When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

18 years ago

My father passed on March 1, 2008 after a 4 year battle with Cancer. It started 4 years ago with lung cancer which he beat and then 2.5 years later he was diagnosed with brain cancer. They performed brain surgery and removed a tumour the size of an XL egg. He then underwent chemotherapy in the late summer early fall of 2006 followed by radiation treatments in the spring of 2007. The cancer did not go away and in September 2007 he went to Roswell Cancer Center in Buffalo NY for Gamma Knife treatment. THEY BROKE HIM!!! In October of 2007 he lost his ability to walk and quickly went downhill.

A family friend gave us this:

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

When tomorrow starts without me, and I'm not there to see;

if the sun should rise and fine your eyes filled with tears for me;

I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today,

while thinking of the many things, we didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me, as much as I love you,

and each time that you think of me, I know you'll miss me too;

but when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand,

that an angel cam and called my name, and took me by the hand,

and said my place was ready, in heaven far above,

and that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye,

for all my life, I'd always thought, I didn't want to die,

I had so much to live for, so much yet to do,

it seamed almost impossible that I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad,

I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had.

If I could relive yesterday, even just for a while,

I'd say goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realized tat this could never be,

for emptiness and memories would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things, I might miss come tomorrow,

I thought of you, and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through heaven's gates, I felt so much at home.

When God looked down and smiled at me, from His great golden throne,

He said, "This is eternity, and all I've promised you.

today your life on Earth is past, but here it starts anew."

"I promise no tomorrow, today will always last,

and since each day's the same way, there's no longing for the past.

You have been so faithful, so trusting, and so true.

Though there were times you did some things, you knew you shouldn't do.

But you have been forgiven, and now at least you're free.

So won't you take my hand, and share my life with me?"

So when tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart,

for every time you think of me, I'm right here in your heart.

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mariong
18 years ago
This really hit home for me - I miss my Mom so much - Today is a hard day - It helps so much to read posts from everyone here. My Mom passed in her sleep - unexpectedly -
I am trying to be strong and do positive things in her honor... I believe life is full of lessons for all of us -My Mom's passing openend up my heart and the need to love everyone more. I was always so busy with work and family and I would see her on weekends (My Dad is alive and they had each other) Now she is on my mind 24-7 and I would give anything to call her everyday and talk - (Why didn't I think that way before????).......
highcenter
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18 years ago
I know what you mean. I live 10 hours away, although we did talk frequently on the phone. Hospice was such a help to my mother. The following information may also be of assistance.

Here is a link that might be useful: Hospice Grief Help
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Here is a link that might be useful: Autism awareness, resource and our family living with this disability
darzie
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