sshrivastava, ok, great. Look, nobody has ever claimed that the OP would "benefit by people clicking on her thread" in any hard + specific way. It's just that the person does things that call out for more attention. We know "there is certainly no financial or monetary reward". Attention is a reward that billions seek. Something psychological can be hard to explain, if you aren't researching the phenomenon in the abstract general case first. You may be trying Too Hard to wrap your head around this one case. Step back and learn about the phenomenon that I described generally. Take a few days. There is nothing gained by saying that in the last few hours you didn't get it. The fact that you didn't get it, (not so far) is A-OK, perfectly permissible. And some people will say it's all no big deal. Some will say the opposite. OTOH, if you opened new threads and had a dozen highly qualified people all helping you, and if you didn't get it still and kept on hammering in various weird ways, well, ummm, then some would say you have a problem... (which is not the case). -- New topic. The better and better this forum becomes, the more you will see people arriving on your doorstep asking for help in self-centered ways. (Reminds me of immigration). But we are all participants, not customer service staff. When you consider how much thought went into the OP's thread before it even got created, it makes reasonable sense to ask that the thread title be a bit less "fishing for all to come in out of curiosity" and a bit more precise about the concern. But this factoid alone is worth nothing. Taken in a long series, it can be evidentiary accumulation. Some will say it's no big deal. Game playing behaviors are a detectable trend, but exposing the trend is difficult if one is called upon to list specific items that are each one hard enough to be cited as disruptive or offending. I hope this makes sense.

What’s worse is that they had disclosed that the home had needed piers for the foundation in the past on the disclosure form and included a letter from the president of the company that makes the piers, saying that the piers had a lifetime warranty that extended to new owners. What they did not say is what we learned from one of the guys digging the 8 ft hole where our living room floor used to be. He remembered being at the house before, when the first six piers went in. He told us that 12-13 piers were recommended by the company, but the homeowner had only agreed for the six that could be installed easily, outside of the house. So, the left side of the living room was supported, while the right side, the foyer, and the garage wall continued to sink. We had cracks in all the doorways that had to be repaired. Our front door and sidelights (one big unit) was removed for the summer of construction and a plywood wall was constructed to separate the construction zone from the occupied house. Each workday, the plywood covering where the front door belonged had to be reinstalled. It was crazy. We had a POD in the driveway, holding the contents of the rooms and garage that were under construction, for six months. It makes me wonder if the foundation company had a responsibility to say that the homeowner had not installed all of the recommended piers in the letter telling us that the warranty extended to us. That letter gave us reassurance that there were no foundation problems with the house.

"I assume from the above statements that you would agree that children who suffer sexual assault would be better off if their parents were able to find out about the assault and get the children therapy and medical care, and of course if the parents were supportive and non-blaming. As you pointed out, there is no way to be 100% safe. What advice would you give a teenage girl (or boy, for that matter) who was sexually assaulted? What would you advise a parent to say to their child about what to do if they ever were assaulted?" You are asking Imamommy who admitted to being assaulted which conceived her son as to what she would suggest to parents of assault victims. When she has said that she told no one at the time. What are you hoping to gain by this? "I am a bit curious as to why the morning after pill wasn't available to you. I thought it had been available in some form to treat rape victims since the mid 70's." "That surprises me. Even back in the old days of the late 60's, details of contraception were common knowledge among my peers." "When a famous birth control advocate came to speak at our school and displayed various birth control devices, the only people that were shocked were the administrators. Didn't you have sex education in school?" So when pressing her buttons on birth control (let's not forget that she was assaulted here) didn't work, let's move onto she didn't have anyone in her life to confide in, why don't we? "That is simply not true. People are a lot more likely to confide in someone if they have a close relationship with them and are confident that they will be believed and supported." "but I still am surprised that there was NO adult in Ima's life that she felt comfortable confiding in, even a few months later." "I just think it is sad that she was apparently not close enough to him, or to any other adult, to confide in them." "No, actually I feel sorry for her 17 year old self - not only because of the rape, but also because she was apparently not close enough to either parent or to any adult to ask for help." You are not just soooo sad that she had no one in her life to confide to. You are trying to prove a sick little point. Your passive agressive game isn't flying here. Whatever beef you have with Ima isn't that bad to stoop to the level you have. Claim innosence all you want, anyone with 2 brain cells knows what you were doing in this thread.

As far as some "teflon" Skids are concerned I need to vent.Some people are just cons. SD and SS raised in home as daughter and son-even called me mom on own their accord and admitting once when they had their own kids that their mom was terrible when they were growing up and thanked me once for doing all the mom/parent stuff that BM or DH wouldn't do. I have busted my butt for the sake of family and keeping things fair. I have made mistakes and admitted to them. Same rules for all kids his, mine and ours-depending on age. My SD has friends but when you look at what kinds of friends they are i.e. syncophants, not very attractive, low self esteem people pleasers- She dumps them when they are in need or don't worship her and has used people this way for a long time. I know her very well and that is what she doesn't like is that I know all her games and manipulations and lies. She outright disrespects me and when I say anything, its like shes' royalty and how dare I?! She is the type of person that does everything to hide anything that makes her less than perfect (in which no one is) and if caught says oh well, its my business or over now so whatever. She has blamed other people for terrible things. When it comes down to brass tacks, the only people she will really help are her brother and father. My family has been there for my skids when no one else was and have seen this behavior and the way she treats me. When I disengage from the games, she does everything she can to turn family against me. Like I said in other post her DH has always let her get away with it and now I have wasted precious time, caring, attention and finances that my own sons needed because of the constant drama and misbehavior of Skids. I know now that my DH used me to take care of everything, (esp. the dirty work-discipline) for him and his kids. They don't change! Huge waste of life and happiness.