Postscript: today, on this very same street where misguided teenybopper singers marry and gangsters torch their enemies, the streets were lined with.....fancy dressing rooms, decorated catering trucks, gaffer lights and all manner of film equipment. Well, if it's not one thing, it's another!!

This forum would be great if anyone ever camer over and posted. There is so little traffic here, perhaps b/c it's members-only. Sigh. I am usually at remodeling-type boards but occasionally cruise over here to see if anyone is posting. I feel sorry for your daughter! Ours have all had cocksackie (hand-foot-mouth) at times, it's awful but not as bad as the flu. Funny you mention tonsilitis--- Three of mine have it right now! (6, 4, and 3 yr olds) and the baby (10 months) has a cold. Yuck.

If you mean by peace maker, giving in and ending a stand off and if standing your ground results in the same behavior my daughter tried on me when she was 3 years old to get out of trouble (and it didn't work!), those are not very good options to choose from. I'm voting for 'cutting your losses'. In fact, you aren't just cutting YOUR losses, your cutting your son's losses because as much as you might love this woman, she is poison to your child. (and your relationship to him) Anyone that thinks the way to resolve their problems at age 27 is to put a pillow over their ears or hold you on the ground and change your mind with kisses or sex, does not have the skills for an adult relationship. Too bad you didn't see it sooner, but really... people don't usually change and you can try to stay as long as you can put up with it, but eventually you will 'escape' and by then, how much damage will it have done to your son? Will he be able to forgive you if your relationship with him is destroyed or damaged? Would it be worth it? R*U*N Vbunch R*U*N*!!!!

One of the things I love about this kitchen forum is that I can see so many different styles. Sometime it reminds me of watching salsa dancing where you could watch 5 couples dancing and everyone is doing something a little different to make it their own. When I was working on my kitchen, I could look at pictures and see what things people did that called to me. One of the things I decided on based on the finished kitchen was going with taller crown molding. I didn't even know I liked it or wanted it (chuckle - this forum is great for finding things you didn't even know you wanted ) until I tried to figure out what it was about certain kitchens that appealed to me. Looking at the kitchen magazines aren't much help because they are showing the kitchen that is double my budget, double the space I have, and with whatever is the in trend that season. I like that we keep the finished kitchen thread nice. It is a celebration. You want to encourage people to post because it is helpful to the newcomers in figuring out your taste and style and really contributes to the sense of community. If I post that I really like X about someone's kitchen - then I really like X about their kitchen or I won't say anything. It's interesting because some of my favorite kitchens have been ones that I could never pull off but they had that something about them that was visionary.