Here it is. I don't understand one iota of what's in this log file. Thanks, Tom Logfile of Trend Micro HijackThis v2.0.2 Scan saved at 8:20:54 PM, on 5/14/2009 Platform: Windows 2000 SP4 (WinNT 5.00.2195) MSIE: Internet Explorer v6.00 SP1 (6.00.2800.1106) Boot mode: Normal Running processes: C:\WINNT\System32\smss.exe C:\WINNT\system32\winlogon.exe C:\WINNT\system32\services.exe C:\WINNT\system32\lsass.exe C:\WINNT\system32\svchost.exe C:\WINNT\system32\spoolsv.exe C:\Program Files\Lavasoft\Ad-Aware\aawservice.exe C:\Program Files\Plextor2000\AFSSVC.EXE C:\Program Files\APC\APC PowerChute Personal Edition\mainserv.exe C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\aswUpdSv.exe C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashServ.exe C:\WINNT\System32\CTSvcCDA.exe C:\WINNT\System32\svchost.exe c:\program files\common files\logitech\lvmvfm\LVPrcSrv.exe C:\WINNT\System32\nvsvc32.exe C:\WINNT\system32\regsvc.exe C:\WINNT\system32\MSTask.exe C:\WINNT\system32\stisvc.exe C:\WINNT\System32\WBEM\WinMgmt.exe C:\WINNT\Explorer.EXE C:\WINNT\system32\devldr32.exe C:\Program Files\Creative\SBLive2k\AudioHQ\AHQTB.EXE C:\WINNT\system32\RUNDLL32.EXE C:\WINNT\system32\LVCOMSX.EXE C:\Program Files\Google\Google Desktop Search\GoogleDesktop.exe C:\Program Files\QuickTime\qttask.exe C:\PROGRA~1\ALWILS~1\Avast4\ashDisp.exe C:\Program Files\Google\Google Desktop Search\GoogleDesktop.exe C:\Program Files\APC\APC PowerChute Personal Edition\apcsystray.exe C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashMaiSv.exe C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashWebSv.exe C:\Program Files\Qualcomm\Eudora\Eudora.exe C:\Program Files\Mozilla Firefox\firefox.exe C:\Program Files\Trend Micro\HijackThis\HijackThis.exe R1 - HKCU\Software\Microsoft\Internet Explorer\Main,Search Bar = http://g.msn.com/0SEENUS/SAOS01 R0 - HKCU\Software\Microsoft\Internet Explorer\Main,Start Page = about:blank O2 - BHO: HelperObject Class - (00C6482D-C502-44C8-8409-FCE54AD9C208) - C:\Program Files\TechSmith\SnagIt 8\SnagItBHO.dll O2 - BHO: Yahoo! Companion BHO - (02478D38-C3F9-4efb-9B51-7695ECA05670) - C:\Program Files\Yahoo!\Companion\Installs\cpn\ycomp5_5_7_0.dll O3 - Toolbar: @msdxmLC.dll,-1@1033,&Radio - (8E718888-423F-11D2-876E-00A0C9082467) - C:\WINNT\System32\msdxm.ocx O3 - Toolbar: Yahoo! Companion - (EF99BD32-C1FB-11D2-892F-0090271D4F88) - C:\Program Files\Yahoo!\Companion\Installs\cpn\ycomp5_5_7_0.dll O3 - Toolbar: SnagIt - (8FF5E183-ABDE-46EB-B09E-D2AAB95CABE3) - C:\Program Files\TechSmith\SnagIt 8\SnagItIEAddin.dll O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [Synchronization Manager] mobsync.exe /logon O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [AudioHQ] C:\Program Files\Creative\SBLive2k\AudioHQ\AHQTB.EXE O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [NvCplDaemon] RUNDLL32.EXE C:\WINNT\System32\NvCpl.dll,NvStartup O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [NvMediaCenter] RUNDLL32.EXE C:\WINNT\System32\NvMcTray.dll,NvTaskbarInit O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [LVCOMSX] C:\WINNT\system32\LVCOMSX.EXE O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [Google Desktop Search] "C:\Program Files\Google\Google Desktop Search\GoogleDesktop.exe" /startup O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [QuickTime Task] "C:\Program Files\QuickTime\qttask.exe" -atboottime O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [nwiz] nwiz.exe /install O4 - HKLM\..\Run: [avast!] C:\PROGRA~1\ALWILS~1\Avast4\ashDisp.exe O4 - HKUS\.DEFAULT\..