Melanie: You can goof up my name and call me gidget or whatever. I come from a BIG family and have been called by siblings names all my life. Thank you so much for posting this info. Someone on another of these forums posted they were having same problem so I am now convinced it's Netscape's problem. If they don't get it straightened out soon, I'll look into using another browser. Have a great day, Shirley

I offended some people. I am so sorry, honestly that was not my intention. owbist, I remember you are one of the people that has helped me before. I did not mean to say that I expected instant help. It's just that I guess I have had luck because In all my past request for help. I have always had quick replies, and since my computer is doing funny things I thought it could be possible that my post was not showing. I know you all are volunteers and I have so many times wondered how you all can come in here just to help people.......I really admire you all. ---------------------- damccoy, you misunderstood me far worse. ".....because I am not sitting here waiting for help." I wanted you all to know that I was doing my best to find a solution on my own....THAT I WAS TRYING.... I have been coming here for many years. Sometimes for help and at times to see what I can learn......AND, I have read people being told to not just depend on this site, but to do some research on their own. That google is out there just for that. ======If I don' t get a respond this time it will be obvious. I will have to find elsewhere for help, I hope, because I am not sitting here waiting for help. I am googlying all over and can't find an answer======= That section is what must have made you angry.....my mistake was not being clear......I meant that if no one responded it meant that it was clear to me that my posting was NOT showing and I would have to try somewhere else where it would show.....I meant that not only was I asking for help here. Coming here is part of all the searching that I have been doing.........And yes, I hoped, I wished that I would find the solution by googling on my own if this site was not seeing my post . Problem is that I don't understand many of the computer talk to be able to fix on my own.........So again I am sorry, If again I need help here, AND I WILL, I will remember that words written down don't come across as they do coming out of the mouth......I will write carefully -------------------------------------- Malwarebytes' Anti-malware SUPERantiSpyware Microsoft Security Essentials owbist, today I scanned with all 3, updated just before, made a full scan on all three.....MSE found nothing.........the other two found some that I went ahead and got rid of.......I am on mozilla right now but that means nothing because M FF will let me on when it feels like it. Most of the time NOT....rarely it will. But when I used to use it before it gave up on me I would print shipping labels on PP..........Now since it let me on, I tried to buy the labels and ended up having to do them the old fashion way and will take to the PO tomorrow.......That is mainly my problem.......I will deal with whatever browser, even Chrome if only it prints the labels......... And none are doing it. Thanks all, HHH I said I was on mozilla, well it did not let me in here, so back to chrome

Whew! It's fixed now.

pseudo, What BM is doing to her kids is abuse, in my opinion. But, my opinion means squat. I'm not sure what your entire situation is, but have you and DH taken a 'defensive' stance? It sounds as if everything you do is defending yourselves and that no matter how ridiculous BM's complaints are, she is being taken seriously.... maybe because you are defending yourselves? When she says her son is bi polar... I'd respond by asking her why she thinks that. Then, suggest a professional evaluate him. I might even add my opinion to the professional, "he seems like a normal 10 year old to me. I'd hate to think of him being labeled as bi polar if he really isn't. I'd hate to see him on medication if he really doesn't need to be." and let the professional make the determination. It's just my opinion, but it's a bad parent that pushes to get their kid diagnosed and on medication for something, unless there are obvious signs that others besides mom notice. Thinking Munchausen by proxy? (Is mom getting something out of kid having mental health problem?) When mom wants to split up the kids by taking them on alternate weekends, I might ask if she thinks it's important for her kids to spend time with her together? It might create more rivalry if they alternate weekends. Imagine one kid comes back saying we did ______. and the other kid feels like he missed out on that fun. It can become a competition and about who has more fun with mom or who mom likes better. That rivalry can happen when they are together, but might be worse when they are split up. My SD is constantly worried that her mom is doing things with BF's kids when she's not there, or that she talks to her sister more than her. I'd point out that it's not about mom & her convenience, it's about the kids & what's best for them, even if it means mom is inconvenienced. If you are not defensive but making it about the kids, not about mom or you/DH, then you might get better results. Mom wants to be seen as the victim and your complaint of her is only going to fuel her image as a victim. But, if you are not complaining about what mom is doing, but complain about things that hurt/affect the kids... how can DSS or mom argue with that. Let me give you an example: In our situation, BM says she'll call SD back, then doesn't. Instead of DH calling BM (or someone else) and saying how terrible BM is for not calling SD, he would say to BM (or someone else) how upset SD gets when her mom promises to call but doesn't. She looks at the clock (when BM says I'll call you back in 30 minutes) and mopes around. Sometimes she calls BM back & gets her voice mail. If DH were to call BM and be critical of her not calling (or answering her phone), BM would feel attacked (& think DH is telling her what to do) and someone else might see him criticizing mom as him attacking mom. But, when it's presented from how it makes SD feel, it's not attacking mom, it's worrying about SD, which gets a different reaction. (mom still gets defensive & makes excuses but she can't argue that SD isn't sad when SD is sad by it.)