Anneliese, when I posted on the quote of the day--yesterday or the day before--and wrote I was sending a "couple of prayers your way", I didn't mean to sound flippant. But when I reread it, it sounded that way to me--after it was too late to change it. Please know that both you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. I sincerely hope he is doing better.

I'm not nuts about the oncologist we saw; so I've been busy trying to figure out if we are staying there or not. They gave us the clinical trial info, so I've been trying to look more into those to see who else is doing what. He's not sure he wants to do one. We saw the radiation oncologist yesterday and liked that team very much. They answered the questions the oncologist didn't. Some of the test results weren't back when we saw oncology; so yesterday's appointment was very helpful. Hubby found a family Dr, she's younger then us and very nice. She has no problem prescribing in an emergency and also gave him something to sleep which didn't work last night. She's hoping that taking the sleeping pill for a week will reset his sleep patterns. The radiation team wanted him to see his dentist to make sure his teeth are in good shape. My daughter had an appointment for the dentist today, so I switched it, gave that one to my hubby and rescheduled hers. They did a mold of his teeth for a fluoride tray and will have it back in a week. He's going to do 5 days a week of radiation for 6 to 7 weeks. They are doing both sides of the neck. It will start the last Monday of the month. The radiation Dr said that his chances are good. They can only give a 3 year survival; he said 80-85%. He wondered why our original appointment wasn't until 2 weeks later. I explained how it was set up after my hubby's PET scan and before we had the surgery date, he was glad I called to reschedule it sooner. We will go back to Philly next week, he will get fitted for a radiation mask; meet with oncology & clinical trial and let us know exactly what the plan is. There was a chance his chemo drug would change. Chalk his cancer up to HPV, the test was positive, which was in his favor; surprising enough.

I'm sorry we missed your birthday, and sorry it wasn't particularly joyful for you anyway.... What rotten timing. Of course Covid at any time is rotten timing. Pick a month, any month, and pretend its your birthday all over again. I will sometimes try to slip away and just do something I'd find fun with DH. His sister married a man several years ago who is one year older almost to the hour than me....if there is a party its usually for us both. Long ago before they were a couple, I worked for him, and would have to share the office birthday cake. I'm still sharing that d*mned cake! But a Happy Belated Birthday to you, we'll do better next year?

Age is certainly relevant with the individual and it's what you make it. I've been told often that I don't look my age, and I certainly don't act it. When I'm out with my friends I have a great time. One lady asked if I was divorced, and I told her my husband died. She looked at me in surprise and asked how old I was when he died. 62. She was stunned that I was that old, much less older! I was out with a g/f last weekend on a day trip. She took a selfie and it's one of my best pictures ever. If I get the nerve to do the online dating thing, I'll try and crop it. 😃 I do market research and one lady I was calling was perturbed that I was calling so late. She said she's 64 and was heading for bed, (this was at 6:30pm) She sounded much older. Another call, a lady answered, and she said Sure, she'll do my survey, as she's sitting with a glass of wine listening to Il Divo. She was 80. Worlds apart in view.