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Daughter Lying

14 years ago

I am having a problem with my 6 year old DD. I have caught her lying MANY times. There were the little ones like when I asked if she brushed her teeth. She would say yes, but then if I asked to check her mouth she would clap her hand over it (obviously didn't brush and didn't want me to smell the bad breath). I expect that with kids-heck I did it when I was a kid too. But now she has graduated to bigger and (not better) ones.

She had carrots for dinner one night and I told her to finish them before she could have dessert. I was emptying the trash and there were the carrots. I asked her if she had eaten them and she said yes. I asked if she was sure. Yes. I asked why I found carrots in the trash. She didn't know. Told me her stuffed animal had put them there etc etc lie after lie. Even when confronted with the truth, she was still lying to my face. Another time telling my DH I said something, that I NEVER said.

My DH thinks I am overreacting, but I am afraid this will just lead to more and more bad behavior. Today it's about brushing teeth, tomorrow it's sneaking out, doing drugs etc.

I try and tell her, (in the moment and later when I am more calm) tell me the truth about things-if a lamp gets broken, if you swiped a cookie from the pantry etc. I will be more mad if you are lying to me. Lying is wrong, but I don't think she "gets" it??? People will stop believing and trusting you if they catch you lying to them. She has been punished, time outs, sent to her room without desserts. Things like that, but I"m afraid it's not working.

Did your kids do this? Is this a phase she's going through because of her age? Any advice?

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