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Comments (21)Nope - I guess I'm just having a couple of bad days. Even my daughter said I've been "jumpy". I just finally qualified for my SSD, and also found out my private carrier will supplement it - thank goodness! I was so worried. Things like this just stress me out to no end. I wish they didn't, but, hey, sometimes life is just life. I had a Jamaican friend, when we used to visit Jamaica, who always said "....it's just life all over"! And, everything in Jamaica is slow and easy, if you've ever been there. So, apologies to all, and sorry for the upset. I love each and every one of you for being there when I have so many absurd things to say. Things just seem to spill out of my mouth without any rationale behind them at times. I am so ready for butterflies. Next week is all in the 60s and close to 70 by week's end. That will be a boon to being inside so much of this winter. Many a gloomy cold day in Oklahoma this year, and I'm just not used to that. My car is broken down for now, and I haven't been able to go anywhere. I've been outside 2Xs since the 1st of January. But next week, I'll be outside doing some cleanup and seed sowing, too! Oh, if you think that is outrageous, you should have been on the Aroid Forum the year people were attacking each other politically, spiritually, emotionally, every which way but physically! The thread was over 150 replies long, right about the time that these forums were being taken over. Some of the comments were just so over the top. Susan...See MoreIs anybody else shocked?
Comments (4)We should not take good healthy food for granted. It has been fairly easy for us here in the US to get over the years of my life, but it has not always been so, nor is it so for a lot of folks in this world. Caveat emptor will never go away as a useful motto! I was lucky because I grew up around food producers and still have access to them and the ability to garden and shmooze other gardeners for stuff. That helps I think. I don't think we should take food security lightly, that's for sure. But also don't loose perspective totally so you can't even enjoy a meal! But I think people need to work for what they want and stand up for it or it will be easy to watch it all go away. Look at how thing are in China with their food scandals all the time. They have even more trouble than we do holding their food producers accountable since their society is an authoritarian dictatorship. Just thank your lucky stars you don't live in that country! I've been involved in seeking out healthy food all my adult like, and the way I see it, it is always easier to cultivate positive things in your life than to focus on what is negative. Seeking out sources of food grown and produced by folks who care about more than just the bottom line is a pleasure for me. There's a whole community of great folks out there who care about their food and each other! The community gardening movement is really taking off where I live, and lots of great friendships and networks are growing out of that. There have always been folks around who appreciate wholesome food so this positive stuff is always out there if you choose to seek it out. I am so happy to be rejoining a co-op that I was a member of 25 years ago. It is still going strong in my little town, along with two health food stores and an ever growing selection of organics in the local groceries. Plus a local farm market, milk shares, etc., etc. I work at a plant nursery, and every year the vegetable section is expanding because more and more folks are wanting to grow some of their own food, so that they know the quality! I'm not surprised by the trends out there, but I don't fret too much about it, I'm too busy bucking the trends! :)...See MoreAnybody else just ready for the holidays to be OVER?
Comments (47)Count me in. To all who have lost someone, and the holidays are difficult because of that loss, I'm so sorry. Both of my Grandmothers died this year, and brother #2 is in the Middle East doing a very dangerous job. The last few months have been emotional and stressful. Palimpsest, you just might be my long lost twin. Wow! Your description of the years past is just spot on for me. As I age, some of my angst issues get better, some get worse, but I don't miss many of those earlier years. And I *really* don't miss school. I don't have happy childhood memories of the holidays, and I think as a young adult I tried to overcompensate for that. There was a lot of (self imposed) pressure for everything to be just right and perfect and happy and wonderful. Year after year was a miserable failure at that, so I've changed my expectations a LOT. Both for myself and everyone else. DH grew up not celebrating Christmas, so when we met, the whole family/tree/presents thing was difficult and uncomfortable for him, which also made it weird for my family. Over the years, everyone has changed their expectations and stretched their comfort zones, and it's mostly all good. I didn't work for the first 5 months of the year, and have only been working part time since. I had no idea that I would have this much trouble finding full time work (I'm in medicine) and the loss of income has been pretty substantial. I'm just not feeling very merry this year. Not neccessarily ready for the holidays to be over (I almost feel like I've missed it this year) but ready to move on to 2011....See MoreAnybody else here get treated like a leper around the holidays?
