Landscaping away the annoying neighbors
garden_gnome2010
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Comments (10)I was going to say this does sound like the beginnings of dementia. A friend of mine had a problem with a neighbor that escalated to the point where she (neighbor), was calling the police to say that my friend was trying to kill her, and was breaking into her home regularly; was coming out of the television, etc. I cannot tell you how much of a wreck my friend was over this. She was afraid to go outside as the neighbor would scream when she saw her. She was almost stalking my friend; watching out the window and waiting for her. Eventually, my friend moved out of the house she shared with another roommate and moved home with her parents for a while until she felt the situation had calmed down a bit. My suggestion to you would be to keep a log of all the confrontations you have had with her; when you've spoken to her sons, dates and times. That way if she calls the police on you or accuses you of something, you have some documentation of what has been happening. If you have another run in with her, I think I might pay a visit to the police to let them know what is happening and what your concerns are. I would think it would be better to be the first one to let the police know there is a potential problem, rather than wait for her to accuse you of something. That is the problem my friend had. She let things go for months, preferring to just ignore the neighbor when she accosted her outside. When the neighbor began complaining to the cops, the first few visits the cops made my friend feel they were taking the side of the crazy neighbor. Eventually, the cops came to realize the lady was developing dementia, and were sympathetic to my friend. But having the cops show up at my friends door for all types of crazy complaints did take it's toll on my friend. Best to be safe and prepared. Good luck...See MoreAnnoying neighbor
Comments (16)In comparison to some neighbors I've had, this guy sounds like living next door to the Cleavers.... Sounds like he's easily annoyed by noise - I think many of us can understand that. But I would guess by his comment that HE is bottling up anger at YOU just like you are towards him. Have you bothered to go over, have a cup of coffee and just ask in a kind way - "hey, last night when I was bringing in the trash I got the feeling I upset you, is that true?" See what he says. It's one thing to allow irrational people to ruin your lives, but many people are not good at confronting irritating behaviors directly, and in the long run, as the Bible tells us, it's better to address an issue face to face rather than building up anger and frustration. Be willing to listen - if making noise with your trash cans at 8:30 PM seems silly to you, you may feel differently when you're that age. I would expect showing some respect to an elder and seeking a resolution with a friendly spirit would get somewhere and help both parties not feel this growing frustration and anger. Dont' promise not to do something, but acknowledge the issue ("I didn't realize that bothered you, I'll try my best to avoid doing that when I can and I appreciate you letting me know that it's an issue, I didn't realize it and I want to be a good neighbors, I'm sure you do too...")...See Moretiny backyard privacy jeopardized by neighbor’s second story addition
Comments (9)I feel your pain. I live near the ocean in a tract of smaller single family homes that are all one story. Our neighbor behind us built into their entire backyard and then added a huge second story with a balcony off their upstairs master bedroom that looks right down on our home and yard. Their purpose was to have a (very distant) ocean view, but they completely blocked our very nice mountain view and took away our privacy. The lack of privacy bothered me the most. We planted bamboo at the fence line and have been waiting for it to fill in. It is not perfect (or for everyone) but each year we get a little privacy back. We did our research first and built in a barrier to keep it from going everywhere. We also are proactive and maintain it to make sure it stays in its lane, because the barrier isn't perfect. I think grape vines or bougainvillea would also give you some privacy, be easier to maintain, and grow nicely in your area....See MoreBlock Motorcycle Noise from Neighbor House to Bedroom 20 FT away. HELP
Comments (11)The Minneapolis MAC program used a variety of prime windows through the years but biggest thing that reduced the sound was storm windows and air gap they created between the prime window. The storm windows were either Monray or Larson SCS storms with either 3/16ths or laminated glass. The storm windows reduced sound enough to meets the goals even when single glazed prime windows were used. Some times they would use interior storms on casement windows , but there are to many of those in South Minneapolis. Storm windows can be problematic for vinyl windows. In the early days of the program money was abundant and they would dense pack walls with cellulose, Insulate ceilings and bypasses, install central air, update heating systems and more. Careful with concrete or brick walls as they can bounce the sound waves just like when I drop a gear on my piped bike and crack the throttle going through the Lowry tunnel....See Moregarden_gnome2010
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