Pn: you assume I am willing to take a very large financial risk ffrom wich I could never recover if it went south :) Your idea has crossed my mind though; maybe, if my banker and I could agree on a piece of land he wouldn't mind owning if I couldn't sell it we'd be able to deal. I already live in the middle of commercial ag but in a very small town, there is an elevator 2 blocks away and a spray service 2 blocks away also. Right now there are combines, grain carts and semi trailers hauling grain parked in town and going to and through it. My neighbor is a custom harvester. The mad dash is on to get all the corn, soybeans and milo harvested as well as the winter wheat planted. Yep, anhydrous is used here on corn, it is knifed in under ground. Being a gas at atmospheric pressure, it wouldn't do any good to try and pour it anywhere, knives work very well if the soil has the right amount of moisture in it. Nacyjane: there isn't really any empty land around here unless you count the creek bottoms, everything is in crop production in this county and every county around it and more. Happyday: good point, I suspect there are no zoning restrictions on subdividing within the county. On a less serious note, I don't think there are any laws in the county at all, 1 sheriff and 3 deputies to cover 24/7/365. what do you think? You can not pay your property taxes for in excess of 5 years and not have to worry about the county auctioning off your property.

shannon - I have been following your thread with great interest as the mom of a 19 soon to be 20 yr. old young woman. I have to say DD has never given DH & me any trouble whatsoever, so all that you are posting about your DD is foreign from a parent's standpoint, but I have experience with dealing with DD's friend choices made over the years. Does your DD have a best girlfriend or a group of girlfriends that she spends time with? You mention a "best bud", but I am surmising from your posts that this best bud is a boy? I have to wonder if your DD has no girlfriends at this point, why is that? Has she ever had female friends with whom she spends a majority of her social time with? Also, if she has had girlfriends, have they separated themselves from your DD, or more importantly, have their parents separated them? I had a situation when my DD was entering high school and meeting new friends from different schools as we have a regional school district which accommodates 3 townships. DD met a girl a year older than she, through her best friend. The girl lived across the street from DD's best friend since they were in elementary school. I absolutely hands down prevented my DD from hanging out with this girl as she was a very developed, boy crazy girl whose parents did nothing to stop this kid from her behavior with the boys. She was never held to a curfew, when she was home she was allowed to have boys in the home, down in the rec room, no adult supervision. It was probably one of my DD's worst summers socially, but there was no way that I wanted my DD associated in any way with this girl. The words of my own DM came out of my mouth without any hesitation "you will be judged by the company you keep". I probably heard that a zillion times growing up, and swore I would never be like my own DM. How your mind changes when it is your own child. I felt at the time that it was my job as my DD's mother, to protect her as best as I could from running in the fast lane. I am so glad I did. My DD now has a casual relationship with the girl as she cannot be avoided living across the street from DD's best friend. Sadly, I feel that the girl's DM played a huge part in not stepping up to the plate. She wanted so badly to be her DD's friend, that she lost sight of the fact that her DD needed a MOTHER, not a friend at that very impressionable age. This past weekend I learned that the girl is now pregnant with a baby from a one night stand. IMHO, her life is essentially over. She will more than likely never return to college, she will be living in her parents' home, raising a baby with her DM's help. The girl's DM still hasn't gotten it. Her daughter will give birth to a child with no father in the picture. The DM is happy to be a grandmother. This girl was a year ahead of my DD. She did enroll in our local community college, but did not do well. The DM constantly made excuses as to why things didn't bode well for her daughter at the college, in other words, it was always someone else's fault when her daughter got into trouble. Well, she failed out of her first semester and aspired to obtain a job at a local daycare where she worked until that didn't work out for whatever reason, of course, none of it being her fault. Also, what is stunning to me is that you have not made any mention of taking your DD to a gyn. There are adolescent gynecologists available. You posted that your DH is a physician? Have you not told him what you know of your DD's previous behavior, current plans with regard to sex? I am having a very hard time wrapping my head around the fact that your DH has not insisted that your daughter see a gynecologist. If your DD had diabetes or seizure disorder would you take her to the doctor? As an objective party here, I am just floored that you are not taking her to a gynecologist. If you haven't told your DH about your DD's sexual comments and evidence of opportunity for having sex, I think you should do so. Perhaps he would from a medical standpoint surely realize that a gynecologic examination of your DD is imperative. You posted about possibly talking to the pediatrician, I think you are way past going to the pediatrician. I would call the pediatrician for a referral to an adolescent gynecologist poste haste. This is your DD's health here, not just about birth control. I do not see it as putting your "seal of approval" of her behavior by taking her to a gynecologist, rather I see it as a necessary obligation as your DD's parent knowing what you do about the activities she is engaging in. I truly am not trying to offend you, but I cannot continue to read daily updates of talks and privileges, which BTW are great, but there is a much bigger picture here that I do not think you are seeing or are choosing not to see or deal with it. An appointment with a good adolescent gynecologist would be worth it's weight in gold at this point and going forward with DD. I don't think your DD is complying, I think she is playing you and you are buying it all, hook, line and sinker. I hope you take action on this as there are no do-overs with regard to many forms of STD's or heaven forbid, the AIDS virus. My DH is not a physician and we have talked at length about your situation from a parents' standpoint and he, like me, cannot understand why you have not taken your child to be examined. I really cannot read these comments much longer as I think you are putting your head in the sand by not having your child examined by a professional in this field of expertise. I wish you the best.

