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What do you think about JUNK style?

frenchdressing
15 years ago



My mother has a unique way of decorating. She is very clever about how she puts things together. Most of the furniture in her home is from flea markets, dumpsters, and second hand stores.

Do you like junk style? I think it is an art form to be able to mix and match pieces together and create a home with repurposed objects.

Here is a link that might be useful: Junk style

Comments (118)

  • flyingflower
    15 years ago

    I will summarize how this all came about...I started to notice a pattern in the threads created by frenchdressing. Whenever she asked a question there was a link to her blog with the same topic. On the face of it it appeared no different than other spammers who have shown up here doing basically the same thing. They start a thread and then link to their website where you find related material. When I clicked on her link I was sent to the same place each time, created by her, with that topic as the lead story (so to speak). So naturally I wondered if it her posts were just ploys to get us to look at her website/blog. And that's when I started asking questions. How she came to know of this forum has nothing to do with it. If we never question these things we could be in for a daily dose of blog advertising, from who knows how many that might follow her lead.

  • tinam61
    15 years ago

    for your answer. I personally love decorating blogs, not that everyone does of course. I know we each interpret things differently. To me, the link at the end of her post is more like an example or illustration of the subject of her post.

    I've certainly worn out my welcome on this topic. I think I've made my views abundantly clear LOL.

    tina

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  • graywings123
    15 years ago

    This can be soooo easily resolved by frenchdressing removing the link to her blog, n'est-ce pas?

  • southernheart
    15 years ago

    But why should she have to, if her linked blog post is related to the post here on GW?

  • flyingflower
    15 years ago

    I have nothing against decorating blogs but I don't need them spoon fed to me here. Google is perfectly capable of supplying me with all the blogs I want by merely searching on those key words, Lord knows there's a plethora of them out there. That's not what I come to this forum for. I like the homey atmosphere here where people show you their CL finds or ask which lamp they should buy. I like it when members post photos they've taken on the fly, without worrying about optimal lighting,artitic value, or whether or not it is good enough for Martha Stewart Living Magazine...and they're flattered when you say you're going to print it for your files. I simply do not want to see this forum turn into a tradeshow for professional bloggers.

    Here is a link that might be useful: You want decorating blogs, here's lots of them

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    Why don't all of you self appointed arbiters of GW etiquette allow those of us who don't enjoy rudeness and unnecessary drama let iVillage, as they're meant to do, moderate this forum?

  • leahcate
    15 years ago

    Can't say I feel I've been spammed or tricked. I just know I like looking at pretty pictures. If it were not for someone here referencing Cote de Texas Id not have found her blog, and I love it. From her I discovered The Inspired Room and her 'Drive Bys', and from them both Velvet and Linen, etc.etc.etc. I do not google for blogs, and appreciate coming upon a good one by serendipity ( blog there, too I think!:>) Are they (the bloggers) selling anything? Are they going to/have become commercial? I don't know and I don't care as long as they keep giving me the pretty pics! As for seeing a link to purchasing something, why, I like that, too....as long as it's not in-my-face. I like to shop, and how nice to find something via a site/blog where items offered are of the bloggers style that I'm enjoying viewing.

  • allison0704
    15 years ago

    Magnaverde is also an excellent example. He has a website where you can call and pay for decorating advice, yet most here love him. He's been told numerous times he should write a book, his photos are so professional, etc yet he is not chastised. Willowdecor has a blog that has been featured in three major newspapers and she posts her link all the time. I do not get the double standards.

    I'd like to publicly thank those of you who have emailed me on this subject (thread). I'm sure your kind words would touch Corey/Frenchdressing also.

  • southernheart
    15 years ago

    flyingflower, I think that there's room on this board for many different likes and dislikes. I happen to like the blog recommendations and links, and the CL posts, too, but I noticed that another GW member shared her preference to not see CL posts on this forum the other day (in another thread).

    I can respect that different people like/dislike various aspects of this board, but I don't think it's up to any of us to decide who posts or shares what. Perhaps it's best to just scroll-on-by the things that you personally don't care for?

