My neighbor cut my pea plants off the fence!! Will they live?
JadaMaria
10 years ago
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Comments (16)Ink, there is much you don't know about the situation, and I would ask you to refrain from comments about my attitude until you know what I know. These children are being done a disservice by their parents, and my tax dollars are paying the price. Their son needs honest to God parenting, and I think then, he would be far more manageable. His step-dad works most of the day and most evenings, as a pizza dlivery guy. his mother doesn't come out of the house unless it is to smoke. She now has the county providing a 40 hour a week caregiver for this child, because she simply doesn't interact with him. Last week, he was outside in his underwear for nearly 30 minutes, running through the historic park flanking the birthplace of our 18th President; mom and caregiver were inside. When they came to look for him, he ran into the highway. Neither picked up their pace from a leisurely stroll to save him, and he was nearly hit by traffic. This week, he grabbed a knife, attacked his 9 year old sister and is currently in the local Children's hospital for mental health emergency treatment. I'm not disputing the child has issues, and it would probably be safer for them to have a fence for the boy. But I know from my own experience, a high functioning autistic child with a parent who is active and involved and willing to provide structure and discipline copes far better than one who's parents are only out for freebies at the taxpayer's expense. My daughter doesn't need a fence, because I go outside with her, watch her, and interact with her. She is continually reminded of the boundaries and behaviors that are acceptable and she mostly stays within those boundaries. Tomorrow, the neighbors promise the fencing company will be here to start the fence install. Once it is done, we are going to backfill so that the gap between our lawn and the fence is leveled a bit, and then I'm going to be focused on keeping my area nice, and my children close at hand. And hopefully, the fence will be beneficial to this child, because with parents like those, that kid needs all the help he can get. Hopefully, in the future, the parents will learn not everything is handed to them and that sometimes, you have to work to earn the things your family needs. No one is "entitled" except perhaps our military. And if some think that means I have a bad attitude, then so be it....See MoreNeighbor asked how I felt about cutting down my oak!
Comments (30)Back to your oak, cd: It appears to be a fine specimen. You and neighbor get along so no reason to mess that up. I'd offer to do some "raising up" style trimming, simply removing whole branches some way up the trunk, in that area, and all around the tree so as to provide for a balanced crown. But as whaas and possibly others have said, don't do it now during the growing season if oak wilt is in your area. The insect vectors of this serious oak pathogen are attracted to fresh pruning cuts. Do the pruning in the fall or winter and do it correctly or have a competent arborist perform the work. A judiciously raised up crown is nothing to be afraid of. BTW, I too doubt that this alone will do all that much to help the hedge. But that's not your goal. Your goal is to appear to be cooperative so as to prevent this fellow from exercising his legal right to lop off branches at the point where they cross the imaginary line separating your properties, which when done usually leaves bad branch stubs in locations on the tree where proper wound closure won't happen. +oM...See Morehow far should i plant a Saba from my neighbors fence?
Comments (1)Your worry was not wrong. SABA comes with problem of extended pups with the passage of time. But you can control it up to some level. You could cut the pups down to soil level, but don't cut the corm, if you want to concentrate growth on the main stalk. You'll have to prune them back periodically though, as they will still grow. Cutting them off of the main corm could set back the mother stalk a little. Why not just let them grow? It's not like you have lots of pups to worry about yet, just one. That way if something was to happen to the main stalk, you'd still have a pup there. You just have to take care of the neighbors fence ;)...See MoreNew neighbor cut my vines on fence too short....
Comments (6)The vines are not massive and unruly since they are in heavy shade for 45 years or longer. How can the vines not be massive and unruly if they are over 45 years old? I am severely allergic to Carolina jasmine, even though I love the flowers and their fragrance. Not only am I allergic to the flowers, but I am also allergic to the mold that grows on the dead parts of the vines - I cannot go anywhere near those vines without a horrible attack of hay fever. You could easily be wrong about who the inconsiderate party is. If you had a tangerine tree overhanging into my yard, that would be a different story. I used to get tangerines from my neighbors in Venice, and they would get figs from my tree that shaded part of their patio. It's a good thing they liked figs, however, as they can be very messy. I think you are best growing vines on a trellis that is placed in front of your wall, so that the vines do not grow over it. I consider Carolina jasmine a pest, no matter how much I want to love it....See MoreJadaMaria
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