Hoarding is a serious mental illness - LONG
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Comments (81)I'm having the same problem. Our neighbors house is a dump. We just bought our house almost a year ago. We are first time home buyers so we din't really investigate the neighbors house too much before we decided. Big mistak on our part. We are in no position to sell.. His house towers over our fence & the door that he uses to in and out is right there. we only have one way to get to the backyard and thats on his side. It's horrible. He has a crawl space under his house and you can see all the garbage under there. I can only imaging the rats. He has a dog that he keeps outside. I see a flea color on the dog (and those don't work- trust me I have 3 pets) We recently had to spend a bunch on money to have our house sprayed. I think the fleas are coming from his house because he also doesnt not cut his grass and everything is way over grown. Trash litters his yard and he doesnt not have the garbage man pick up his cans. So what it looks like is that he throws his garbage in the yard. sometimes I smell something burning- I think he burns the garbage that he does not throw in his yard. He has holes in his house. I saw birds going into it. Also, I always feel like he is staring at me. He put up black curtains on the side that we see. I hardly go out back anymore. Once he found out that we are sick of it and we told him that his property is bringing down everybody's value's of their homes in the neighborhood. He started to try and clean up a little bit. But his house is ruined and too old. It needs to be demolished. The sad thing is he has a 10 yr old boy that is forced to live like that. He has a hose going in his back windows. He refuses to sell his property and move. I looked up and found that he bought his house from someone (I'm thinking maybe his Mom) but he bought it for $10.00. So he probably refuses to move because he doesn't owe anything on it. I think were stuck. So I started to build lattice things that I attach to the top of our 6 ft wooden fence. We don't have much money to do all the work at once. So I'm doing slow.... I have big plans to block the view but it cost so much for building materials. This whole thing has me very stressed. And my anxiety levels are through the roof. I'm scared of him, I think he's a weirdo. He works during the day but he comes home at the same time everyday and does not leave his house till the next morning and on the weekends he never leaves. He comes outside when it gets dark. He put a dog house right next to our fence. I hate fleas, rats and I know they are over there. I have photos placed on a blog. Check it out....See MoreQuestion about those hoarding shows
Comments (51)My other is a hoarder, my grandmother and aunt are worse. I'm okay, but only because my boyfriend helps alot. Because of growing up in that environment, I can't see messes, dirt or piles. I can really only notice differences. In order to maintain my own house, I try and keep it as sterile as possible. When I have been good for a while, I'll put a few things on the counter that looks nice. Looking nice is my entire motivation for keeping it clean. But if I have a towel on the floor, I can't tell the difference between one towel and six of them until I notice I ran out of towels or its brought to my attention. I notice one dish in the sink, but not all of the dishes in the sink. And I cant see dust until I put something down and it leaves a mark, because it accumulates so slowly. For me, it isn't about wanting to keep things, and I think that most of these people are similar. There are plenty of excuses to avoid drastic change, and some of them include sentimentality. If they give you a reason why they want it, and they give themselves a reason to keep it, than they feel less pressured and more justified in their pattern. Change is terrifying. It is unexpected and unsettling and very hard to emotionally handle, especially when your possessions give you a feeling of security. In order to maintain my home I have to avoid sentimentality as much as possible. So I believe that they leave the place looking sterile in order for the hoarder in question to notice when there is one thing out of place, because once that one thing becomes two things, they can't see anything out of place. It is an incredibly hard concept to follow, but it is a real thing none the less....See MoreHoarding
Comments (78)Love "Hoarders" but it is intended to entertain its' audience (and the audiences viewing pleasure probably comes from different facets of the show). Best part for me is the family and I completely sympathize with them. Disorder or not to see someone you care about living like that must be very painful. Also to see someone choose garbage over their own well being and yours must be a little galling. I loved the daughter two weeks ago who was honest enough to admit that it was very hard to see her mother crying over failing to take care of a teddy bear given the circumstance she was living in and the impact it was having on her grown children. I particularly cherish the other daughter that week who was so very truthful when she said (in tears) I hope people don't think I live like this - how honest. I am not disputing that hoarding is a psychological disorder but so are many addictive behaviors and it is possible to get help and manage your illness. To see grown adults boohooing about their childhoods while living in absolute filth doesn't evoke a lot of sympathy from me but the families break my heart. I'll always remember the hoarder from the first season who had all the teddy bears, her friends were helping her and she accused one of doing things behind her back. If I had been that friend I would have laid her out, I couldn't believe her nerve. I loved this week when the organizer was actually incredulous when the guy whose family was living outside on the lawn because of a bed bug infestation had the nerve to express concern that the crew might damage the floors that for years had been covered with so much crap they couldn't be seen. Now that was a genuine response I could relate to. Many of these hoarders are not just choosing things over people they are choosing garbage over their children and spouses. That's a very painful and cruel reality. I'm sorry but abusive spouses and parents often maintain their love for their victims - however the reality is that violence is not an expression of love. Similarly I don't think making your children and spouse live in filth is an expression of love or regard for them. Anybody else clean up something or throw something away after an episode?...See MoreHoarding
Comments (15)I've seen this show a few times, but this is not the show that leaves me feeling "Wow--at least my house is not as messy or disgusting as their's." It's not a show that anybody should feel (for lack of a better word) "superior" after seeing. Because there's just no comparison here. These houses are a side effect of a mental disorder. We have the power to change things--for them, it's nearly impossible. And you might see a cleaner house at the end of the 60-minute show, but the odds are stacked against them that it will look that way the next week, the next month, the next year. If it makes you want to rush around your house and clean or declutter, well, whatever gets you through the day, I guess. All I'm saying is that "Hoarders" isn't even in the same category as "Clean House" and the old "Clean Sweep" kinds of shows--those are the ones I can get my "Oh boy, gotta go through that closet and finally put together that Goodwill bag!" feeling. I really have come to the point where I hate seeing this show on. Its akin to some show that would have you looking in on a facility for the mentally disturbed. Do you stare at the emotionally or physically disabled? Maybe "Hoarders" is designed to breed compassion for the less-fortunate, or to educate people that if you've walked into this situation, you can't just hand the person a box of jumbo-sized trash bags and help start tossing stuff into them, that the situation is more complicated than that. I dunno, but it seems to me that the only thing the network wants through it is ratings....See MoreFrankie_in_zone_7
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