  • angelcub
    15 years ago

    I have nothing against decorating blogs but I don't need them spoon fed to me here. Google is perfectly capable of supplying me with all the blogs I want by merely searching on those key words, Lord knows there's a plethora of them out there. That's not what I come to this forum for.

    Then you should just skip those threads with links to blogs if it's not to your liking. But it is not up to you to decide who gets to link to what on this forum.

    I like the homey atmosphere here where people show you their CL finds or ask which lamp they should buy. I like it when members post photos they've taken on the fly, without worrying about optimal lighting,artitic value, or whether or not it is good enough for Martha Stewart Living Magazine...and they're flattered when you say you're going to print it for your files. I simply do not want to see this forum turn into a tradeshow for professional bloggers.

    Again, this is easily accomplished by skipping those threads. No one forces your fingers to click on those threads, nor are you being forced to read them.

    This is a public forum and it still says Gardenweb at the top, not flyingflower, in case you'd forgotten. You don't get to be the arbiter or moderator of what is posted or linked on this forum. Gardenweb isn't asking you to do so and as has been clearly shown on this thread, neither are most of the posters who enjoy this forum.

    Your insinuations and rude comments to frenchdressing are wholly unwarranted regardless of how many times you've felt annoyed by her links to her blog. The only thing you should be posting is an apology.

  • flyingflower
    15 years ago

    southern...I plan on scrolling by, as I do on many occassions when a topic doesn't interest me. I am well aware it is not my decision who posts on this forum. I gave my opinion, which sparked debate. There's nothing wrong with that.

    I'd also like to publicly thank those of you who have emailed me on this subject (thread). Your kind words have touched me. lol

  • leahcate
    15 years ago

    FF, I liked what you said to southernheart '...gave your opinion,sparked debate, etc'. Very true. That last line, however, was mean-spirited. I didn't like that. Let's all step back from this, and come back feeling lighter.

  • mitchdesj
    15 years ago

    I think this whole debate is very appropriate, since blogs are becoming more and more commonplace, I found it very enlightening to read everyone's take on it and it does raise a few question of ethics or at least intent ( for which I have no answers or comments, I'm on the fence on this one ) I think blogs are becoming an extension of a business card and a cv, a way to reach out and show who you are. Do it well, make it attractive and people will want to read you; I know I personally am fascinated by a great blog.

    I think it's still a grey zone for forum rules whether a blog can be considered a form of spam or not, depending on what links you provide. But I really don't think anyone was out of line for opening the debate on blog links in general, it had crossed my mind.

  • igloochic
    15 years ago

    Well if there is a link on the blog that does feed FD's pocket book...that would be spam and would be wrong, per TOS. I have to say I didn't delve into the blog that deep because it's not my style (it's lovely work, but not my style). In that case I'd have to agree with FF entirely. Again, I'm not sure because I haven't seen it.

    I'm a big nerd about following the rules. If she's not, than it would be lovely to see her go ahead and follow the in the future :o) If she is...well then that's ok as well, but there are rules and all of us should appreciate it if someone helps folks out by pointing them out on occasion.

    FF you can't win with the JB's of the world my dear. Heck, at least you're just mean, verses me who it turns out is mean and talks about the cost of things too much :oP Sometimes people just look for a reason to pick...and you and I both asked for it LOL Thanks for trying :oP

  • bellaflora
    15 years ago

    I wasn't gonna say anything but, what the heck...

    I like her blog. If you don't want to click on the link. don't click. Even if you are on the blog, if you have no desire to click on the advertisement sidebar, don't click. Ladies -- Your right to click or not to click is not imfringed upon so I don't see what's the fuss? It doesn't matter even when people put a link to where they may stand to make some $$ -- just don't click on it. Don't blame other people for your clickomania. Just because there's a click button does not mean you have to click on it! :->

    A stranger who posted a msg saying "here's some stinking good deal on fabric" is considered spam. Now somebody who's been here for a while posted the same msg w/ the same link is greeted with "wow--thanks for the headup". You do not know if the 2nd person is linked w/ that site or not. People here (who worked for bombay company) have posted sale for bombay company when it was going out of business and that was okay. People here have posted links to fabric guru, ebay store, etc.... There is no way you can tell if the poster is affiliated w/ that business or not.

