Dear Susan, Please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your dear husband.

To lose someone so young, suddenly and without warning, is a true tragedy and your anger, tears and fears are, unfortunately, to be expected.

I'm sorry I have no words of comfort other than you are not alone in your grief.

I'll pray for you and your family and hope that all will work out for you and your son. I have similar worries about my two youngest sons now that their mother is gone.

Best wishes, Doc

Lillymouse, I am so sorry to hear about the passing of you dear husband, how truly broken you must feel.The only words of comfort I have are that I am praying for you and your son for what you are going through and what you will be going through. I pray that your fears regarding your business and your home are, just that, fears and that everythhing will turn out alright. Professional people can help you.
I am sending you hugs and Blessings that God will provided the help you need.
Again, it is so hard for me to communicate how truly sad I am for you.

I'm so sorry.

Even though it's hard to focus on your own financial interests right now, you must do so, for your protection & for your son's protection:

If you know the information on the driver & the owner of the vehicle, you need to find out how to protect your & your son's rights & interests.

If there was liability insurance on driver or car, you need to file a claim.

If the driver was cited for negligence or some such, & has assets, a good attorney can advise you how to procede.

You also should check with your own auto insurance company;
some states have Personal Injury Protection, a kind of no-fault medical coverage, that will pay a certain amount for injury or death of the named insured in an auto accident even if he/she wasn't in a car.

Again, I am sorry to hear this.

Please take care of yourself & your son.

Thank you so much for the prayers and kind words. I'm taking one day at a time. Your words were very comforting.
I do have an attorney working on this for me. The girl who killed my husband was only 20 years old. She was also driving her parents car. They didn't have insurance on the car. My attorney is looking into our car insurance.
The girl was answering her cell phone and speeding, swerved off the road and hit my husband with her car.

Lilymouse

What a tragic loss - I am so sorry! I will add you and your son to my prayer list. God Bless you!

Lilymouse

I, too offer my sympathies for your loss, it must have been such a shock for you and your family.

You seem to have a lot on your plate, with dealing with loss and running your business. It really doesn't seem fair, does it.

Find joy in your son, give him hugs and kisses.

I wish you all the best and hope things work out well for you.

Oh, Lilymouse, how awful.

That girl should be behind bars.

Your atty needs to check further than your own insurance though;

the owners of the car may have assets that you can attach.

& if your son is a minor, please apply for Social Security benefits.

Take care.

Lilymouse, my deepest sympathy to you and your son.

The use of cell phones should be banned from use in cars.

Thank you for your prayers & hugs. I have been praying very hard to my husband to send me the right people to help me to decide on what I should do about our company. I did have some people get in touch with me to help me with our company. I think these people have been sent to me for a reason. Maybe my husband is sending me help through these people. These past couple of weeks have been very positive and I think I'm heading in the right direction. I didn't think I could run our company alone but I've finding that each day that I stay in business it gets easier. It's still very stressful and sometimes I wonder how I can go on.
I just want to thank everyone for sending me prayers, I think they are working.
Blessings
Lilymouse

Lilymouse - as I search for some comforting words to ease your pain, I can only say as others, that my prayers and heartfelt sympathy are with you.

A little over thirteen year ago, I lost my only child - my daughter that was only 18 years old. All children are special creatures from God, but my daughter was truly special - she was born on a holiday (1/1/76, and passed from this life on a holiday - 5/31/94). I'm OK now (as much as I can be)and have used that challenge to hopefully better my life. I mention my situation only to say, it doesn't get any better; it just doesn't. But, it does get easier, I promise. As it gets easier, you are able to let go of the pain, the fear, the anger and the confusion. I used to get angry with myself because as things got easier, and the intensity lessened, I thought I was beginning not to care. But that's how it is. If we remembered everything at it's initial intensity, the world would be in a mess. Think of childbirth - we know the pain, but dont' remember how bad it was at the time.

My first thought to you was to take care of you, your son, and then your business. However, as a previous poster so wisely mentioned, you do need to take care of the business if this is your only sense of livlihood at this time. That being said, please be sure to use every advantage available to you at this time. If you can get help from family, neighbors, other friends, do that. I can't tell you how much help they can provide, even if you don't want it at the time. As I look back, it was so overwhelming. But I am so thankful now for all of that help as I would not be where I am today without it. Besides, as the days go by, your thoughts will become more organized. This will help you get through your next moves.

The other thing I would like to say is, talk, talk talk, until no one wants to hear you anymore; and then keep talking. The same goes for your son, if he is old enough. Listen to him, and if he has questions, answer them as best you can.

I know that this is one of the toughest things you will ever go through in life. Don't do it alone. Losing my daughter was devastating, but as I tell everyone, to lose a spouse is truly a loss. You spend your life searching for, and then cultivating a relationship that you expect to last for an lifetime a little longer than yours did. But, I'm sure your hubby is smiling - watching and guiding your every move and thought.

Please continue to grow and be strong. Above all, have faith - YOU CANNOT DO THIS WITHOUT IT!! You are carryng so much emotion right now that you need to let some of it go. I don't care if you believe in a rock, you have to have faith - in something. (I also heard this from a Columbine HS father that lost his daugher on that tragic day) If your faith is in God, then you already know that He will provide the strength and courage you will need to continue forward and raise your son. "to everything there is a season", and for you, the next one has arrived. Have peace in your heart and in your walk that this is so; know that you will be OK.

I know this is long,and you may not be at the stage I've passed to, to want to hear some of this. But I only want you to know for sure, that you and your son will survive this and be able to use this experience for the good.

I do want to tack on a bit more here though. As hurtful as it may be to you now, my thoughts are also with the young lady that caused the accident and her family. My daugher was a passenger in a car accident; the driver was hurt also, but survived. Many times I have thought of the driver and prayed for his wellbeing. Accidents happen - to the best of us. Unfortunately this one was dynamic and traumatic, especially for you. I'm sure that this is not the easiet situation for her either. Twenty year olds are mature only to a point (hence the cellphone while driving). When something like this happens, they don't have the level of maturity to handle the reality of the loss she has caused.

I love you in spirit. I can say this because my faith is strong and I know of God's love for us all. However, I'm not a fanatic about it. I just believe that God's love has given me the strenth to hopefully help where I can. I'm here if you ever want to talk. I mean that, honestly.

Mary A.