You cannot possibly diagnose the problem as scale or aphids from the information provided. There could be a hundred or more possible causes of what is so perfunctorily described. Amanda, if you want a good answer post photos and more information. We work for free here; but we are not soothsayers or magicians.

I presume there's a reason why this child is in fulltime daycare? You and your husband both work? Any chance one of you could change their schedule so the need for putting your child in daycare would be reduced? I'm all for children socializing with others, but truly, NO ONE teaches or cares for a child like a parent does. You're seeing that now. Children of that age do need a lot of time with their parents. As to naptime--your child must need the sleep or he wouldn't be napping so long. You say bedtime is a challenge. As a parent, and a family living teacher, I have to ask--do you know what the most common reason for difficult bedtimes is? It's that the child is OVERtired. what a lot of young parents don't understand is how a child's body works. When we get tired, we wind down and get sleepy. When toddlers get tired, their bodies release loads and loads of extra adrenalin--hence you have a hyper child who is too wired to go to sleep. There has even been a very reputable study that shows that many (not all, mind you, but about half) the cases of ADHD in children are NOT legitimate ADHD, but simply lack of adequate sleep. Does your child get a full 12 hours of sleep daily (adding up the naptime and bedtime?) Even if he is, it's possible he's one of those who truly does need a little more sleep than 'average'. However, what you're describing about the daycare is totally unacceptable. You're describing a facility where the workers don't care about the child or parents, where they're there just putting in time to collect a paycheck, where they're happy doing as little as possible (a sleeping child is one they don't have to: care for, amuse, watch, etc). The problems you've noticed all come down to the same thing--the daycare workers DO NOT WANT to do their job. I wouldn't allow someone with that attitude to dogsit my pet, let alone care for the most precious thing in my life. It may be time to look into other alternatives--as I suggested, perhaps a schedule change at work. Or maybe there's a family member you trust who would be glad to watch your child for the same $$$ you're paying the daycare. Or you may have to go further afield and find a different daycare center (even if you have to drive some to get there) or a retired person in your neighborhood who is more responsible than the place you're currently using. Good luck! You mentioned your husband--if you are both working, I urge you to sit down and crunch the numbers. Unless you're a really high-end executive, or in some other high paying job, you may find, when you do the math, that you're going to work for just a few cents an hour. Add up: the cost of daycare, the higher taxes you pay, the cost of transportation, the cost of going to work (clothes, union dues, buying lunches out, work parties, gifts for coworkers, etc), the cost of being out of the house hours a day (buying more takeout/prepared foods, hiring others to do stuff around the house like yard work, painting, repairs, etc). When I got pregnant, we did the calculations--and we figured that I'd be going to work for $2000/year or less. Add to that, the fact that you're turning the care and raising of your child over to strangers--it wasn't worth it to us. It made sense financially for me to stay home. It made even more sense to use for me to be the one caring for our daughter, teaching her academically, being the one to educate her in morals and ethics--no one does all that like a fulltime mom. There's a reason why this country is having a lot of the problems it is (crime, irresponsibility, unwed parents, abusive relationships), and IMO, a big part of that is that children are NOT being raised by their parents, the way they have been in the past. Good luck

mistykate, I agree with the others that this is not typical behavior for a 10 year old but not necessarily that it's a crisis. It sounds like something from Supernanny which I find a very helpful show. Not that it's important but kids in other cultures around the world co-sleep with parents for a lot longer than we expect in the USA. Before I would take SD to the pediatrician, I would ask the pediatrician first what they thought. My DS7 went through a phase of "ghosts" "men in black coats" "monsters in the closet" (this one came straight out of the Monsters Inc. movie) although he was a lot younger then. DH and I made a big ceremony of throwing out these "invaders." I'm sure it's different for a ten year old. I'm not trying to be flip but check out Supernanny. Plus a good incentive plan, movie tickets, special treats etc. for each night she spends in her own room with her sister.

Kids are funny. My DGS turned 2 in January, and he's just as happy playing with sticks and retractable tape measures as he is with his toys. Electronics are something else entirely and his parents have had to curb his enthusiasm with that. Here are some gifts that were hits with him since he loves school buses and Thomas the Train Engine. Fisher Price Little People School Bus. Thomas train set and the Brio train set. My daughter got him the trains and track for Christmas. I'm not sure if both sets of trains will work on the same track. There was some question about that at Christmas. I'm not sure they do. I bought him Playhut's Thomas the Train Engine Play Hut. He loves that when they put it up. Mega Blocks First Builders Big Building Bag. He's had that for a while now and plays with it all the time. They're kind of like the old Duplo blocks but more colorful. They make artificial fruit and vegetables that can be "cut" with a plastic knife on a cutting board. His other GM gave him that. I was a bit leery of the knife idea but he really loved it. Get the fruit/veggies that are joined together with velcro. It makes a neat sound when you "cut" into them. I think the others use magnets. I bought him a bright yellow slinky last week. He liked that. Good Easter Basket item. He has a baby doll, plastic head, hands and feet, but a soft body that's he's had for over a year now. It was really cute when he was smaller and would cover the doll and pat it to sleep. The pats were pretty hard. He still takes it and his teddy to his crib every night. I bought him a little kite which I think he'll really like, but we haven't flown it yet. One book that I got him which I think is cute is Even Firefighters Go to the Potty. I bought something called the Kaboost Portable Chair Booster to have at my house in lieu of a high chair. That's been working out fine now that's he's bigger. Just something to think about so you don't have to deal another high chair. Amazon sells them.