    In this case, it's impossible to enforce the rules when the rules themselves are not clear. While Frenchdressing has a linking bar on her blog, she does not stand to make any profit unless we click on it. So, if none of us ever click on it, then she's not making any money. So personally, I find it's a bit outrageous to accuse somebody on the POSSIBILITY that they may make $$ off us especially when we are the one in control of the clicking. :->

    If you want to talk a/b being forced-feed, let's talk a/b POP-UP. Now that's something I truly hate!! You can't even click it away.

    Back to the topic at hand, Junk style probably == the same as cottage style (apart from Shabby chic). I think Junk style is more rustic, country while shabby chic is more romantic & perhaps w/ more british & french influence.

    A very popular & au courant style in LA is modern rustic, or modern country which has its roots in Junk style - I think.

    For me, the most important dilemma is how to make Junk style, less junky. :-> How to elevate a "junky" piece to an art piece, that's the question. The solutions (so far, for me) have been

    (1) use it sparringly
    (2) gives it lots of room to breath
    (3) mix it w/ newer, less crusty stuff

    For example, mixing crusty old farmhouse dining table with modern metal Bertoia chairs, or having an old chippy china hutch in a modern kitchen. An old walnut rocking chair, in a contemporary family room. It lends an element of surprise to the space.

    I admit I 'm not too crazy a/b a room where *everything* is old & crusty & junky. It reminds me of my FIL's old shed. :->

  • frenchdressing
    Original Author
    15 years ago

    I agree with your idea of JUNK STYLE Bella Flora. It is a art form to be able to mix old with new, especially when someone can take a few old things, let's say an old paint bucket and a wobbly wooden ladder, and make it look more than just junk. If you have a good eye it can become country modern. I agree with you it needs to be used sparringly, not cluttered.

  • cliff_and_joann
    15 years ago

    Jeeze, This is beyond ridiculuos. Is FD blog really bothering anybody, besides Flyingflower? Is it effecting this forum in a negative way? Are you loosing sleep over it? Is she raking in the big bucks as a result of her posts?

    I've had a website for 11 years and it's in my profile. I guess I'll just have to line up along side of FD, and have Flyingflowers opinion spark some more mean spirited debates on what's acceptable and what's not!
    Maybe Malverdene will stand along side of us as well...

    Live and Let Live, for heavens sake.
    Joann

  • allison0704
    15 years ago

    Perfect description, Bellaflora.

  • cooperbailey
    15 years ago

    It's too bad this thread got off topic of junk style, which many here are interested in, according to the CL posts we see when folks rescue a piece and primp it up and make it lovely- like the desk painted black with toile fabric and Renofans secretary that had seen better days, not to mention allisons glass balls. It is so much fun, especially when someone looks at you like you are totally nuts for dragging it home, and you work on it and it becomes a star.
    A suggestion, next time something like this comes up, take it outside- over to the conversation side. That might work out and everyone can be happy. Or not. Just my 2 cents.

  • trancegemini_wa
    15 years ago

    "Posted by dilly dally: You have Amazon 'click throughs' on your blog site. You make money on them. The more people you can drive to your site the more likley someone will click on the book links that go directly to Amazon and the more money you make"

    I think some of the contention is just an ill informed understanding of running a web site but you need to put this into perspective, no one gets rich off click through links and many people use them to cover some of the costs of their site. If you look deeper the blog site has a monthly fee structure and when frenchdressing said she doesnt make money off her site, it's easy to believe because the money made from the click throughs most likely may not even cover the monthly fee. It's not some magical goldmine of money that some people think and I doubt if frenchdressing gets much revenue from it at all so all this fuss about an amazon link is way over the top.

  • goldeneyedaisy
    15 years ago

    FYI... if you go to the conversation side, there is a thread posted by someone (looks like this person is a long time member) with a link to her her new book (if I'm not mistaken). I guess that is not considered SPAM since nobody mentioned anything about it. I am not picking on that person, BTW (none of my business, since I'm not going to buy that book anyways). I'm just trying to show how different people are treated on this forum. Shame on you FF and others!

    Frenchdressing, thank you for posting the link. I'm in love with junk style and I find a lot of inspiration in your pictures!

