My Aunt Passed Away

16 years ago

My Aunt Joan passed away March 27 at 1:30 am in St. Louis, Missouri

My Aunt Joan was 86 years old which came as a surprise to me. LOL I thought she was only 81 years old! She was my Dad's youngest sister. Their Mom died when my Aunt Joan was 7 months old and because my Grandfather couldn't take care of 5 young children they were sent to live with their Mom's sister's excpet for my Aunt Joan who was adopted by friends in Michigan. My Dad and his brother ran away from their Aunt and went home to live with my Grandpa.

My Aunt Margaret always kept tabs on her little sister and part of the adoption was that my Aunt Joan had to visit her Mother's family in Windsor which she hated to do. She didn't like her Aunt's at all. LOL When she was old enough to stand up for herself she refused to go. LOL My Dad always kept in touch with his little sister too.

It's funny because even though my Aunt Joan didn't grow up with her sisters it was amazing how much alike they were right down to their mannerisms and the expressions they used and they were stubborn to boot. LOL I inherited that gene too. LOLOL

My Aunt Joan and Uncle Chuck moved their family to St. Louis and I would visit them often and actually took my first airline flight in 1974 to spend a week with them. I have been back many times since.

One of the last times I visited my Aunt Joan she wasn't very nice to me and I was hesitant to see her again but my cousin Kurt told me she had changed and wouldn't remember what she did and thankfully she didn't so we had a nice visit.

A couple of weeks ago my Aunt was in the hospital recovering from a fall when she had a massive stroke which left her totally paralysed. For the last 11 days she hasn't been able to eat or drink anything so we knew it would just be a matter of days. Her heart and pulse stayed strong though right to the end.

The visitation is today and the funeral tomorrow and I won't be able to fly to St. Louis. My Sister Marjorie was really close to my Aunt Joan and lived with her for many years and she can't get to the funeral either because she is out of town. I feel terrible that none of my family will be at the funeral.

I just want to thank you for the special thoughts and prayers you offered my Aunt Joan on my other post last week.

Anne

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joyfulguy
16 years ago
Sorry to hear of the loss of your dear Aunt Joan, Anne.

Unfortunately, one of the aspects of loving is the hurting when separation happens.

Which leads some to keep their distance - to avoid the hurt later.

Which means that they miss out on a lot of the closeness, loving and happiness in the meantime.

It's too bad that your family had the disruption that they had to deal with, long years ago ... often the actions that we do at one time have long-lasting consequences, don't they?

I'm sorry, too, that none of your family will be able to be there for the funeral.

Good wishes for the days ahead, ((((((Anne)))))).

ole joyful
Linda Wayman
16 years ago
Anne, I'm very sorry for your loss. .
My condolences to you and your family.

Linda
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mcmann
16 years ago
It's always so sad when you experience the loss of a family member and I'm sure it's even harder when you can't be there. I hope your memories help console you.
sandy_in_ia
16 years ago
OklaMoni
16 years ago
Hello Anne

I am sorry you can't go to the funeral, but glad you got to see her again, after you two had some sort of problem.

This way, you both had a chance to reconnect, and you hopefully have mostly happy memories.

I remember when you flew to St.Louis the last time.

Take yourself a few hankies, and have a nice cry. It's good for the soul. Best remedy I came up with, when far away relatives passed away.

Please accept my condolences.

Moni
caroline94535
16 years ago
I'm so sorry for you loss, Anne. I'll be thinking about you today.
Cherryfizz
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16 years ago
Thank you.

I just got off the telephone with a florist in Ballwin, Missouri and I ordered flowers to be sent to the funeral home. I ordered 2 large single orchids - the kind you would wear to a prom and the florist is going to display the orchids on river rocks in a glass cube. I found my Aunt's obituary in the St. Louis Post Dispatch newspaper online early this morning - I'm amazed that I remembered the name of the St. Louis newspaper my Aunt used to read. LOL
The obituary stated in lieu of flowers to make a donation somewhere but I thought I would like to send flowers as well.

I've contacted one family member from each of my Aunt's brothers and sisters so that they can relay the news to their siblings. Seems the only time we talk to each other these days is when a family member passes away which is kind of sad. Whenever we hear each others voices on the other end of the phone we know the news isn't going to be good. LOL

Thank you for your condolences.

Anne
Mickey15
16 years ago
I'm sorry about your aunt Anne.
Hugs,
Tammy
imabest
16 years ago
Im thinking of you today Anne I'm sorry you have lost another family memeber.....
Take care and may God Bless your Aunt she is in a better place now and at peace.hugs for you Kathy
gramzeeinmd
16 years ago
Anne, I am sending some special thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
Deb
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Kathsgrdn
16 years ago
I'm very sorry for your loss.
dances_in_garden
16 years ago
I am sorry you couldn't go to be with your family Anne. (((Hugs))
bestlawn
16 years ago
Velleen78
16 years ago
DH and I send our sympathy and will remember you in prayer. God Bless
Charlee_MO
16 years ago
So sorry to learn this, Anne. My last Aunt passed away on March 5th of this year. Now her husband, my Mom's brother isn't doing well at all. Their oldest daughter passed away in December and their youngest daughter has been staying with them since 12-31-2007. She has really been going through so much with them both. (sorry to add all of this)

My special thoughts are with you and your family.

Hugs,
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donna37
16 years ago
Sorry for your loss, Anne. (((Anne)))
shea
16 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss, Anne. It sounds like you have many special memories of Aunt Joan, and the times you spent together. And the orchid arrangement sounds lovely! I'm praying that He will give you comfort. (((Anne)))
margad
16 years ago
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
grammahony
16 years ago
My sympathy to you and your family Anne. Your floral offering sounds beautiful to me.
I'm glad you did go see her again too. You'll feel better for it now.
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Eliza_ann_ca
16 years ago
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time Anne.Cherish all the special memories you have and YES...a good cry always helps.
kacram
16 years ago
I'm sorry, Anne.
LorifromUtah
16 years ago
Ahhh Anne, I'm sorry.
((Anne))
It's never easy to lose a family member.

My thoughts are with you darlin...

Lori
trinitytx
16 years ago
Anne, you have such a wonderful way to tell a story. I love your perception of things. Honest, yet very soft.
I am sorry your aunt has passed away, but you have wonderful memories, and it would have not been the same without her in your life.

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joyfulguy
16 years ago
Sending good thoughts and prayers for you and your family, Anne.

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brenda_in_tx
16 years ago
I'm very sorry for the loss of your beloved aunt.
margad
16 years ago
So sorry to hear about your aunt, Anne.

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