ok renaruto this may be a case in which you provided way too much info and details about your ex wife to your new girlfriend and now she is using that against you which imo is immature and only shows how insecure she really is, i only say that because this exact situation has happened to me before only thing different is that my son is 5 yo and is unable to keep a cell phone....women can be very good at hiding their true feelings about certain issues to get you to open up to them and disclose unnecessary information and due to their own insecurities will make you the bad guy when all you were doing from the get go is being totally honest ...i do believe that sometimes theres such a thing as being too honest...did you really have to tell your new gf that your ex wife still wants you?... by saying that you set your self up for constant drama and nagging everytime she contacts you whether it is important or not...any way the answer to your problem lies in your heart i made my decision to make my son a priority and had to break up with my previous gf the good thing was that i am now with a woman who understands and supports my decision to be a good father and doesnt question the communication between me and my sons mother it is truly a beautiful feeling to not feel like you have to choose sides between the ones you love if she really loves and respects you she will trust you and leave it all up to you to set boundaries with your ex wife without having to butt in...hope this advice is not too late

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You wrote...The only thing I could think off was how good I felt when I was with him in those little "sneaky" moments we get. Are you sure that's not just a rush of "excitement" rather than "love"? No judgement, I've been there. I was married with a small child, very unhappily married, no sex with my husband in a long time, and he had a co-worker stay with us for two weeks. In my house. And girl, was he the most handsome man ever!!! And, to top it off, I was expected to tour him around and entertain him (he was intern from out of state). There sure was chemistry. It was really hard. But I didn't break my vows, and I'm so glad I didn't. He ended up dating another girl with a husband, getting beat up and leaving the area. Then it ended up the IRS and police were looking for him for check forgery. All this from a nice, good looking, seemingly responsible man. Moral of the story? You can't help who you fall in love with. But you can help what you do about it. I'm now divorced for several years, and have met a man much much much more a "man" than that temptation ever will be. Is this my reward? Think of what yours would be if you stayed in this briar patch. Now get out into the sun and live your life. Best wishes, we all know it's hard. But no one ever said it would be easy.

TOS, He is starting to hate her kids (which are not KIDS THEY ARE ADULTS!) becaue of the mental and physical abuse they do towards their own mother. Its unfortunate but she has raised 2 loser human beings. THese are not children. She is the one that should take a stand for herself and throw them out! But she wont cause has raised them and probably believes she deserves their hate. Salgado, 1. Tell your GF to seek professional counciling for herself because of the abuse. BUt she probably wont take it because she doesn't beleive her kids are doing anything wrong. 2. you cannot change this because the problem can only be fixed by yoru GF and she chooses not to. If she did she would have thrown these two out the door! I have a neighbour of mine who through out her own 14 years old daughter because of the same thing you are describing. Was she in pain doing this to her daughter , yes....was it the right thing to do...yes! 3. If you girlfriend does not stand up for herself and tellher kids to shape up or get out then you should leave. dont feel guilty. You love her but if she doesnt love herself and respect herself from the abuse of anyone..even her own kids then she cannot be saved. You cannot help her. And you cannot continue living this way. Its a shame that a human being can be beaten down in such a manner like this over the years. I do not know your GF past. But im sure it has alot to do with the upbringing of her two kids. She spoon feeds them and whatever they do they are angels. Leave for your sake. And also try to get her some help. You never know things can change.