Has my wife rented you a room in our house behind my back? No it can't be - she doesn't cook.

I feel for you. I was sorta in the same spot you were with my first roommate while living in Chicago. Only the roles were reversed (I however did not have the cleaning tendencies you describe).

"Everything is fine and I'm just stressed" -I don't buy that. I fed the SAME line to my old roommate when she asked me what was wrong. Clearly there is more to her "stress" (in my opinion).

My old roommate started being a little more attentive to the dishes in the sink and food left out in the living room when a cockroach was spotted. I suggest, once in a while, take a little extra time and don't leave the dishes in the sink (even though its for a few minutes) same with you laundry. When you take your clothes out, put the dial setting back on permanent press before she see's it. The driveway thing makes NO sense to me. Sounds like she is sorta controlling.

If you don't mind me asking, is the rent spilt evenly?

if you refuse to move out, I would just do what she asks and stay out of her way, voila, problem solved. if you don't then you have to find a way to live with the griping. Personally I would move out.

Update! Rent is sort of split evenly. It's a three bedroom house. She occupies two bedrooms and the master bath, I use one bed with one bath. Since rent is charged by bedrooms, she pays 600 while I pay 300. But that doesn't matter. She's moving out in may! To a different state, which is sad. I think we could have been really good friends if we'd have lived apart. I do understand that moving states is stressful. I'm going to suck it up and do my best to make her happy

Wow...and I thought my old roommate was a clean freak! She basically set up a day each week that we had to clean, constantly vacuumed when it wasn't dirty, and got mad when dishes were left for a day, but this is just crazy. The laundry thing my god...I would be so pissed about that, how is laundry in the machine making a mess?? That baffles me.

Some people....I admit though I lived with two messy roommates once and found myself doing all the cleaning and getting angry about it, I think once I put stuff of theirs in front of their doors after they neglected to do anything while I was cleaning, but this was being fed up for a week from things that were left around by them.

I just think its best not to have a roommate, unless you find someone who shares the same cleaning habits as you, otherwise someone is going to be mad about it. But I guess living with a crazy clean freak is better than living with a lazy messy person - if you're constantly cleaning up after some messy person you might be more frustrated than living with the girl who's constantly cleaning and slightly crazy about it.

Sounds like your room mate is OCD. She may be functional, but she clearly has to have control. Just hope you find someone easier to live with when she moves out. Good Luck.

This is why you agree upon a minimal standard of cleanliness beforehand, and the "neat freak" of the bunch is responsible for anything above and beyond that standard. Your roommate sounds a bit nutty, but she's moving out. I'd suck it up for now and choose my next roommate wisely. Good luck. :)

Yeah seems like she is a clean freak and a control freak. That's why I work my ass off to live alone so I can eliminate that kind of problem.