\RunOnce: [^SetupICWDesktop] C:\Program Files\Internet Explorer\Connection Wizard\icwconn1.exe /desktop (User 'Default user') O4 - Global Startup: APC UPS Status.lnk = C:\Program Files\APC\APC PowerChute Personal Edition\Display.exe O16 - DPF: (156BF4B7-AE3A-4365-BD88-95A75AF8F09D) (HPSDDX Class) - http://www.hp.com/cpso-support-new/SDD/hpsddObjSigned.cab O16 - DPF: (17492023-C23A-453E-A040-C7C580BBF700) (Windows Genuine Advantage Validation Tool) - http://go.microsoft.com/fwlink/?linkid=39204 O16 - DPF: (2BC66F54-93A8-11D3-BEB6-00105AA9B6AE) (Symantec AntiVirus scanner) - http://security.symantec.com/sscv6/SharedContent/vc/bin/AvSniff.cab O16 - DPF: (56762DEC-6B0D-4AB4-A8AD-989993B5D08B) (OnlineScanner Control) - http://www.eset.eu/buxus/docs/OnlineScanner.cab O16 - DPF: (644E432F-49D3-41A1-8DD5-E099162EEEC5) (Symantec RuFSI Utility Class) - http://security.symantec.com/sscv6/SharedContent/common/bin/cabsa.cab O18 - Protocol: skype4com - (FFC8B962-9B40-4DFF-9458-1830C7DD7F5D) - C:\PROGRA~1\COMMON~1\Skype\SKYPE4~1.DLL O20 - AppInit_DLLs: C:\PROGRA~1\Google\GOOGLE~1\GOEC62~1.DLL mizkjs.dll O20 - Winlogon Notify: !SASWinLogon - C:\Program Files\SUPERAntiSpyware\SASWINLO.DLL O23 - Service: Lavasoft Ad-Aware Service (aawservice) - Lavasoft - C:\Program Files\Lavasoft\Ad-Aware\aawservice.exe O23 - Service: afssvc - Plextor Corp. - C:\Program Files\Plextor2000\AFSSVC.EXE O23 - Service: APC UPS Service - American Power Conversion Corporation - C:\Program Files\APC\APC PowerChute Personal Edition\mainserv.exe O23 - Service: avast! iAVS4 Control Service (aswUpdSv) - ALWIL Software - C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\aswUpdSv.exe O23 - Service: avast! Antivirus - ALWIL Software - C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashServ.exe O23 - Service: avast! Mail Scanner - ALWIL Software - C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashMaiSv.exe O23 - Service: avast! Web Scanner - ALWIL Software - C:\Program Files\Alwil Software\Avast4\ashWebSv.exe O23 - Service: Creative Service for CDROM Access - Creative Technology Ltd - C:\WINNT\System32\CTSvcCDA.exe O23 - Service: Logical Disk Manager Administrative Service (dmadmin) - VERITAS Software Corp. - C:\WINNT\System32\dmadmin.exe O23 - Service: GoogleDesktopManager - Google - C:\Program Files\Google\Google Desktop Search\GoogleDesktop.exe O23 - Service: Logitech Process Monitor (LVPrcSrv) - Logitech Inc. - c:\program files\common files\logitech\lvmvfm\LVPrcSrv.exe O23 - Service: NVIDIA Display Driver Service (NVSvc) - NVIDIA Corporation - C:\WINNT\System32\nvsvc32.exe O23 - Service: Pml Driver HPH11 - HP - C:\WINNT\System32\HPHipm11.exe -- End of file - 5854 bytes

From my point of view, Facebook is harmless and not annoying. For me, it's mostly been a way to find out about high school people and get to know a little more about about my brother's girlfriend. I think Facebook is fine, as long as you set your privacy settings the way you want, only add people to your friends list judiciously, and are sensible in what you do/don't post. Most of what happens on Facebook seems pretty superficial, but (imo) it's okay. To offer some thoughts for some of the things mentioned in this thread: * The suggested friends on the right side of my Facebook page are all people who are friends of people in my own friends list. I think their algorithm may give preference to people who are friends of multiple friends, because I do recognize some of the names that show up the most often as people from high school. It may also give preference to people within your network, if you've defined one. I haven't. * Facebook can access the e-mail address you have listed with them if you give it permission. When I access my Friends list, I always see a box asking me to give permission. I never say yes. * I've used the Hide [App] function to hide the Farmville, Fishville, etc. stuff on my Home page. There's a faint gray line between posts. If you hover your mouse under the right end of the post's line, a Hide button will appear. You can choose to hide the person or hide the application. I choose to hide the application, and I never see that stuff again unless I visit the person's profile page. * To make yourself unavailable for Chat, if you click the Chat thing in the gray bar at the bottom of your screen, a pop-up will appear that has an options box at the top. Click that. One of the choices will be Go Offline. Pick that option. No one will be able to contact you for a Chat session until you re-enable it.

