to the vacation home, which is 80 miles away from Pawsitive.

And I know that if I get no RSVPs, I can't call the moms. I don't have any phone numbers for the kids in my son's school.

Pawsitive's grandson *passed the invitations out*--that means, no mailing addresses. She probably doesn't have even last names for these kids, let alone does she have their phone numbers.

Maybe grandson could help her know last names, and she could try everybody from that last namne in the phone book ("I'm trying to reach the parents of Michael Farrell, because they haven't responded to the birthday party invitaion, and it's tomorrow--it this their house?)

(hey, one bonus: everybody in their family would know they didn't RSVP!)

That won't work so well in NYC, though.

The party will be held in the town where the invited kids live. WE are 80 miles away and travel THERE. It's a weekend house and he loves to go down because the weather is soooo much better in the winter. The kids he will round up are the ones he invited. It's a small neighborhood of about 6 streets and not a lot of kids on it. Most are sister/sister, and brother/sister combos, so really only about 4 invitations would have gone out. But ya know, each kid has to have his/her invite, so really no excuse that the parents didn't know. I don't have the phone#s of all the parents, people move in and out of the neighborhood too often. I do try, but sometimes the KIDS don't know their own phone number. I just get a general location of where they live and go on the search for him when he's late for dinner. Heading down in about 2 hours, no word on what's going on yet.

Given that the party is to be held there then yes they are rude. You are right to be ticked off. I hope your grandson has a wonderful day. Try not to let this put a damper on things.

RSVP probably doesn't mean a thing to a kid. Unless the parents explain it to them. LOL our Red Hat group gets a letter every month, with the location where we're going to meet/eat, the hostess name and phone #, and RSVP by such and such a date. 1/2 of these adult women don't bother to call either. Or they call and say, I'm going to try and be there, then don't show.
I hope he has a nice birthday anyway. Maybe his 2nd one will work out better.
Leslie

I would guess that the invitations are still in the other kids' backpacks! My stepson puts papers from school in his backpack, and we find them when he needs one signed, which is usually too late.

My concern is that your grandson won't understand what happened, and his ego will be hurt. You need to explain that it is nothing wrong with him - for some reason, the parents probably didn't know about any party for him. In the future, I think the person hosting the party should handle the invitations personally!

So?

What time is the party?
Do you think anyone will show up?

Update, please.....

Lori

I hope it turns out to be a fun day for the little guy. I understand the frustration, though.

We had one girl show up so we made a big deal out of it. (We went early and said the heck with the rest of the kids.) Bought them lots of tickets for the arcade, rounds of mini-golf, rides on the bumper boats, lunch at the Chinese Buffet and cake and ice cream. They had a blast. He was disappointed at first, but had a great time. One brother/sister said they "might" come, maybe, and it's a good thing we didn't wait on them, we had rain at the time of the original party. They never showed up anyway. The kids he will invite next weekend, I know the parents and we will haul them to the swimming pool and out for cake and ice cream, so it will be an improvement over this weekend.