DH had surgery again

18 years ago

His fourth heart surgery in three years. Has been having all kinds of problems the last year and doctor would say you just have to live with it. Finally got into another cardiologist and in one week of testing had him in surgery and he's oh so much better. Can't believe the difference in him. New doctor said, he couldn't live with it in fact he wouldn't have lived much longer. His heart had stopped while doc was doing one of the test. Can't understand why these doctors take on so many patients they can't keep up with the ones they have and we had a time getting into a new doctor. Now maybe every thing will calm down here and get back to normal. Both of my uncles are still holding on with there cancers but the one we know the end is really near.

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heather_on
18 years ago
I'm glad your DH is doing better. You sure have had a lot to handle recently. Don't forget to take care of yourself as well.
Linda Wayman
18 years ago
I'm glad y'all found another doctor to help your dh and that he is doing better.
I'm sorry your uncles are having to go through that. It's so hard to watch a loved one suffer. Prayers for you and your family.

Linda
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gadgets
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I'm glad that you've finally found a doctor that truly fits your husband's needs. I wish you both all the best.

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grinch_gut
18 years ago
So glad you found a new doc hope he heals fast and does super..Stacy
grammahony
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Patches, I'm glad you and DH found a new doctor, and he is doing better. Prayers for you and DH, and your uncles. May they not suffer.
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patti43
18 years ago
Thank heavens for the new doctor. I sure hope the surgery makes him better. We're going through the same thing here and I'm about fed up to here with DH's doctors.
evatx
18 years ago
I'm glad he didn't settle for the first doctor's diagnosis! I hope he continues to do well.
lynne_melb
18 years ago
Patches, thank goodness you found the second doctor. We hope that he continues to do well.
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18 years ago
Glad he is doing well. Glad he found the right doctor.
patches_02
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18 years ago
Patti43, try and find another cardiologist, it's hard to get another one to take over. I finally went to family doctor and told him something had to be done and could he help us. It was him that called the other doctor and got DH set up to see him. DH had a quadruple bypass less then three years ago and since then has had to go back in for more stents.
He watches what he eats and get ex cerise like he's suppose to but then he started having problems and old doc said, nothing could be wrong, made him feel like it's all in his head. His heart rate was dropping so low he felt he just couldn't do anything, not even walk very far with out resting. If you feel your doctors not understanding Your DH, find another. We waited almost to late. He just had his surgery Tues. and it's like night and day in the way he now feels. Good luck to you and your Dh.

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