Oh, I am so sorry for both of you. What does his counselor say, besides 'keep an eye on him'? Does he suggest group therapy with other children? Also, call Hospice in your area and ask if they have any suggestions. Have you talked to his pediatrician?

At this age, one has to be careful, as children this age are very impressionable.

Keep us informed, and my prayers go out to both of you at this very difficult time in your lives.

Have you done anything to memorialize your husband's memory? Like plant a tree, create a scrapbook of special pictures, write down or have your son dictate memories to you so you can type them up. He could collect cans and bottles to recycle and donate the money to a charity his dad liked. This type of thing can create a stronger link with his father. Remind him that even though daddy is gone, one thing that will never go away is his love for daddy. He will always, always love his dad.

Keep your son busy, but not overly busy. Make sure he spends time with friends and family.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Not only are you grieving for your husband, but you are very worried about your son. It's a real double whammy. Take care.

Thank you both. I have set up a meeting with him counselor where I hope to discuss other options. His pediatrician said he should try counseling with the school first then we'll see how that goes. As for memorializing him, I hadn't thought of the memories scrapbook thank you very much and I will start on that tonight. His father was a Marine, as was I, I think I'll set something up where he can send stuff to our Troops
overseas. I think my monster will like that.

Thank you very much and I'm still open to any suggestions

You could have your son dictate his memories to you while you type--his earliest memory of daddy, going to daddy's favorite restaurant, dad's favorite foods, etc. He could draw pictures of his own, put in photos, ticket stubs, wrapper from Dad's favorite candy bar, pictures of Dad's parents or siblings, anything and everything which fits into a scrapbook. You could even draw up a family tree to put in it. It would be a satisfying project. I made two scrapbooks of my parents when they were both gone, one for each of my sons.

We lost a dear family member, and my son and I put together three identical small photo albums of her to give to other family members as mementos. We chose the photos, the order of the photos, got them printed, and so forth. It was a good thing for us to do together instead of just sitting around feeling bad (not that you are doing that, please don't misunderstand).

Take care.