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Comments (0)Have you heard about the Grow A Row program of the Capital Area Food Bank (CAFB)? Gardeners can grow and donate a row of any kind of produce to a local food pantry, kid's cafe or soup kitchen in their neighborhood. I just learned that elders who receive shelf stable food from the Brown Bag program of CAFB often use their small amount of Food Stamps to purchase fresh greens,and that their eyes light up when their bags occasionally do contain greens. Please consider joining the Grow A Row program this season, to provide folks with fresh produce. My kids and I are growing swiss chard and kale to donate. I will be at the Swap at Gardengramma's on the 8th with more information (look for the sign!) or read on! Many thanks, Panambi Hello fellow gardeners and community leaders, It's definitely spring and the Capital Area Food Bank is gearing up for this season's Grow A Row project! Please consider participating in our Grow A Row program and take a moment to review the information below and share with your community gardeners. What is Grow A Row? Grow A Row is a way for gardeners to grow and donate produce to local community organizations that serve people in need. Fresh produce is an essential component of a healthy diet, but is not frequently donated to soup kitchens or food pantries due to its perishable nature. Grow A Row is an excellent opportunity to bridge community, build relationships, and provide people of low income with access to fresh, local produce. Why should I participate? Now more than ever the charitable organizations that provide meals or distribute food to those in need are asking for more produce to meet their client demand. A recent Hunger in America 2010 study documented that hunger in the Washington, DC metropolitan area has increased 25% from 2006 with 1 in 5 children at risk of hunger. The Capital Area Food Bank is working to alleviate hunger and malnutrition throughout the metropolitan area and is committed to ensuring that the food we distribute is nutritious. To that end, we have developed an ambitious goal to source and distribute 30 million pounds of food this year with half (15 million pounds) in fresh produce. We need your help to reach this goal! Who Donates the Produce? Gardeners throughout the Washington, D.C. Metropolitan Area are encouraged to participate. Whether you grow an extra row, dig up your entire yard, or organize a collective donation from your community garden, we appreciate your contribution! Who Receives the Produce? Donated produce is provided to Capital Area Food Bank member agencies and local community organizations that have the capacity to use the produce. The Capital Area Food Bank works with a network of over 700 charitable organizations in the Washington, D.C. Metropolitan Area, including food pantries, soup kitchens, youth programs, senior centers and emergency shelters. How Do I Participate? Contact us to participate and we will work with you to determine the best way to distribute your produce to the community. All participants will receive a Grow A Row Participant sign to put up in their garden and will be recognized on our website. For more information or to participate, contact growarow@capitalareafoodbank. org The Capital Area Food Bank was established in 1980 with the mission to feed those who suffer from hunger by acquiring food and distributing it through our network of member agencies; and to educate, empower and enlighten the community about the issues of hunger and nutrition. As the largest public nonprofit hunger and nutrition education resource in the Washington, D.C. Metropolitan Area, the CAFB distributes 25 million pounds of food each year, including 7 million pounds of fresh produce. www.capitalareafood bank.org...See MoreMy Mom is elderly and difficult... Help?
