I really like these cultivars with that blue and green combo. That Sitka is HUGE! Cher

I had a similiar situation 15 years ago....against my better judgement "I went". The guy who was marrying my "un-named friend" very very close to my entire family, came from a looser trashy family. She came from great stock (father was a policeman) She was wonderful until this looser came along. She completly changed, although there was no substance abuse or alcohol on her part at all he was a BIG party animal and very handsome! So we went to the wedding he was late because he stopped at the bar with the guys in the Bridal Party...The bride sat in the limo crying...His mother is talking to me on the church steps she apparantly had a few and is smelling like rum..Finally the wedding starts priest comes out takes one look at the groom and says this will not be a High Mass (Catholics understand) Our family & close friends almost crawled under the Pew! He cut the ceremony to 10 minutes tops....And YES there was a brawl at the reception which started between Mother & Son who actually whacked each other several times before others stop that...on & On by cake time "the Bride feeds the groom lalala sing sing...his turned he smashed her in the face with the cake and almost knocked her off her feet at that point my Irish Temper family left because the guys were gonna KILL HIM!!! 1 very unhappy year later she got rid of him straighted out her life and is in a wonderful place right now....Him hes been in and out of jail and a Cocaine addict....That said if I would have followed my heart I WOULD HAVE NOT WENT! Good Luck in your decision

My husband and I contacted two lawyers today and made an appointment for a consultation. He thought maybe letting his son's mother know that he's serious about getting rights established that maybe she would be more coopertive and willing to reach a mutual agreement. She was furious!! She felt that he was plotting behind her back. Come to find out she was planning to move after the school year was over. Not too far away, but in another county about 35 minutes away. The sad thing is, she was not the one to say something about it. Their son told me this afternoon when I picked him up from school. Now she says the Shared Parenting won't work because their son would be too far away from his school to live with us equally during the school year. She said she was moving to become closer to her school and still close enough to her job. Maybe it's just all a coinsidence but it smells very fishy too me!! I didn't ask his son how long he new about it, probably should have, I was just to surprized to respond effectively. I just called his father after we arrived home to ask if her possible move was brought to his attention yet. So we went from feeling pretty hopefull to getting this issue resolved quickly and easily to feeling very sad and almost empty. It's not like he's moving to another state, but he has always lived no more than 10 minutes from us and is over everyother day/night. This news just doesn't feel right. I think this move has alot of potenial to change alot of things for the negative. Hopefully my husband can get rights and an agreement before the opportunity exists.

You've gotten some great advice so far. However, I don't see why you'd lose 'joint' if you went back to court. I'm not savvy on the law. DH and I haven't had these issues w/ his ex in years as the kids are grown, and I tried not to interfere back then and become overly involved, just supportive. Why wouldn't THEY lose 'joint' if it went back to court? I always thought the courts were more apt to give a BM custody - at least in the past. I assume his children w/ his wife are very young - about a 2 y.o. and an infant, so I doubt she was taking the cell away so the others wouldn't be jealous. I think she is trying to prevent communication and could be damaging him emotionally if he isn't told just how often mommy is calling to speak to him. Look into the above suggestion about dr. appt. and a mother taking him over the sm. Is she unable to be rationalized with? What about your ex? What is the reason you got the short end of the deal in 'joint' back when it happened? The silver lining is that the SM is concerned and seems to love him but it's in an all too possessive way at your expense. What is your take? Is she jealous you and your ex have a past? Did you ever have words w/ her? Is she very young and immature? Do you think she loves your son or is just controlling. Elaborate if you can. I still don't see why he isn't one week w/ you, one w/ them... Dana