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finally, the dream i have been waiting for

15 years ago

for just over 3 years, i have begged and pleaded with my husband to come to me in my dreams. i have had only fleeting glimpses of him, many so vague i didn't even remember them till days later.

night before last, about 4 a.m., he strolled into my bedroom, shook me awake, told me happy new year, planted a big kiss right on my lips and held me tightly. i swear to God, i could feel his arms around me. he held my face in his hands as he so often used to do and he smiled from ear to ear, not saying a word. he didn't have to talk. i have so been wanting to know if he is well, happy. my dream told me what i wanted to know and gave me the vision of him i have been longing for. i saw the ever present twinkle in his eyes and he looked so good. even with photographs, i have been having a hard time remembering him before cancer ravaged his body. i have not been able to get the image out of my mind of how he looked when he died.

but now, i know. i know he's happy, i know he's healthy. i will carry this vision with me till the day i am reunited with him. i woke from my dream with a start, never in my life have i ever had a dream that was SO REAL! it took me a few seconds to realize it even WAS a dream. my prayers have finally been answered! :)

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mav63_2007
15 years ago
Dear Nina,
Happy New Year. I am so very happy for you because I am also waiting for that same dream. I have had dreams that have been nice but I haven't yet had the meaningful one like yours. I too can't get rid of that image of him on the day he died, emaciated from cancer. I pray DH visits you often. I wish you peace and happiness in 2011.
Mavis
Ninapearl
Original Author
15 years ago
thank you mavis and i do so hope you get your dream soon! mine gave me such a feeling of peace with finally knowing for sure gary is happy. if i never have another dream of him, this one will carry me through!

wishing you peace and happiness, too, in the new year.
(((hugs)))
nina :)
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carol_in_california
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I am so happy for you. You will cherish this memory forever.
My son died shortly before his eighth birthday and several months afterward he visited me. (That was in 1977.)
I can still remember touching his face and his body and I remember him telling me to quit crying because he was happy and was whole again.
A tree fell on him and crushed his skull and broke lots of bones in his body.
Ninapearl
Original Author
15 years ago
oh carol, i cannot begin to imagine your pain. as bad as mine is, i have always said the pain of losing a child has to be a thousand times worse.

i am so very sorry for your loss and i am glad you had a visit from your little boy.

((((hugs))))

nina
socks
15 years ago
My heart aches for all of you. I'm so sorry for these terible losses. The dreams, the visits, they mean so much.
EnjoyingNH
15 years ago
Thank you for posting about this wonderful dream. It made me realize that the dreams I have had about my Dad (who also died of cancer) were of him healthy. I cried tears of joy reading your post because I never realized how healthy my Dad was in my dreams, I was just elated to see him. That is another source of peace to me now and I thank you for it. May you have many more dreams to come.
sewluv2
15 years ago
I am elated and thankful that you posted your dream. It has been soon to be 7 years (May,2004) since the loss of our son and I am still desperately awaiting a dream to confirm his safe arrival into the afterlife.

Your experience gives hope to those of us who are still waiting that maybe
one day we will be the recipient of such a sign.

Do cherish the memory. May God Bless.
Ninapearl
Original Author
15 years ago
i'm glad my dream can give hope to others who are waiting. i really do believe that our loved ones are simply waiting for the right time, for the time they know we can "handle" such a dream. only 6 months ago, i think i would have felt more sadness than joy because i miss him so much. with the beginning of a new year, i firmly believe that gary knew i was ready and that is why my dream happened. for some, it takes less time, for others, more. i can only wish you all the same feeling of peace and joy that i had that morning i woke and will always carry with me.

God bless. :)

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