No, you’re not out of line to express displeasure at all. I’m not a big fan of eye of round and would not be happy if they got my order wrong. My own experience with eye of round is that it’s a fairly tough cut, though it can have decent flavor. It comes from the rump area that gets a lot of movement that results in a tougher cut. Yes, it can be roasted like a rib roast but needs to be thinly sliced like other tougher cuts. It would NOT be a good replacement for a rib roast IMO. As you correctly posted, a nice rib roast is very flavorful and tender due to all the marbling.

Contact the store through the online assistant. I used Kroger pick-up for a year and a half during the pandemic and they always gave me credit for their mess-ups and I didn't have to return it.

Perhaps I should have been more forthcoming from the start. I am a tad frustrated with DH.He did some errands for me yesterday, gave from himself and went to a lot of effort. But I had also wanted him to get going earlier in the day, especially so that he could stop by a a grocery store and Alsi’s before the afternoon and pre-holiday crush. He is om the phlegmatic side (which can be irritating with hop-to types.) So I didn’t want to feel unappreciative or come across as a crabby nag (but am afraid I have tuned into one after many year.

He seems to be disinclined to pay attention. That’s fine if I am talking outloud to myself about planting the wrong type of itch plant. But someties, details need to be heard. I find myself wondering is a person can grow into or develop ADD after 60 (?). Is he hard of hearing? stressed> depressed? suffering cognitive decline? experiencing selective oppositional or defiant personality disorder? I speak to him and he’s looking or rwsponding to a corner of the room, or looking around. I pause because, in my experience, he has a difficult enough time paying attention when he’s looking in my direction, and when he is ”shiny balling” there’s a good chance he’s not registering what I am asking or saying.

I find myself taking extra steps, writing things out, highlighting sections, including photos….

I do not want to be pedantic or spend so much time communicating simple instructions, and I have plenty to do.

So, I was clear, he phoned and said ”rib roast” but not the roast that was on sale in flyer or even that sort of roast. So Round roast is what he brought home. He’s done the same thing before and maybe I could make some videos for him, but he’d have to watch them and he might feel resentful. Despite Aldi’s flyer sayi ng ”While supply lasts,” he cannot get there until Thursday evening. Slapping my forehead. Well at least…. something….

There is a frozen Prime rib Roast in the freezer and if he wants, we can roast that.

But because of too many hours of ”nobody there” and my feeling that I am herding geckos, I think I will just keep my BP in check and snacl or eat more healthful food, do yoga and exercise, clean my office. I am exhausted, fatigued and in chronic pain anyway, but I keep feeling like a have to sort of babysit — even just to keep part of our little chaotic household running a bit better. He’s a good person, just in his own world and disinclined to listen.

That why the generators never had to fuel run through them last season (summer fall of 2022) and are all gummed up and no longer work. I suspect that sore arm or not, if I don’t go the the garage and run the fuel through the _summer_ power equipment, that the mower and string trimmer won’t work in June ’24..

I am worn out and burnt out. We don’t celebrate Christmas, Valentine’s Day, New Years, birthdays or anniversaries. I had hoped we could connect and plan a bit of cozy warm day, evening, if not ”joy.” He is not a particularly joyful, enthusiastic or imaginative person. It’s as though it does not occur to him. I think of him as pretty much hugging the X-axis. Retiring, passive. It’s difficult. We are even more different than even. He is not particularly adequate at ”team,” communication or cooperation. We might discuss AI, politics, the speed of a microprocessor. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I will just re-adjust my expectations (again). The house is warm, plenty of food. TV, news (ugh), stuff to clean, pzint and toss or Re home. One upside is that I don’t have to rush around shopping, wrapping or cooking. I can go give tne dinner call to the gang of five cottontail that often run up to greet me. That’s a hoot.