Comments (36)There's a lot of ways people age. People can become more difficult in old age because as we age, we gradually loose control of our lives and also gradually loose our sense of being important. A lot of that is societal, but some of it is just how individual people define power and control. I know plenty of seniors who still contribute to society even after they retire, by serving on boards and volunteering for community service. They relate to others as friends, not just as bosses. But some people, like my folks for example, who were bosses at work their whole lives and who define power and contol by being infallible, do not deal well with aging. I would say, generally, that controlling people have a very difficult time with aging, and get more and more difficult as time goes on. 72 is not that old, but some people act like they are going on 92 their whole lives. Which is ironic, because there are probably some spry 92 year olds out there! Bear in mind what others have said, you can't control your mom but you can control how you react to her. You have some rights in this situation, and she has some adult responsibilities. If she chooses not to act like an adult (assuming she doesn't have some kind of dementia), then you are not responsible for her problems. Choose what you will do, and make it very clear that you are going to do as you see fit and if she doesn't like it, that is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. That's the only way you can deal with co-dependent people. You're just going to have to accept that she is going to be elderly and difficult. There's a difference between compassion (which you should exercise with your mom) and co-dependence, and the key is to navigate the line between the two. Recognizing the problem, like you have, is half the battle. And I think it also helps to share the burden by talking with others who are going through the same thing. I know I get a lot of solace from comiserating with my friends who are also dealing with or have dealt with difficult parental relationships. (Just ask Annie, lol!)...See MoreAbandoned grandmother
Comments (1)Why did she do that? Did the two of you have a disagreement? Is she good the the kids or are they abused...what about the father? I would have to have much more information before I could make any comments on something like this......See MoreGetting Elderly Drivers Off The Road, Part Deux
Comments (38)rosemaryt, you have a tough situation and my heart goes out to you. Best wishes in a successful resolution to the problem. This is a very frustrating thread to read. People screaming for you to go commit a felony makes me just shake my head in disbelief. Laws vary from state to state so when you get "armchair lawyers", including myself, giving you advice, take it for ideas only since your situation will vary. A few things do come to mind though. First, the police are sympathetic and in fact, that's good for the public as a whole but doesn't help for this situation. Now you need a "hot dog" cop, but the problem is to find one. There are other options though, again however it varies in different jurisdictions. One is a "citizen complaint", "criminal complaint" or citizen's arrest. You need guidance to do this properly and if appropriate but seems to me that it could in this case. I'd doubt very highly you'd get him committed for evaluation with the adverse positions of the doctor and social worker. However if he is truly senile, and it's documented, then a guardianship is a definite possibility. But an involuntary guardianship is not easy, and rightly so. But you might be able to propose a temporary guardianship, a conservatorship or something to get a start. This won't be quick most likely, but is an option to consider. In MN, starting a guardianship proceeding would be more likely to get an eval ordered. Again, your state will vary. I hope you're paying no attention to the fools who suggest that you will be financially responsible for his actions. Good grief where do people get these ideas? That's stupid, plain and simple. C'mon folks, she needs help, support and ideas, not ridiculous ramblings. I suppose someone will running offended and I'll get a friendly reminder but so be it. It needed to be said. Likewise that you'll force a cop to do something, that you can sue the cops if something happens down the road and well, it's a highly emotional situation and obviously many people aren't thinking clearly. People watch too much "Boston Legal" or something and want to threaten to sue for anything thinking that people will cringe and fold. It may work with someone who doesn't know better, but threatening people that know better doesn't do anything more than make the person making the threat look like a complete idiot. Don't get caught up in that. It won't work. Also, I agree you should keep the insurance on the vehicle. I'd even go so far as to make sure the vehicles are, in fact insured. You insure the vehicle primarily so if in fact he has no valid license likely won't affect the insurance at least until he gets into an accident or ticket, at which time the company likely would cancel the coverage. Newspapers, TV, radio, media as a whole... well, this isn't a huge story in news terms but someone might be interested. But I think I'd pursue it with low expectations. Disabling the car hasn't worked. So you need a different plan of attack. Take a deep breath and try to relax. I know it's easier said than done though. Obviously you can't be following him around all over, first because you don't have the time and secondly you could be guilty of stalking if he is angry enough to push it, which he may well be. But a private security firm or private investigator is able to, but of course that will cost something. They can gather evidence, video his operation and even be able to make a complaint, though I'm not sure that many would want to get that involved. I could contact my former PI firm and see if they have any suggestions but since the laws vary, I think you'd be better off to seek some guidance locally. Most good places won't charge you to talk to you about the case and give you some ideas. Again, my best to you and yours. If I think of anything else I'll post again. I know what a tough situation it is. And my experience wasn't quite as drastic as yours, though my dad should have quit driving 20 years earlier. But that's a whole different story....See MoreUser
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