Hi folks,
I've been busy and sick since my last post to the board, where people so graciously helped me out trying to navigate freshman year with my daughter.
I have good news to report, pretty much as of today: it seems that she may have hit bottom already--and bounced back because of a tutoring appointment with her great math teacher from last year. That person knew her, loved her, wrote recommendations for her, even wrote me to ask how she was this fall because she missed her -- DD felt *known* and cared about by a teacher for the first time since she left homeschooling. The school DD's in pretty much s*cks, IMO. I'm not happy with it at all. And it's been grinding her down until she almost forgot who she was. But this teacher had her smiling again, realizing that the math the high school teacher was making so difficult was actually incredibly easy (which made her a bit ANGRY with the high school teacher)...as we got back in the car, she said "wow, I've been really floundering around...I made friends with everyone I could find this term but I'm realizing now that I have almost nothing in common with them -- all they talk about is hair and boyfriends...I am seriously bored with them...and I'm going to cultivate my friends who are actually interested in things rather than just in makeup and new hair curling irons". SERIOUSLY. All from this afternoon and one evidently quite tedious 'hanging-out' time yesterday. It's like she came back and remembered who she was! She actually said she loves that teacher so much, that she misses homeschooling for how fast and easily you could learn when you didn't have to drag material through a room full of people who didn't want to be there.
*sniff sniff* My baby's back! It's like Awakenings, although I sure hope she doesn't drift back...she won't. At least she knows that she's got a vibrant, excited-about-thinking, *authentic* person in there somewhere. And I'm actually proud of her, because she told me tonight that she's trying to bring the 'smart' and the 'social' groups together, and she's actually succeeding. That's my girl : )
ANYWAY, I now have an easier question: if you're changing music teachers because you think your child has maxed out the first teacher (the first teacher doesn't think so, but it's pretty clear to everyone else -- and having some really bad things happen - e.g. the music teacher leaving us hanging re finding an accompanist for solo/ensemble because it's not a 'homeschooling' kind of competition...I also think she doesn't want to promote DD too much because she's decided to cast her lot with homeschoolers only--leaving us with a bit of a bad taste in our mouths, but we're taking it as a sign that it's time to go), what is the protocol for doing it "correctly", with the least amount of agony or recrimination? Is there some agreed-upon way? DD won't leave until the spring concert/competition season is over, probably by about June. Or are we just in for some rough waters for a while?
I really don't want to sever our relationship, because we owe her the world, as far as DD's involvement in music is concerned. She introduced DD to flute and allowed her to love it. Taught her so positively, with such love and encouragement--she's a *great* flute teacher for beginner/intermediate...but now DD's really ready to move on. The only problem is that I don't think the teacher wants to let her go, even though she doesn't support her much anymore...
Thanks in advance for any tips/advice/warnings/etc. you can share on this.
I am also hoping that you all know how much you buoyed me up this fall, even though I couldn't come back and post about it...it just seemed too overwhelming at times. But I do think we've turned a corner. And to help it consolidate and solidify into a new direction, I'm going to make sure she sees this wonderful math teacher regularly--it's the best therapy there is for my DD!
les917
dedtired
Related Discussions
Question from an English Teacher Rose Gardener
Q
new here - long intro and questions
Q
Installing new tile around Gas Fireplace - Have Question
Q
Should I email the new teacher?
Q
golddust
mahatmacat1Original Author
anele_gw
dedtired
sweeby
mahatmacat1Original Author
hhireno
mahatmacat1Original Author
anele_gw
mahatmacat1Original Author
anele_gw
mahatmacat1Original Author
bestyears