We can freeze that tough round roast (overpaid) and maybe cook the freezer rib roast (defrost time ? 2 days in fridge), or make Chinese food — he’’ll be happy to do that and even make a dessert. He can cook some good meals. I wish he had more enthusiasm, get up and go, motivation. He thinks he’s in touch with himself, but I think, not so much. No goals. No plans. I could ask his doc to ?? what? Phys exam is good. Vision and hearing okay. Verve — missing.

I sometimes ask him if he is just waiting for his dirt nap? What’s up? What’s he want? Is he sad? Mad?

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Thanks for listening. After the holiday ‘rush’ (stores), I plan to get a hair cut, a few items of post-pandemic clothing, stretch, exercise, start some delphinium, plan to escape where we live (Mr. will never discuss moving or house maintenance, but I cannot conyinue living is such a large house with two sets of stairs (ouch).

I was originally looking at a recipe for poor mans rib roast for Christmas dinner to save money which used eye of round, I changed my mind after reading reviews and went ahead and bought 8lbs of prime rib roast. It is boneless and my 1st time cooking one I hope it turns out well

“It is boneless and my 1st time cooking one I hope it turns out well.”

You’ll be fine and it will be wonderful. It’s actually easy to cook if you have a meat thermometer. FWIW, below is the method I use…pretty much foolproof.

petalique, I would try as Eileen suggested and contact the store. I do understand when you say details need to be heard. I’ve sometimes dealt with that, too.

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Traditional Method for Prime Rib

Remove roast from refrigerator about 2 hours (an hour or two more if it’s a very large roast) before roasting. Pat surface of roast very dry with paper towels-this promotes good caramelization (flavor and color) on the surfaces.

Preheat oven thoroughly (at least 1/2 hour) to 425 degrees.

Optional: Stud roast with slivers of fresh garlic, using the sharp tip of a small knife to guide garlic pieces into meat.

Generously season roast with salt and fresh-ground pepper.

Place prepared roast into preheated oven for 20 minutes (30 minutes if roast is very large). Reduce heat to 350, and continue roasting until desired temperature has been reached. The total roasting time will be about 17 minutes per pound, for medium rare. Check with instant-read thermometer, inserted in the thickest part of meat, not touching bone. Thermometer should read 125 for very rare, 128-132 for medium rare, about 135 for medium, about 140 for well done (which is not recommended).

Remove roast from oven and ALLOW TO STAND for 20-30 minutes before carving.

Here is some information from a book that I have, and it is very informative. Cutting up in the Kitchen, by Merle Ellis, a butcher. (A round is not my favorite cut of meat.)

Any chance hubs is a bit depressed? Sounds like he’s always been this way, though though. At least you got him to go to the store ( eventually), which is more than I could have gotten my ex to do.

My one son seems to have the ability to turn off his hearing. I say something to him and he invariably says ” Im sorry, what did you say?” He such a good person, i shouldnt complain. Sorry hubs is driving you nuts at the moment.

I think we used eye round to make homemade philly steak sandwichs. Slice very thin . It helps if its half frozen, then saute, melt some provolone on it, shovel it on a good roll and add fried onions.

Relax and enjoy the holiday season.

Oops, just looked it up and the preferred meat for a steak sandwich is rib eye. oh well.

I just saw this recipe and it looks good.

https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/eye-round-christmas-roast-17206548

I can't use it, because mine will not eat beef that is the least bit pink. So the only beef roast I cook is pot roast, like chuck or shoulder.

Did he get the instructions in writing, or was it just verbal?

To be fair, these days, I often can't recall something from a minute ago.

And if this is how he's always been, what's that line about repeating the same thing and expecting a different outcome? If it's a new-ish behavior, There might be something going on that needs medical evaluation.

petalique, if you end up using the roast you have, Sherry’s link from FN sounds like a good option. Slicing thin and against the grain is key.

You really need to have a talk with your DH along the lines of "I appreciate you doing the grocery shopping for me, but if I ask for a specific thing it's because that's what works with the recipe I'm planning to use. When you get something different then I have to scramble to find a way to change the plans."

