Ceph hit the nail on the head! If u only offer him healthy, and he refuses to eat, then so be it. Eventually he will get hungry enough and eat something. That's really the best you can do! I have done this with all of my three kids (2 bio and 1 Step) and believe me if they are really hungry they will eat. Thats not to say don't give choices, but they need to be healthy choices only. U can't control what is goin on at BMs or GMas so don't stress over it anymore... you can only control what happens at your house. Also, something you might find helpful as far as tv, computer and video games go- at my house you have to earn those treats, now my kids are physically active, but not all that big on taking time out to read, work on math or anything school work related- My kids can earn tv or computer or video game time by reading, extra practice on school work etc... I give 30 minutes of "fun time" for 30 minutes of "school work time" I suggest you try giving him 30 minutes of "fun time" for 30 minutes of physical activity, this could just mean going for a walk, kicking the ball around....... It really does work, but you have to NEVER GIVE IN..I am thinking that is part of this boys problem, he pouts or cries to go to the other parent to get his way...stick to your rules AND DONT CAVE OR BEND....he will probably be miserable and cry at first BUT once he realizes your not going to send him home, or give in he will start to do what he needs to do.... I would also have dad sit down with mom and give her the 411 on what you all are doing, she may be supportive or may not, but wither way it gives her a heads up, so she knows what to expect when SS comes home complaining..good luck! you all can do this, even if it is only every other weekend, It will make an impression... Also, maybe dad and SS could take up a sport together? I bet SS would be glad to have some time alone with dad, even if it is just for a walk.........

Fried green tomatoes! That movie has some good food. Two years ago I went to an event that featured "iconic dishes from all 50 states" (I can't recall the name of the event). Yes, there were crab cakes, lobster rolls, bison... but my absolute favorite of them all were the fried green tomatoes. I had never had it before and it was So. Good. There's an idea for another recipe club meeting - recipes states are known for.

Oy, had a covid safe close family friend overnight this week. He is socially distancing and limiting outside contact due to his wife being a cancer survivor. They both work from home, limited outside trips. He stopped at our house because it was a halfway point on his long drive to be with his dad who is having a health crisis and needs his help. I has to dust the guest room. Whoa! We wore masks and socially distanced inside the house, and I sanitized the guest bathroom for his exclusive use. Luckily we have two bathrooms and a separate guest bedroom. We both remarked on how much we miss socializing. But neither of us will probably be able to let up any time soon. Mark my words we are in for a big surge . . . just trying my darndest to keep my 88 year old Dad safe through the indoor season as he fights with me every step of the way. He hangs out with deniers and will be inside with them now. They all have grandkids in school and are out and about socializing. Dad too intimidated to ask them to mask up, afraid of losing friendships and contact. They should honor him and do it but they don't see the need, have all kinds of rationalizations. Sigh. So now hubs and I trying to figure out where we can get new supply of n95 masks for when we are around Dad. He's old and depressed as it is, does not need this worry, other folks should take care of it for him . . . .we had been socializing with Dad mainly on our lovely screened-in porch this summer. He liked it and so did we, it was a win win. But now that option is off the table, too cold . . . Dad is ok wearing a mask, just not OK asking others to wear one around him. Should be a no brainer around an 88 year old man with COPD, heart failure and reduced kidney function . . . my cousins refused to meet with us this summer, even for a picnic outside at a park we have been to as a family many times, because we asked them to mask up around him . . .

My heart goes out to you roarah and your daughter and your family. You did a great job realizing that there was a problem and taking great strides to help your daughter. You are corageous to share your story with us. Thank you for sharing your story and the articles you linked. I read each one. I do think that our culture has problems with obsession over thinness and judgement towards people perceived as "fat". Even reading some of the comments here, that judgement is present. Add to that the perpetuation of social media and the ability of people to gain popularity without the backing of scientific substance, and it just perpetuates this ideal. Society, but especially social media, is putting extreme pressure on people of all ages, but especially teens and young adults. And all of us as individuals (and our parents before us) are responsible for perpetuating this culture. To this day my mother fixates on her weight and also fixates on my weight without my consent. Doctors can be cruel and dismissive of anyone even overweight and I have experienced it without ever being classified as obese. As I now have nieces and a nephew, I am consciously reading about how the things I say may impact their relationship with food in the future. I do not discuss diets or intermittent fasting around them. I talk about exercise and food in terms of fun and how it provides fuel for my activities. What we say around children can really influence their thinking as they grow up. We need to be responsible about what kind of biases or potentially bad relationships with food we might be unintentionally passing along. This is not saying that roarah did this or that any of you are doing this, but it is something I witness in my own family and something I am consciously trying to stop with the generation of children in my family. It breaks my heart to hear how roarah's daughter was receiving compliments about how "strong" she looked when she was in the throws of suffering from an ED. I think that is incredibly common. I cannot tell you how many unsolicited weight loss comments I have received from people who do not know me well enough to have any idea if I'm losing weight for health or because I am sick with a serious illness or because I am suffering an eating disorder. Judging (positive or negative) anyone's appearance can be really destructive. I am not the most educated on eating disorders, but it something I am trying to learn more about for myself and for how I interact with others. Thank you, roarah, for continuing to help me understand.