I was discussing this thread with my 80 yo Mum. She said back in the day people knew enough to response and it was on their own stationary. She was shocked the first time she received an invitation with a response card. Seemed like a slap in the face, like she wouldn't know enough to rsvp. But nowadays, it's hard to get anyone to rsvp to anything. So whatever works - email, response card, smoke signal. I do use the response card but always add my own handwritten comment. The handwritten notes & rsvp cards with comments were such a treat to open when I got married so I always pay it forward, so to speak. Some brides probably thing "whatever, how many will be attending?". I don't think of myself as very sentimental but I did save a few wedding invitations that I found special for various reasons. It still makes me happy to see them when I come across them. It seems sad to think that by the time my 4 yo niece will be marrying I might be informed by text.

I would just like to stick to the subject at hand and not add unnecessary paranoia's to my ALREADY stressful situation. To "ReadingLady" - thank you. It's hard not to stick to the facts when emotions are involved. I've known this young man since he was 5 years old and I see the genuine love he has for his father and vice versa. I don't want to see anyone suffer emotionally and both of them are suffering a great deal right now. I watched my oldest daughter (age 31 from another marriage) go through the same thing. Unable to grasp the reality of being a self sufficient adult and making one mistake after another and NEVER, EVER sticking to anything. Her father and I had to stop the madness by saying to her, "you're on own." You get no more chances with us until we see that you are functioning as a responsible adult. She is now a college graduate working as a Paramedic, married, and just financed her first car on her own and is preparing to buy a house. Kicking her to the curb was the most heart wrenching thing I have ever done and I spent many a night crying. I went into this whole thing with the fantasy that we could all be this happy blended family, but he came with a TON of baggage. His mother is a recovering alcoholic (majority of his childhood was watching her drink), his father was only there for the summer months so there was never any parenting being done by either one! He's got this "The World Owes Me Something" attitude and the "United States is Stupid - The Rules Are Stupid". I tried telling him very early in the game that if he is caught with marijuana and convicted of possession, financial aid STOPS. You'll never be able to attend any university in the U.S. unless you pay for it out of your own pocket. His response? "That's just ridiculous." Now, he wants to attend a university in England because he does have dual citizenship. He believes that all he has to do is write a "KILLER" essay and Oxford will accept him just based on life experiences. His only long term job was in Bermuda as a personal trainer for 18 mos. He's one of those kids that if you're telling a story about something you've seen or somewhere you've been or something you've done, he'll top it with his on tale and will outshine anything you said. If we're watching T.V., he'll come in the room with his guitar and start playing. If he tells a story and everyone is sitting, he'll stand and become loud and animated while speaking. Always has to be the center of attention. He seems relatively smart, but it's just b.s. that he's read off the internet. No education. MANY, MANY opportunities to achieve higher education, but has blown each and every one - including the opportunity here. The LIST is what I will stick to and no other thing. It's simple and true. Thanks again!