  • Bumblebeez SC Zone 7
    15 years ago

    I saw that too goldeneye. Ditto to what you said.

  • southernheart
    15 years ago

    I've posted a link to FabricGuru's sale here before, because it was an incredible deal that I wanted to share with my GW friends (as I recall, that post didn't have any responses or maybe one, and I've participated here for a long time). I love hearing about good deals, and appreciate when someone shares them. I have nothing to do with FabricGuru (I'm in TN, and I think they're in AL), and I don't assume that every goodhearted soul who posts about discounts at HomeGoods or Marshalls or on eBay has anything to do with those, either. I'm just glad that someone will enjoy benefitting from that shared news.

    There seem to be some many unwritten (and self-imposed) "rules" here now that it's really hard to have a good time participating. I work hard and come here for fun, just as many people here do. I simply want to see pretty photos and hear about what people are working on and see their progress photos (or what is going on in their lives), and perhaps cheer someone on if they're a bit "stuck" or down about their decorating projects, or even their life issues. All of the nit-picking and negativity here lately is just a bit much. There is enough of that IRL to have it also bombarding legitimate participants on an internet board. jmo~

  • emmatux
    15 years ago

    Wow, I just read through this thread and just feel sad about in what direction this forum seems to be heading. I'm a short term lurker here since about Sept. I've really enjoyed this forum and all of your creativity. I do not have the decorating "eye" and have learned so much in the very few months I've been lurking. Thank you all.

    I signed in today because I am so turned off by all the "snarky" comments lately. Last week, I remember just looking at my computer and wondering if it was a full moon? There were many threads that had taken a confrontational turn. I'm sad. I can find many other places these days to experience confrontation if that's what I'm looking for. Here I just enjoyed the company of a great group who had shared passions and enjoyed exchanging their questions, successes and choices. It's a bright spot in my very routine day. I hope this trend is just a blip and this forum can return to being a supportive, caring place where everyone is welcome and encouraged to share their ideas and experiences.

    Emma

  • flyingflower
    15 years ago

    shame on me for what....for going against the Groupthink that exists on this forum? Whenever someone expresses a differing opinion they're squashed and told to step back into formation. Not good, ladies, to stomp on discenting opinion.

  • bellaflora
    15 years ago

    southernheart:

    I didn't mean to pick on you s & fabric guru. I'm always happy to find a good deal no matter what's the source. I am actually glad that you posted it because I never knew a/b fabric guru, & thanks to you I got some great fabric from them. :->

  • southernheart
    15 years ago

    bellaflora, thank you for your post. :) I didn't take your message personally, and am sorry if *you* felt called out about that. I was just trying to show an example of how the general mood and tone has changed around here, and not for the better.

    Thank you again for your message~

  • sergeantcuff
    15 years ago

    I know I am chiming in a bit late, but it seems common sense could prevail here. Many people post links to businesses. Where would the line be drawn? It might be helpful if those who have blogs (it seems like everyone seems to!), would say in their post "Here's a link to my blog". Then others would know what it is and decide whether or not click on the link.

    It is not a crime to promote oneself, but it is more polite to be upfront about it.

    The worst offense of all are bloggers who post an answer to a question, and conclude their post with a link to their blog. I've clicked on such links, thinking that I will receive more info concerning my question, and it's just their blog! Tacky!

  • leahcate
    15 years ago

    Message to FF and anyone else who wishes to make a point:

    We ALL know the rule: "It's not what you say,but how you say it." Have you not ever stepped back from speaking with a co-worker, child, spouse,friend, and thought, "now take a deep breath and say it calmly and politely, in a non-confrontational, impersonal manner"? That, FF, is truly the "Groupthink" you find on this forum, and I, for one, like it very much. It's been said many times: words should be chosen with delicate care online....a place where tone of voice and facial expression are absent leaves a yawning great space for misunderstandings. We do have differing views on many things, and must take care in how we express them, here, and everywhere, if we wish to make our point...but here especially.

