it will not harm anything you plant ...

my only fear would be digging it up while doing such ... so i dont know if i would mess with the area ... unless hubby did it deep ...

what a soft heart ..

ken

Maybe plant the flowers in a headstone type place. That way no issues if it is not buried so deep.

Sad story.

My husband buried Cuddles in the backyard 2 feet deep, so I could plant something over him.

I want to plant some flowers over the spot, and since people don't dig 2 feet for flowers, (at least I don't think so I've never planted a flower in my life), I think it will be okay. There is NO way I want to accidentally dig too far and see Cuddles.

2 of the other 4 kittens died. So there are 2 left, 2 brothers, and I called my friend and asked her if I could have 1 of them, since they were Cuddles' siblings but she said no. She's already attached to them both. I understand that, but it would have been nice to have one of the siblings.

Anyway, thank you for your responses. I appreciate them.

This post was edited by ilovemytrees on Fri, Sep 27, 13 at 14:47

I would wish my pets earthly bodies to be taken up in beautiful flowers and trees to shed beauty once again to the beholder. It's the natural course of events and not macabre.

I'm sorry about the loss of your kitten. I know how quickly you can get attached to those little cuties. My current 10 year old cat was a rescue kitten - she came to me with severe diarrhea, and her next stop was the shelter, where she would have surely been euthanized. When I called the vet, the secretary said "well I hope you aren't attached", quite aware that small kittens can die very quickly from dehydration, and I said "Oh yeah, we're already attached!" She did almost die from dehydration - I nursed her with eyedroppers of water, on a heating pad, and the vet gave her a shot of antibiotic and some subcutaneous fluid. Fortunately she made it, but she has had chronic GI and urinary health problems her whole life. Don't know if that's related or not.

Anyway I think that would be fine to plant over a memorial plant over Cuddles' body, maybe with a marker? Maybe your daughter can paint a stone or something. My back garden is actually planted over the previous owner's cat cemetary - I found the original "tombstone" she placed there, and had told me about it (we are still friendly). But never found any bones with all the digging.

PS It's probably for the best that the 2 brothers stay together!

If you remember the first Thanksgiving and the Pilgrims. As I remember the Indian taught them to plant their corn with a fish in each hill of corn. It seems like a small kitten would work the same way.

I think a fitting memorial would be pretty flowering tree planted over his grave.

I've appreciated all your responses so much.

Dh surprised DD and I with a 7wk old kitten. He walked in with the kitten and DD was absolutely ecstatic. She and "Tails" became fast friends. He has one speck of white on him, located on the very tip of his tail. It looks so funny.

I told Dh, look, he's adorable, but he can't replace Cuddles, no way no how. Dh said just give it some time. Then last night this ball of long haired fluff with HUGE paws(it's a Maine Coon) and big green eyes managed to scale our couch, then while I was holding him he smelled my face and then proceeded to lick my nose for about 10 minutes, and that's all it took. lol I looked over at dh who was smiling at me and I said ok, so maybe I will fall madly in love with him.

We're usually a lighthearted happy bunch, so it was hard for dh to see the "women" in his life heartbroken. He did the right thing finding us another animal to give love to.

In the spring we're going to plant something over Cuddles' burial spot. He will never be forgotten.

I realize this is the tree forum, so I won't comment on this any further, but I do appreciate everyone's compassion. xo

You are so very welcome. We may be tree nerds, but we have love for our animal companions as well. There is a pet forum here on the Garden Web, if you want to talk more about it or share your experiences with the new kitty in your life. One never replaces the other when a pet dies and you open your home up to a new one. They are each unique. When one passes, it is a tribute to them to open your homes and hearts up to an opportunity for another to have the same experience. Best wishes.