Coming into this late, but I feel your pain. I'm currently a SAHM with two kids (three and seven) and I'm drowning. But this is what I've learned in the past 8 years with two kids and a DH who didn't know the right end of a vacuum when I married him... Decrease your clutter. I know that this is terribly hard to do, but decrease it. Get what you can, OUT of your house. Bags, boxes, you name it...pack and it and dump it. Goodwill, friends, wherever. As long as it's OUT! Now is the perfect time to weed toys before Christmas. Get a couple of big boxes and have the kids at the same time, put in there things that they do not want. Do not watch them do this. AFTER they go to bed, then YOU go through it, bagging the truly unwanted stuff, and salvaging the precious "I'm saving this for you when you're grown" stuff. Put the latter in a box and stick it in an attic or garage, LABELED. Do not wait or it will turn into another annoying pile. Be tough with yourself about that part. Something from each kid, if ykwim? The rest GOES! Load it into the back of the car, van or truck. Get it immediately out of your house. The next time you pass Goodwill, dump it. Better yet, stick it in your DH's car and make him dump it on his way home from work. He's more likely to do it to get that annoying stuff out of his vehicle. Do this in each room of your house. The kitchen pans you never use. The crap in the garage that has been there for years. Keep dumping. If you are like me, you can fill a box yourself in about 20 minutes. The point of it is, the less you have in your home, the less that you hvae to clean, pick up, wash, dust, clean or pick up. Get large and small stackable plastic bins from Home Depot or wherever. Big ones for the trains...medium ones for the Barbies...are you with me? For frequently used toys used by preschoolers and younger, Home Depot has these big round rubbermaid buckets with white rope handles stick at least one in every room of your home. This is for the little people dumping. A three year old cannot put things away in bins...But a three year old can follow the dirction "grab all of your little trucks and throw them into the big blue bucket in the corner". It's also good for big items like that play weedwhacker, the stick pony, balls, dressup crap that never has a home (unless you have an estate). I can dejunk a floor in that matter (exluding things like board games and other stuff that actualy have to be put back together) in about 10 minutes. Even if it's a large room and trashed. I have a big home. I have three of them near my kitchen, two in the living room, four in the upstiars loft and one in every bedroom, even mine. (Their crap gets in my room too). If you get the kids to dump stuff into the buckets, you can follow behind with the vacuum. Once I figured this out, I had a lot less crap sticking to my feet. When it takes you all day to pick up, you run out of time to do the floors. And then you call Merry Maids or some other service and have them do a ONE TIME deep cleaning. Yes, spend the money. Have them knock the cobwebs, scrub your toilets, strip your beds. Kill the soap scum. While they do this, bang the dirty sheets in the laundry. In about 2 hours YOUR ENTIRE HOUSE WILL BE CLEAN! A clean house is easier to keep relatively clean then the depressing sight of a completely trashed home where you don't know where to start and you don't want to think about how long it's going to take for you to do it. If you really fall in love with this, have them do it every two weeks and maintain it yourself. And get your DH involved. One of the best presents that my DH can do for me at the end of a terrible day is wash my kitchen floor. I hate floors with a total passion. If he does it after I go to bed, I don't even have to watch! LOL And there is nothing better than to wake up to a clean floor...c'mon, you know how cool that would be? Forget roses, scrub something baby! If you really can't swing the Merry Maids, then do the decluttering and have it timed to be finished by Friday. Have your DH take ALL of the kids out for most of the day. I'm talking out to breakfast..then to a discovery museum..then out to lunch...then on errands. Keep them gone as long as possible. The pour the coffee and start banging. This is what I do, because I can't swing the MMs right now. But as soon as our budget will allow it again, I'm going for it. I, too, was raised by one of those 'do it all mothers', but the truth be told, we didn't have a third of the crap back then as our kids and families have now. We used to run the neighborhood because it was safe to do so. Spend most of the day toodling around town on bikes or at the public pool. We didn't have playdates or classes or whatever. We were out having a blast and Mom was ALONE banging the house all day. I had a Barbie and a Ken and a few items of clothing that fit in one tiny box. She drove a Kleenex box, not a covertible. My dd's BarbieS (all zillion of them) has a bus, a car, and a dreamhouse. Are you wtih me? So cut yourself some slack here. She was also powered on two pots of coffee, two packs of cigarettes and hardly slept. She got it done, but beat the everloving out of herself. Hardly a personal goal, if ykwim? So dump the stuff, enlist some help. Get the older kids to take out the garbage, pick up the nitpicky toys or entertain the little ones. Start dumping, and I will tell you a secret....dumping becomes addictive. Eventually you will get frustrated when there is nothing left to dump. And keep up with the Flylady. I'm doing it myslef with varying degress of success. Start from where you are, kwim? And don't have perfect be your everyday goal. You can be perfect or spend time with your children. You can't do both. Better some toys on teh floor and a Mommy that just played dressup, then a Mommy that never has the time. JMO, but words I live by.