No need to worry, Newdawn, that this thread will be here forever -- we all know this forum self-destuctes every few months and loses all its history pages.... And nothing here compares to the chronic oversharing i do IRL anyway.... How old are you? 43 going on 60 Are you in love? I'm trying hard to remember what that felt like... Are you married? No How many times have you been married? None. I was engaged once though. I don't know what I was thinking, either... What type of medicine do you take? Mostly hypertension, statins, BPH, and pain relievers Ever had an operation? Hernia repair, minor stuff after injuries How many children do you have? None. I hope. Do you think you could ever have an affair even though your married? I'm single, but I already have with a married woman. Her husband was a controlling, abusive jerk that constantly threatened her and smacked her around. I have no moral or ethical qualms whatsoever. What architectural style is your house? Generic 1950s cheapo duplex Looking around your house what have you collected the most? Dust If you could change your name what would you change it to? I can change my name if I want. I've polled my friends on this. First name staying put though. Favorite style of room? A wood-paneled lounge room with a wet bar, or a nice keeping room for guests with seating and tables everywhere Favorite city? London. Or the north shore of Oahu. Favorite cookie? Chocolate chip, preferably with pecans How many soft drinks do you drink in a day? And what brand? 2 or 3, Coke, Cherry Coke, or Dr Pepper. Also like Moxie which is hard to find in most places. Real sugar only please. Favorite style sofa? Love seat with recliner Are you over weight? I could stand to gain a few pounds. Short or long hair? For me, short, because it's easy to keep neat and dries quickly. But I like longer hair on women. When is the last time you were flirted with? A few months ago When is the last time you made love? Last month, but in the true sense of the phrase, two summers ago. Do you have any addictions? cheese, Ambien How many fireplaces do you have in your house? none, unfortunately How many lamps do you own? About 8. Only one nice one though. I'm a recessed-lighting guy Would there be any situation where you would kill your parents? This question was asked on a job interview, I promise. No. I had genuine reason to fear they would bump me off though when I was a teenager Have you ever smoked cigarettes? Only once. I hated it, fortunately Have you ever smoked weed? Yes. World's most overrated recreational drug. I get a better buzz from Ambien. One of your favorite singers / One of your favorite groups? I have too many to select just one. How many mirrors do you have in your house? I don't even own a full-length mirror Do you look at yourself in the mirror often? No What kind of car do you have? VW Rabbit. Awesome car. How many miles do you have on your car? about 45,000 When is the last time you went out to dinner? Last night Where did you go to dinner? Can't remember the name; it's the diner near where I work out sometimes Are you happy? Only on rare occasions Could you REALLY say you truly know yourself? Yes Do you like parties? Yes, as long as they revolve around socializing rather than alcohol Do you like to give parties? Yes, although the preperation and cleanup can be exasperating Favorite holiday? Christmas What color is your hair? Dark brown What's your favorite decorating blog? Don't read any How many sofa's do you have counting love seats and porch/deck furniture? One. That's all that will fit in my apartment! Favorite day of the week? Saturday, of course Favorite television program? Friends. A brilliant soap opera masquerading as a sitcom, its spot-on portrayal of more-than-friends, not-quite-lovers amorphous relationships resonates with me unlike anything else on TV. Did I mention it's also fall-on-the-floor, bounce-off-the-walls funny? Would you like to be rich or famous? I've gone out of my way to avoid any inkling of fame all my life. I want only enough money to live comfortably Are you rich? No What do you consider rich? Lots of close friends and interesting experiences. Not lots of money. Would you rather have a luxury car or a killer stove? The car. I already have a Gaggenau halogen cooktop, the best there is. Do you enjoy out of town company? Yes Do you like to travel? Yes, once I've arrived at my destination. The traveling itself gets tiresome. Do you still have childhood friends? A few from my teens Did you go to college? Yes What magazines do you subscribe