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    I love Junk Style although I prefer to call it vintage - junky, crusty, or not.
    I remember taking my DH with me to a barn where I had to pick up a load of 'goodies' for my shop.
    He was incredulous when he saw the pile - of what he called crap - and offered to drive me straight to dump.
    Complained about it the whole drive home.
    He had to eat crow the next day when I sold more than half of it in the shop and has never questioned my judgement again.

    I also love all of the links that have been shared on this forum too.
    Thanks to everyone who has shared their finds, deals, ideas, blogs, etc.
    I've discovered and bought, unfortunately, a lot of things I wouldn't have otherwise.

  • Oakley
    15 years ago

    Fairytalebaby, I wasn't going to jump into this fray but after what you wrote, I just have to say I agree!!!

    There is a clique here, and most of them are professionals or extremely talented w/lots of money to decorate, or both. Frankly, I'm more in awe of the smaller homes which are tastefully decorated.

    One of the first topics I did was on decorating the toilet, and yes, I was serious. I wanted to know what people put on top of their toilets. Thankfully a few posters showed me some beautiful pictures, but the majority practically laughed me off the board and the replies were over 100 with NOTHING but making fun of my topic. How nice.

    What makes it worse is I am in the middle of a MAJOR remodel and add-on. Something most people can only dream about. My life long dream to get what *I* want came true.

    Granted, the toilet question wasn't part of the remodel, but when I do a topic I am very serious. But since I'm not a pro at decorating, I'm basically ignored. I still do topics though, and hope someone helps me, but usually they only get a handful of replies.

    It seems if one doesn't post a picture then no one gets help. I can't post a picture now (well I can of the new room but don't know how to do it) but I still have to buy things to have them ready to be installed.

    I just don't understand why people here go out of their way making others feel invalid. I'll still post though and hope the kind ones will help me out.

    And I might as well throw this out also. Les, this is NOT a diss to you. lol. I don't know who Les is or what he/she does, but I swear everyone takes his/her opinions as GOSPEL. Les actually replied to me for the first time yesterday, and I was floored. WHY? Why should I feel that way? Like I said, I don't know anything about Les and why I should fall at Les' feet like everyone else does. Maybe someone should clue me in? Les, are you a decorator? A published decorator or something? lol.

    I've rambled long enough. I do hope people will be more considerate though. Who gives a rat's patootie if someone links to their blog? If it's got pretty pictures I'll be glad! :)

    Enough with the cliques, though. It's unbecoming.

  • awm03
    15 years ago

    joanie, your DH story made me laugh -- thanks for that. I bought a $20 CL wood & metal chandelier yesterday. Wish you could have seen my DH's face as I was raving about how perfect it is. He was amused and confused at the same time :)

    I hope when I die that my sons have a tag sale to sell all my second-hand treasures. It gives me great pleasure to think that some day somebody could say, "Look at this great thing I got at a tag sale -- and it was only $5!" Long live junk!

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    Awm - the thrill of the hunt is fun, isn't it?
    The worst offenders in the barn pile were a pair of wooden chairs.
    Absolutely adorable in a very twisted way, I wish I had thought to take pics of all of my finds through the years.
    Anyway, they were faded red paint and the seats, at one time, were caned.
    Someone attempted to recane them, I'm thinking it was a drunken spider because that's how good they looked - lol.
    Anyway, they were the first things to sell that Saturday morning and my customer loved them just the way they were (like I did).

  • User
    15 years ago

    LOL ... I certainly don't think we "fall at Les's feet." She's a talented individual with a good eye, and she's helped many of us envision things in a different way than we might ordinarily. You might not have intended your statements as disrespectful to Les, but I do think some of your wording was a tad strong.

  • awm03
    15 years ago

    joanie, you must start taking pictures of these fascinating things :)

    I'm a history buff and just enjoy old, mundane things for their eras. That something can be passed down for years through the hands of total strangers and be enjoyed or found useful along the way is intriguing. Uplifting too.

  • frenchdressing
    Original Author
    15 years ago

    Someone's junk is always another one's treasures.
    AWM03 "...I hope when I die that my sons have a tag sale to sell all my second-hand treasures. It gives me great pleasure to think that some day somebody could say, "Look at this great thing I got at a tag sale -- and it was only $5!" Long live junk!"

