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Comments (40)Well, its been thunderstorming the past 2 days since I started this thread so I still haven't been able to get out there and start the cleanup. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, DH pointed out to me that my entire newly-planted lily bed (of over 300 bulbs) had been ravaged by deer. These lilies were only a couple weeks away from blooming and were chewed right down to stubs. As many of you know, true lilies from bulbs will only put out one flowering stalk per year and if it is cut there will be no flowers that year. I spent a fortune on bulbs in the fall, not to mention the backbreaking labor and was so close to enjoying their long-awaited blooms. The deer have been a problem this year with munching on my roses but at least that rosebed are all modern roses that can bloom again....the lilies are done for. It's getting more and more difficult to not give up. Beetle season will be arriving as soon as the sun returns. But as DH pointed out, no matter what, I could never stop being a gardener. Its in my blood and in my heart, for better or worse. This year has certainly seen the worst! (sigh) Celeste Lily stalks chewed down by deer........See More'living memorials' (this one is weird, warning).
Comments (15)Gah, I would just be cremated and used as a soil amendment for my favorite tree ÂGinkgo- (is that really hippy or something?) because you know powder is just sort of easier to work with and you don't have to worry about animals, really. Just hope I donÂt end up as firewood later or anything. As I understand it, there is a minimum depth or something bodies have to be buried at and that depth would render you not so useful to the tree. I donÂt think there is anything that prohibits you from not having your body "preserved" with chemicals but I donÂt know for certain. And many people choose wood coffins, those break down quite rapidly in many cases. I heard of a fella that wanted to be "returned to the sea" but not cremated or in a coffin. I think they ultimately used a coffin anyways. When people want to be "returned to the sea" usually its in powder form -oops I mean ash- or a heavy casket that would sink. Unaltered bodies might float and that would be... inconvenient in several ways. Know the laws because if something does not meet the requirements for health or other such laws they may go on and do it anyways even if it was against the deceasedÂs wishes....See MoreHow would handle this? Very long - sorry.
Comments (33)Ok, portrait aside...I think there is a bigger problem. Why are you calling all the shots? Have you asked your siblings if they even want to be in the picture and what they think about who should be in it and what you are doing? Get on the phone and ask them... I would never just arrange to have a pic with me and my siblings without going over with them who would be in it, etc. I think it's the fact that you appear to be controlling everything and everyone that may be the real problem. "Your plan" really doesn't matter if it brings heartache to any one family, marriage or wife. It really doesn't matter how many photos you've gone through or how much better or easier the pic would look with just you six. If you are hurting someone, you need to rethink your options. And I gotta tell you from a traditional etiquette standpoint, not including spouses can be kind of harsh... they are either considered part of the family or they are not. I think it's naive to think you're not gonna ruffle some feathers. Although your idea may be best...you didn't allow others who should have had a say in it, vote, so now not only is it not the best idea but hardly anyone will be happy with it. Back to the drawing board......See Moretoo soon? cat passed away / want another already
Comments (14)Well...so far not one person has said that it's best to wait. I'm glad !! Kashka, I guess the "they" I was referring to was...I remembered reading an article a long time ago about losing a pet. And it spoke of what I'd said.....that often people rush in trying to 'replace' the pet they lost and they become disappointed. I didn't necessarily agree, but wondered if anyone else had experienced that. But so far, it sounds like everyone on here had a positive experience. So I say "poo poo" on that article...lol. And as many have said, I would never expect to replace Pinkey. When God made him, He broke the mold. As Ann said, every animal is special. Socks, I was actually giving thought to getting two kitties. I've never owned more than one, except when I took in a stray when I already had an older cat. She didn't like it at all...lol. But two at the same time would be a good thing. They could be buddies. I did at least make one decision for now. I have a terribly junky and messy spare room. It was Pinkey's litterbox room. It is piled with stuff and a lot of it is pretty precarious. Altho Pinkey never hung out in there, for a new cat it would be like a mysterious jungle to explore. And a good place to either hide in or get lost in or possibly even get hurt (falling boxes...lol). So I decided to get my house in order before I introduce a new cat into it. I want to be able to keep tabs on him/her and don't want a lot of places where he/she can hide while getting used to the new home. So getting a new kitty is my new motivation for getting my house straight. I think it's best. It's bad enough having to look under beds and in closets for where a cat can hide, much less having that junk room with it's many hiding places that I cannot reach. Thanks to everyone for all your loving support. And thanks for sharing all your touching stories about your own experiences with loss. It really meant a lot to me and truly helped me. GW is a wonderful community and has been a great source of comfort for me. Never did I know that my love of gardening and need to ask learn about my flowers would lead me to such a loving group of 'friends' :) And when I DO get my new baby, I will surely post a pic on here !! Oh, and thanks to everyone who said how handsome Pinkey was. It made me smile because my best guy friend always called him handsome. And I wanted to add, when I showed him the 2nd pic (him looking back over his shoulder), he remarked on his expression. He was not too happy with me at that moment. I had pulled on the covers he had underneath him so he was giving me a dirty look....lol. My best to you all, Bonnie...See MoreUser
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