to? Nothing anymore, I just read them online. Do you have any friends that are gay? No, but wouldn't avoid someone for that reason Would you consider yourself liberal or conserative or middle of the road? I lean leftward on social issues, rightward on economic ones Are you an introvert or extravert? Wildly extroverted, although you'd be hard pressed to know that if you've only seen me this last year Do you like to wear high heels if your a woman? I'm not a woman, and I don't think they look good on them either. And they're ridiculously uncomfortable and impractical and probably bad for your feet. Flats all the way for me. Do you like to wear belts? I prefer elastic stretch fabric around the waist. Belts are uncomfortable and unyielding. What is your dress size? I don't know, i've never worn one. They don't look good on men. Would you consider yourself a good friend? I've been told I am; I'm reluctantly starting to believe it Do you like sex? With an enthusiastic partner, immensely. With someone who begrudgingly "puts out", not at all. Do you live in a small town or large town? Fairly large When is the last time you had a alcoholic drink? Cabernet a few days ago. It's hard to sneak in a drink when all my rx meds say "don't take with alcohol" Do you think you have sex appeal? Only if I work hard at it Have you ever been arrested? Not yet. But I've been lucky. What is more romantic, candles or the light from a fireplace? The fireplace. What religion are you, if any? Not religious How many television sets do you have in your house? 3 How many books would you say you read in a year not counting magazines or newspapers? 15 Do you like your next door neighbors? Yes. They've changed often though, and I miss my old ones When people first meet you (after two hours) what do they notice besides your looks? That I'm very perceptive Favorite flower? Whatever my girl likes best. Yes, I do pay attention! Would you rather spend Thanksgiving with Barefoot Contessa or Paula Dean? Never heard of either one When you see people kissing in public (not on the cheek) do you look away? Yes, although I think it's cute and heartwarming as long as they're away from a crowded area. But excessive PDA in public areas is distasteful. One woman I knew thought couples that always see the need to hold hands or hug or smooch whenever others are around, often are making up for what they don't have when they're alone together. I think she's right. Would you be more attracted to a extremely weathy man or an incredable drop dead gorgeous man? If your a man, change the sex. Probably the drop-dead-gorgeous woman. But I like a deep, sultry voice even more than great looks. If you had your choice and money was no object, what type of house would you buy? A moderately-sized first-floor condo in the crossroads of the city Are you gay? No, it squicks me just thinking about getting it on with another man. Not that there's anything wrong with that... Can people tell what region you are from your voice? Evidently not. I've been asked if i'm Canadian. Even British. Are you a grandmother or grandfather? I'm not even a dad Do you want to have kids one day? Never. I'd would remind me of my own childhood and cause unpleasant flashbacks. I'd consider fostering a teenager to adulthood though. Who fascinates you on GW? You can only pick one. I can't remember everyone, or who's still here. On this forum, i'll go with redbazel or runninginplace, they seem to have the most in common. Also the ones already named. (I can't pick just one of anything) Pool or fireplace? Pool. I love water Would you rather go to the show or rent a movie? I love going out, but tiredness usually results in renting What profession would you really like to be in? Advertising maybe. Or music/record production Do you have any regrets? Too many to mention Do you know how to change a tire? Yes, have done it many times. How many languages do you speak? I'm working on English Has your husband or wife ever embarrassed you in front of other people? Yes or No? Not married, but my SO never has Are you honest? Yes, brutally sometimes, except to people who lie to me. (how could you answer this "no"? If you did, you'd be honest by saying that!)

pammyfay, I was going to mention While You were Sleeping but was afraid it was too much of a "chick flick". It is the only movie I have watched over and over again. I never tire of it. If I'm channel surfing and should come upon it, I don't care at what point it is in the movie, I watch it. I know it would never win an Academy Award, but it just does it for me.