We have a "click and collect" system with groceries here which I use due to ill health. I order the groceries, and all DH has to do is drive up to the loading dock at the appointed time (within an hour, though it's also OK to be late) and they load the groceries into the boot of the car. You can specify "No substitution" or the parameters of substitutions on each item, so you get what you want.

Last time I did a grocery order online it took almost two days for them to get it together. ai went twice to pick it up at the scheduled then rescheduled times. Finally said the heck with it and did my shopping elsewhere.

(((petalique)))

colleenoz - my DH acquired shopping and cooking skills when I went through treatments for advanced breast cancer and 10 subsequent years of drug therapy. He's retired now, and has developed genuine interest in those things. We now alternate meal planning and prep. My only gripes are he never puts cooking tools back where they belong, but he alphabetized our spices. Best wishes for you.

Adding that eye of the round is VERY lean and if over cooked will become dry and stringy. It was my mother's preferred cut for a pot roast, and sliced thin and served wiuth gravy.....and made a wonderful not roast beef sandwich.

I am sorry you're going through this. The last time I sent DH to do grocery shopping he brought home 5 cantaloupe because "it was such a great sale".

My DH isn’t bad at shopping but he has limited patience and won’t fossick through things looking for just the right thing. He’s very much in the ”near enough is good enough” camp :-) But if I have a preference for a particular product, it is because experience has shown me that that works best for me. So unless it’s just a very few items, it’s easier to put in a ”click and collect” order so I know I will get what I asked for. Luckily our big chain groceries seem to mostly have their act together.

And @seagrass_gw Cape Cod, DH can also cook, and will if i ask him to (he just feels I do it better so he does the dishes instead), but even after living over 30 years in the same house, with very little (on my part) putting dishes and utensils and other kitchen equipment into new places, he still manages to randomise my cabinets for some reason. 🤷‍♀️

It does sound frustrating. I think it's ok to explain and next time, I'd write it all down in great detail! I have to say I do my own shopping as I'd go crazy if mine came home with the wrong thing. Especially at this time of year when staying zen is essential LOL.

The only grocery shopping I trust my husband with is Walmart pickup that I did online with no substitutions checked.

Aldi I do not like. I went there a few times for their ”sales” and they never had the meat. Even first day, first one in the door.

I don't know about other stores but Kroger texts when there's a substitution, which I have to approve. If I miss the text, they check with me when I pick up the groceries and will remove the item if I don't want it.

https://blog.thermoworks.com/beef/eye-of-round-roast-beef/

Thermoworks recently posted this, Eye of Round Roast Beef: A Prime Rib Substitute if Cooked Correctly

i normally use eye of the round for sandwiches, since it is lean

Reminds me of Jeanne Robertson talking about her husband, who she calls Left Brain, going to the grocery

Petal, I understand your plight more than I like to admit. It sounds like we are married to the same man.

Jeanne Robertson was a gem!!

LOL! Colleen! I know that kind of man too! But he doesn't ”randomize”. He has an illogical-to-the-main-cook idea of where things should go so has no interest in learning where things do go. But I know whole families who run on wherever it fits, and never know where anything is. ;) If I send such a man to obtain something he's not interested in, I give him an exact description including brand and size—and aisle if I know it! And if I can, I include pictures! He can match pictures to products as well as any four-year-old playing lotto. ;)

I’d be pretty p.o.’d if my husband substituted round for rib.

I think of round as needing to be treated rather like brisket. Not my cup of tea.

Hubby does sound potentially depressed? It’s not an easy thing to assess and then address, what with the parlourous state of healthcare and mental healthcare in particular. We’ve dealt with some of this in my family in the last few years. The relief and joy that can result is worth the effort.

If not that, then his life needs to be made a living hell until he shapes up.

[I recognize that seems to be my frequent advice to wives with complaint-inducing husbands, but hey it works for SWMBO.]

I got what i asked for I wanted and had to take out a loan to pay fo it when i got on pick-up. Boy has the prices increased this year!