i use this product http://www.scjohnson-egypt.com/nqcontent.cfm?a_id=2397, i don't know if it's effective as liquid fogger or not but they work the same. those although aren't that effective for the insect i'm talking about, when i start this device it repels them for a couple of hours then they start again but not as vigorous as they do when there is no fog. i tried to leave the room open for some nights and let this repellent thing does it work, but no use. they seem to know where they are going, it doesn't seem like an infestation although , it rather seems like they are a group that stuck on me. today i've found one of them dead on my disk, i don't know whether i could send a photo of it or not, and if i could whether any one will identify it or not. so i need more advise. thanx

I am sorry for your losses. The pain is inevitable, and although it will always be with you, it will get somewhat better over time. There really is no good answer to your question "why?". The only acceptable answer for me is that the universe is indifferent. Death is a random thing, I believe. If people are objective, and really observe the world around them, this seems to be the only conclusion that makes sense. I don't believe it is part of some cosmic plan that is not understandable. It is what it is. And it is sad. Human emotions are frail and most of us are far more insecure about our existence than we like to admit. When we lose those we love or care about, it makes the insecurity even more profound. I know there are lots of well-meaning folks on this board who can comfort you and maybe tell you what you think you need to hear. I'm just giving you my honest assessment of things as a rational person. Please accept your pain and grief as normal and learn to nurture yourself and be your own "best friend". Take it one day at a time. Get lost in some activity or interest. Make some new friends. Give more love and attention to those who you still have left in your life. This will help you. It WON'T cure your grief. But, it will make life feel better. Remember, we all will slip back into the great mystery one day. Life is hard, but it's still it's own reward. We're all just lucky to be alive. Don't contemplate on whether you are happy too much, and then you will find that you can be so. RV

"his ex hates my husband she is not sad they they are not together. She likes to cause trouble though." I didn't mean that she is pining away for him, but you said, "My husband was fooling around with the mother of his other child for years on top of everything to start off. I stayed with my husband because I believe in love and 2nd chances." & I thought you are saying that he was fooling around with the mother of this 8 year old & if he was doing that while he was seeing you, then yes this child saw his parents 'together' at least in some way, unless they were so sly that they hid it from their own child. And even if the mother hates him & is not sad, that does not mean she does not let her son know how angry she is (anger is also a feeling that is much easier to express than hurt, so who knows if she truly hates him or is hurt he finally ended it with her and married you) but I'm sure the child picks up on those feelings because children are little sponges & know more than most people give them credit for. If mommy is angry all the time at daddy, of course it's going to affect how he feels about daddy's house & the new wife, baby, etc. "I think that it's good to be proactive and encourage my stepson to be nice to my son. I don't try to force it upon him. To me to encourage him to love his brother should be a good thing. I agree that yes he is eight and may be frustrated which is understandable. I just don't think that it should be ok that he takes it out on my 2 year old son. If their our any mothers out there you know how you are protective over your children no matter who it might be. If it was my neice , my friend son. I would not stand them to be nasty to my children." If you want to protect your 2 year old, then never allow the 8 year old to be alone with him. It's THAT simple. If dad refuses to acknowledge the problem, then it rests with YOU to protect the baby & make sure he's always in your sight when big brother is around. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a happy little family, but if he (the 8 year old) does not want that, it is going to backfire to force it. I believe he does know right from wrong & he has anger, resentment issues... maybe from how his mother expresses, directly or inadvertently. He is manipulative if he changes face when dad comes around the corner & I agree with Sylvia that is a dangerous child that does that. (reminiscent of "the good son") Lovehadley has a great point that leaving is probably not the best idea since the child only comes over every other weekend and leaving could place the younger child in jeopardy when he would visit. The bottom line is that unless mom & dad are willing to work together to find out why their son is so aggressive & deal with it, then the only solution is to never allow your baby to alone with him. Yes, he was part of the package as you & your kids were part of a package, but YOU and your DH accepted each other's package... the kids don't get a choice. He didn't choose the package so how can you expect him to accept you as you've accepted him. You are the adult.

I've owned and used one for the past ten years...love it especially for cutting potatoes when making scalloped potatoes. EXCEPT I took the whole side of my ring finger and nail off about 2 months ago and have been fearful of using it since :( I'd always been uber careful, but the potatoes are too round at first to use the guard and I'm too lazy to cut them in half. It happened so fast I really don't know how it did happen. Sheesh, it took a good month for it to heal and wore a finger guard round the clock so as not to bump it...cuz that hurt like all get out!