Comments (16)I apologize in advance, because this is going to be similary "unsupportive," but here goes ... What makes you so sure that what is going on here is that you are "excluded from many parties because [you are] a single, older woman"? Are you really being treated as a "leper"? Or just as a drag? You say you don't want a "pity invitation," but it sure sounds like you do. In fact, it sounds like you don't even mind not being included as much as not being asked. But how often do YOU invite THEM? Of course it's harder for one to entertain many than vice-versa, but it's not impossible, and you don't need to do anything fancy or as big or as frequently as they could do (if, for example, financial situations differ) -- just an effort to show you're a giver, not just a taker. Story 1: Many years ago, I had a single friend who used to complain frequently that married couples never include singles. I made a point of always inviting her to any party we gave, because I didn't want to be "treating her like a leper." It was a few years before I realized: SHE NEVER INVITED US out or over to her home -- not even once -- or even me separately. That's when I stopped inviting her to everything. Story 2: When my father-in-law died, my mother-in-law complained that the married couples ignored her. The other widows in her condo were wonderful about calling her, though, and she did lots of things with them -- until the instant she got a new boyfriend; then she dropped them all with blinding speed, and they soon stopped calling her, too. I thought to myself, "What goes around comes around -- she'd better hope he never dies." And now he has, and she would rather complain that "everyone excludes widows" than pick up the phone and call friends -- couples or singles -- and see if someone wants to go out or even just come over and watch TV. But why should they call her if she never calls them? Story 3: When my dad was in the later stages of Alzeheimer's, and then after he died, my mom made it a point to call her friends -- couples and singles -- and arrange evenings out a couple of times a week. Once a month, she gave a dinner party, mixing people who don't know each other well. She is CONSTANTLY busy, and she doesn't keep track of who invited whom -- but I know there are plenty of invitations and calls both ways. She is the most popular person I know, with both couples and singles of all ages. Story 4: My husband and I took a page from her book and give parties now, too. Our guests include singles and couples, old and young -- the more of a mix, the better, in fact. The sole criterion is who would help make the conversation good. Ergo: fascinating, friendly single people are prized guests; selfish, boring couples are out. It's not just parties, either -- I call both couples and singles when it's time for a movie or dinner or whatever. Do you see the point I'm getting at? People invite guests who are fun and interesting, and who reciprocate hospitality. Single or couples -- doesn't matter. Being single is no excuse for expecting always to be the invitee, for whining that you're being ignored, or for imposing guilt. Married people who commit these social sins soon find themselves "treated like lepers," too -- so don't assume that if you are lonely it is because others are cruelly excluding you because of your single status. Ask yourself honestly who YOU would rather include: someone who calls you once in a while him/herself, and who is a cheerful, low-mainenance guest when you do the inviting ("Sounds like fun! What can I bring? And do you want to go for coffee before then?"), or someone who answers the phone, "Oh, I haven't heard from you in ages. I thought you forgot about me. No, of course I'm free this weekend -- as usual, I'd just sitting here alone. Well, if you can get a ride for me, I guess I can try to come ... will you be serving anything I can eat?" You say, "I don't know anybody else who doesn't already have plans, so I can't start my own party." That's not a function of being single, it's a function of waiting until everyone else would have plans -- the same would happen if a couple waited too long to invite. Ditto transportation. I don't know if you are in a position to learn to drive, or if the distances are short enough to make an occasional cab practical, or not. But perhaps there would be a way to solve the transportation hurdle if that really is an obstacle, not an excuse. The phone works both ways, folks. The way to have a friend is to be one. Sorry for being so harsh, and for butting in where I may not be welcome, as I am not currently single. But we were all single once, and most of us will be again, willingly or not. I just wanted to offer "your married friend's point of view."...See More- 2 years agolast modified: 2 years agoAnnegriet thanked socalgal_gw Zone USDA 10b Sunset 24
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