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Message from Bet 6/13/10

16 years ago

As you might imagine, Bet is just not up to reading or posting yet. She asked me to share the note below with you. If you have any messages to send her,please send them to me. I've been collecting them & putting them in a separate email for her to read when she can (I've sent her your messages from June 11th and 12th). And I'm still taking donations for her husband's charity from us. Send your messages to me at 2bluwings@...

From Bet:

"Yesterday we held services to celebrate Doug's life. They were really special. He loved the outdoors, so we had arrangements of wildflowers at the funeral home and church (of course all native, but no threatened or endangered species! :-). Some of his friends who spoke at the memorial service teased me about dragging Doug along on the trail and to bluebird conferences. They also teased about his assignments while helping control house sparrows(he was the designated sparrow spooker installer, and terminator when needed.) But he never really complained about it, I think because he knew how much I love it, and selflessly just wanted me to be happy. He told me many times what joy it gave him to watch the look on my face when I opened a box and found a good surprise inside.

But yesterday was my last day of pretending this whole thing is not real. It's going to take me some time to get back to living life fully. For a brief moment I contemplated giving up on our trails because I relied on his company and his help too much. (We have one trail at the closed landfill that will be particularly hard to visit - we often had a fun picnic lunch up on the hill after doing the rounds.) But I know that giving up on bluebirding is not going to happen - it gives me too much joy, which I sorely need right now.

Over the years, I have read many accounts from people about how the sight of a bluebird seems to show up when you need it the most. At the wake, a neighbor said she was out for a walk at almost the exact time when Doug collapsed last Tuesday, and saw a big group of bluebirds making quite a racket (probably defending a nest) in an area she had never seen them in before. (She has always thanked us when bluebirds show up in her yard, for "sharing" them.) Maybe the birds she saw that day were some "our" offspring from previous years, with helpers from an earlier brood. It lifted her spirits, and mine upon hearing about it. Also, two times this past week, there have been double rainbows right over one of the first boxes (built by Dave Ahlgren) that we put up together across the street from our house.

Anyway, many thanks again to everyone for their kind thoughts during a time that sucks on so many levels.

Bet"

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