    That is a perfect thought. I know I for one am the happiest when I find someone's treasures for a song! Your thought I will pass on, it is a good way of looking at things.
    We are only the guardians for a short while.

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    awm, I should but I'm not a big taker of pics (lazy) and then when I do, it's usually a crummy one with my phone.
    I did score a nice little piece at our Humane Society's thrift shop the other day.
    It's a small, ivory pottery, bulb bowl/planter.
    I've had and sold quite a few that were McCoy and the likes but this one was the first that I've ever seen stamped Japan.
    Cost me a whole $3 - woo hoo!

    p.s. January 8 is mine :-)

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    Posted by frenchdressing:
    Someone's junk is always another one's treasures.

    Isn't that the truth?
    When I opened my shop, Vintage had to be a big part of the mix.
    To me, old things have soul and presence and add that bit of je ne sais quoi that's missing when everything is bright and shiny and new.

    I love repurposing old things too.
    My next project will be tealight/votive sconces made with old glass insulators that will be mounted on old wood plinth blocks.
    I'll mount them with wire and unusual beads.

    I have to stop...I'm supposed to be painting the kitchen right now :-O

  • oceanna
    15 years ago

    I love it, and enjoyed your blog. But I call it Cottage Style, not junk style, which seems insulting.

    For those of you who like this style, I have posted several hundred photos of it in our Gallery to inspire your decorating. This thread includes shabby chic, country, modern country, beach, cabin, and so on...

    Here is a link that might be useful: Cottage Style

  • walkin_yesindeed
    15 years ago

    I personally love DIY style, and stuff, although my own style and interest are trending far more modern than I used to. (It's partly my house, which is modern, and so I'm giving in rather than fighting it...) But I am regularly amazed and impressed by the "junque" styling I see here. Lots of talented folks here, and Frenchdressing and her mother are clearly among them!

    I think I'm the offender re posting a link to my book. I can't find the thread now, but I was just celebrating the fact that I had an Amazon page (still totally blown away by that, actually) and sharing it with people here -- I didn't intend for anyone to buy it. In fact, if I remember correctly, I told someone not to. It has absolutely nothing at all to do with decorating, btw. It's a historical monograph, and I'm working through the page proofs right now and can't stand the damn thing anymore, so I'd repeat my earlier advice not to buy it in case anyone's been sniffing glue lately and finds themselves tempted.

    fwiw, I think this thread has gotten kind of silly. Frenchdressing is clearly not intending to spam; she's intending to participate. Explaining the rules to her is fine, but there's no need for snark, and some posts here are snarky. She's a good egg. Let's all go obsess about Flyleft's new light fixture or something, and let this go.

  • mitchdesj
    15 years ago

    oakleyok, don't hold back, tell us really how you feel, lol !!!!!

    "It seems if one doesn't post a picture then no one gets help" you say.
    yes I'll agree on that one, the visual makes it so much easier !! otherwise, it's like shooting in the dark, imo............

    Les is a helpful person who has a good eye and I so admire her talent for furniture placement advice. I think she'll be flattered to read your impression of her, although she might be surprised at the impact you think she has.

    are there cliques here, I don't think so . I think large or small homes have to be comfortable in posting and not feel judged, either way. Show me grand and expensive, show me small and quaint, we need all types. I also think new posters have to jump in and participate, carve a spot for themselves, I find everyone pretty receptive if you're patient enough. I've been ignored many times, it happens.

    oakleyok, I'm sorry you felt slighted by the toilet top thread, I remember it,
    I can't remember if I posted to it. I posted a picture of an urinal I had in the powder room of a previous home and it turned into a big joke, but I was expecting it so I didn't mind, lol...

  • parma42
    15 years ago

    Walkin, I don't think the reference is about you, but something more recent. I do agree about letting this go. If there are some who don't concur, there is another thread about this subject on the conversations side.

    It gets kind of ridiculous when these threads deteriorate into whining about cliques and making assumptions (that are WAY off, as a matter of fact) about the people who are kind enough to respond to a person's post. Some have bemoaned their lack of attention on more than one occasion.

    I've only been here a bit over a year and there have been many people who haven't answered my posts. So what? I don't think that I'm that special to deserve 100% participation from all the people here.