Have had the same experience with purchasing clothes all within the same manufacturer and size, being completely differently sized than the tag. However, if you take the time to read the Made In " " tag, our clothes are now sol made in China and Indonesia, or most anywhere but the US. These US designer/companies send the work out to labor intensive sweat shops that pay their workers pennies. There are kids working full time in some countries. They aren't given the opportunity to go to school even if their village may happen to have one. The families need everyone to work to keep a home that many on the decorating forum would not feel fit to camp in, let alone live. Cheap labor begets crappy quality control. I don't think complaining will do much, now if we were to boycott enmasse, then it may be noticed, but how difficult would that be to organize? I absolutely hate to shop and do most of it online. I've noticed my need to return for size being my number one reason for doing so. I've always stuck with the stores that I can confidently order a size 8 and that size 8 will fit. No more. That size 8 may fit like a 10, 12 or 6, totally frustrating. Last bit of rant. I haven't notice the designers lowering the cost of their clothing as it was being assembled in countries where the workers are paid next to nothing. Anyone else notice deep discounts because of not being made in the USA?

so I will be paying THROUGH THE NOSE for poor coverage. I assume you are speaking as someone who already went to the ACA website, filled out the application and can see what coverage and at what premium is available to you? --------------------------------- Prior to ACA, I had to pay for my mammogram because I never met my deductible. Today, I had my "wellness" mammogram and it was so nice to not have to pay anything out of pocket. BTW, my premium is half what it used to be. Anyway, something interesting happened. I've been getting yearly mammograms since I was 30. My breasts are riddled with lipomas so as a precaution I get screened every year plus an automatic sonogram. My poor boobs have been poked, biopsied and aspirated many times so I've felt that the addition of the sonogram every year is just overkill. We know what they are, we know what they feel like and what they look like. They are completely different than other types of tumors. So I get the mammo and the technician starts complaining about how Obama isn't going to let me get a sonogram unless something shows up on the mammogram. She actually said "Obama" and didn't say a word about the insurance company. I said not getting an unnecessary test made sense to me and she just looked at me like I had three heads.

There sounds like a lot of miscommunication here. Did the GC hire the cabinet company, or did you hire them direct? Who did the measuring? Who did the designing? Did everyone get together and step off the design in the actual space before it was ordered? That's all water under the bridge now, but maybe someone else can benefit from your situation. It sounds as though you have several design errors, and then there are several order entry errors. The wrong sink base could have been a design or order entry error (and it really doesn't matter which to you). If the GC engaged the cabinet maker, then it's up to him to make it right. If you engaged the cabinet maker directly with the contractor just doing the install for you, then you (or hubby) are gonna have to yell at the cabinet maker yourself. The bar area will definately have to have some space between each of the end cabinets and the wall. Otherwise, your doors and drawers don't have enough clearance. You shouldn't need more than about an inch or an inch and a half. I usually do 1 1/2" on each end because that's a single 3" filler split down the middle and is easier for the installer. But I don't work with cabinets that are able to be customized width the way your line is able to do. For your case, an extended stile of about 1" is enough wiggle room to be trimmed to the wall. For your hutch area, I have an idea that might be an upgrade for you if you like it. What about using punched tin inserts, to make it look like an old fashioned pie safe. Or you could use some highly patterned opaque glass that you couldn't see through. That way you would be able to go ahead and install those cabinets and not wait on them to be replaced. Just remember: alcohol for the current stress, steel for the spine in the coming confrontation, and patience for this too to pass. Concentrate on the end result as being your goal, and all of the labor pains will be minimized when it's finally over.