    It has nothing to do with rich or poor, big house or small, professional or not. Just as IRL, people form bonds over their common interests and, of course, they will respond more to those they've known for years.

  • reno_fan
    15 years ago

    It has nothing to do with rich or poor, big house or small, professional or not. Just as IRL, people form bonds over their common interests and, of course, they will respond more to those they've known for years.

    Ditto ditto ditto. I'll add that yes, people are more apt to respond to photos. Decorating is a visual thing. I can offer almost NOTHING without seeing a photo. I also can't tell your style.

    I get really annoyed with the accusations of elitism and cliquishness. It's simply not true.

    Yes, there are people who've been here a long time. We've seen photos of each others' homes. We've seen various projects in the works, etc.

    Heck, I've never met AuntJen, but I "know" enough about her style from years spent on this board to see a Talavera Toilet and think immediately of her home. That's not cliquish, that's familiarity.

    I've never met Zipdee, but I know that when I see Jadeite green antique kitchen accessories, I think of her super cool retro kitchen immediately. Because she's in the "inner sanctum"? No! Of course not. It's because she routinely shares her progress with us, lets us peek at her photos, contributes frequently, etc.

    Lack of response on threads happens to everyone. It will happen more if the question is too vague. It will happen more if people can't see photos. It will happen more if we don't "know" your style.

    Hang around. Join in other conversations. Let us "see" your style, so that when you post a link to a dresser you're thinking about buying, we'll know if it would work with your house. Again, this is NOT cliquishness, this is familiarity.

    As far as the blogs, I don't see the big deal. People blog all the time about these things, and so what if FrenchDressing linked to hers? I honestly don't see what the uproar is all about.

  • goldeneyedaisy
    15 years ago

    Walkin_ I wasn't talking about your link (I meant something more recent). I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings though... I see nothing wrong with posting a link to share with your "virtual friends" things that you love and that bring you joy. I just wanted to point out that the same rules should apply to everyone. There were a few threads like this one lately and I really don't know what the fuss is about... Let's just treat each other with respect and we'll all be happy.

  • newdawn1895
    15 years ago

    I was just asking if anyone on here knew of some good blogs besides Cote de Texas the other day. I got a list of them and just absolutely love looking at them.

    I will be a regular on Frenchdressings too. Incidentally, I love your tag name. It's very clever and oh so cute.

    ....Jane

    Question? Why do women seem to gang up on eachother? Men don't have that problem.

  • joanie_b
    15 years ago

    Posted by newdawn1895:
    Question? Why do women seem to gang up on each other? Men don't have that problem.
    Well, I think men do the same thing.
    I just think they tend to be more aggressive - not phony passive aggressive.
    I, personally, am not interested enough in anybody that I'm not intimately related to.
    Not enough, anyway, to gang up on them.
    But...if *I* think you're a jerk or an idiot, I have no problem calling that card.

  • oceanna
    15 years ago

    Let's talk decorating, shall we?

    If anyone is interested, I just updated the Cottage Decor thread.

    Here is a link that might be useful: Show me your Cottage Decor

  • fauxchick56
    15 years ago

    About Junk: I started reading the reponses here and decided to stop as it was draining my creative energy!! So I am reponding only to junk style. My family and friends love "Junque". Nothing is more rewarding than finding some cast off item and using it in a fantastic way. Maybe it needs a good cleaning, some new molding, paint, or just a new purpose. I love the search, the purchase, and the make-over! There is one thing to remember though - some junk just can't be made better...it is and will always be junk! So select your junk carefully.

  • Ideefixe
    15 years ago

    Walkin--I too am Spartacus, er uh, I posted a link to a book I'm in. And I like Frenchdressing, junk style, fluffy kitties and single malt. Geeze.

    GW is owned by NBC, which is owned by GE. It's a huge multinational corporation that no doubt pollutes the earth and destroys homes of fairy creatures. FD's not making any fortune off her Amazon clicks, or not enough to take over the world.

    Some people aren't happy until everyone's unhappy.

  • oceanna
    15 years ago

    GW is owned by NBC, which is owned by GE.

    Ouch, that ruined my day. Bloody war profiteers.