Compromising when you purchase a home
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What compromises in form or function did you have to make?
Comments (15)Most of my compromises were budget related, which I think we all face, where a different appliance or material is selected because of the budget. One major budget item: I did forgo enlarging an opening between the EIK and FR, because to do so would have added $7K to the budget (would have required us to re-reroute the entire HVAC system and add a new footing in the foundation). I do not miss the openness and in some respects, the original character of the home is better preserved. I think my layout does not conform to the ideal standard because of the desire to keep the original sink placement and architecture. It's a corner sink, so there is a small jog around the island to get the range and pretty long distance to the fridge. It's not a barrier island, but a small detour around the island of a half a step. It's been a non issue. I have a prep sink on the island and everything gets unloaded and worked there. I don't have a second oven because there is no room in the layout. I have not missed it -- I was able to fit an 19 lb turkey and half a ham on T-day in the 36" range, side by side, with no issues. I also have a WD to put the other stuff in. I originally was going to put an ogee or dupont edge on my counters. However, the island was laid out too large, meaning my aisleways shrunk. I had to go to a mitered flat edge, because it has the smallest overhang for a 2 cm laminated countertop. It gains me back an inch to inch and a half in the aisleway. This is function over form, ever so slightly....See MoreHow did you have to compromise?
Comments (4)We compromised by not bumping walls to increase our square footage. Initially I regretted all the limitations that put on our redesign but now I just notice how nice the cabinets look and function, how shiny the new appliances are, etc. Right now all you are seeing is that big bulkhead thing, but when you start getting all the other changes in place the bulkhead will most likely become less obtrusive to you. Over time you start focusing on the things that function well, the things that look nice. The things that bother you initially really do fade. Not sure exactly how that works but I know the one piece of travertine that was right in the middle of the hallway that was sooooo much lighter than the other pieces, the piece that really stuck out like a sore thumb and everytime I walked over it I regretted not asking my DH to replace it. Well now I walk right over it and I don't even think about it or notice it?? That is just one element of your new space, it will become less and less noticeable to you. HTH...See MoreKitchen Compromise - How do you co-design with your family?
Comments (8)I'm not sure "co-design" is the operant term. Co-evolve? Co-hallucinate? Co-riccochet? or Zig-zag as a tag team? We've been married 40 years. This is our third project on this house. It's DIY with DH being most of the Y. I started this one with a hope for a really distinctive muse, to make this former little postwar Midwest tract house look like the oldest house on the block, a Swedish farmhouse that had been here for a century and a half. I really thought I could do it. But this was my dream only and at a certain point in the planning I abandoned it. We now have a "cute" addition at the front that does make the house more symmetrical than previously but the only thing I can do to it to make it mine on outside is to work on making it look slightly mod, slightly quirky, and NOT like a craftsman bungalow or other tract house pseudostyle that's popular right now and that DH sees and hears about from construction trades friends. "Death of a dream" is one of the comments I made on one of the threads. I have conjured up and destroyed so many visions for this kitchen that I blush to remember them all. The one I see now is, for better or worse, the one I'm gonna live with for a couple more decades. Or more. I guess it's okay. I have reserved the opportunity to buy appliances at a later date and hope that living with the space will make it more personal as time goes on. I was trained by my mom from childhood on how the wife of a strong personality works behind the scenes and tries to assert herself and occasionally wins. DH would tell you that this is my design and my vision. But if I kept a running list of his "wins" and mine, he would be surprised to see how much influence he really did have--a great deal, I assure you, starting with how he and the designer ganged up on me regarding windows and where the range would go and how the ceiling would connect. Once he and this guy and other structural experts he consulted had set up the parameters, I just worked within them; but I also made a lot of choices knowing that I _could_ have chosen things that DH dislikes, but would have felt terrible about doing it. I could have made many choices to spend more too, but I know that this would be counterproductive for the marriage, starting with very different wood cupboards that were much more elaborate and much more expensive but would have given me a thrill to own and handle daily. This is not my kitchen, despite what he says. It's our kitchen. Money and practicality and the infrastructure were more important than my whims. I do wish that we had made different decisions about flooring. I really should have had cork for my health --we talked about it from the beginning but the idea went byebye at some point and he chose wood for kitchen and tile for lobby and hallway. My feet, legs, and back will always remember that compromise. No, that concession. I wrote here at GW at one time about how I had misunderstood his tastes at some strategic times. Trying to get him to commit to "I like that, I dislike that" was very hard, but then once I'd make a choice or at least an inclination, sometimes the judgment came down surprisingly hard against it. Often this was when I was trying most to please him, leaving me very confused. I no longer pretend that I can predict what he would say he likes or dislikes. The damn 50 cent porcelain floor tile I picked out from a remainder pile that we used in lobby gets praise from him over and over. Whodathunk it? And once we committed to that, then my box of other samples quietly got put into a closet because they were wrong with it. And that caused a chain of other decisions that are now "cast in cement" so to speak....See MoreFound a nationwide compromise for 5-1-1 at Home Depot
Comments (28)Here's some info about dolomite. It is from a master class in agriculture. Just remember you add lime, then foliage pro, better watch what you do. To much of a good thing can be just as bad. ---------------------------------------- High-magnesium lime Dolomite, or high-magnesium lime, can cause problems too. When dolomite is applied in too large of a quantity it can cause an excess in magnesium and have a negative effect on yields. The problem is it can be as long as three years after the excess lime has been applied before seeing the greatest amount of potential damage to the crop yields. By this time, unless the grower has kept good records, a connection between the liming and declining yields may be overlooked. (A moral here is to keep good records of when, where, how much and what type of lime each field receives.) Have you applied dolomite lime on any of your fields in the last few years? If so, count three crop years from the time of application and check the yields that year and thereafter as compared to yields prior to liming. Even if the applied magnesium from dolomite lime will have a detrimental effect, do not expect to see that yields have dropped the first year. For example, when too much dolomite is applied to land for cotton, it can eventually cause the plant to send out two lesser roots instead of one longer taproot. These roots do not go straight down, but curve to one side instead, and have less depth than the one taproot would normally have. (If you rip and hip, this effect will not always be as evident.) It will take three years to see the full negative effects of overusing dolomitic limestone. But when overused, once those effects have come into full effect it can cost a cotton farmer about ¾ bale of cotton per acre, every year, until the problem is corrected!Excess magnesium costs money In corn, on medium to heavy soils, a high level of magnesium (15%+) costs the farmer 10 bushels of corn per acre. Above 20% magnesium on the soil test reduces the yield by another 5+ bushels per acre. In addition, it will require more nitrogen to produce each bushel of corn every year until the problem is corrected. In legumes, taking soybeans as an example, 13-14% magnesium levels can cause 10 bushels per acre loss per year, even when all other nutrients are present in the proper amounts. Be sure what your soil really needs Even though too much, or the wrong type of lime can cut yields, limestone should always be applied where shown to be needed. Applying the proper amount of lime in the right form can provide far greater increases in yield than the losses that occur from misuse. Have your yields suffered in certain fields in the past few years? If so, avoid the mistake of failing to correctly check for and properly apply any lime that is needed. Just be sure that you use enough to correct the problem, but not so much that it causes problems three years from now and several years thereafter. If there is a need for lime, autumn is the best time to spread it for next Spring's crops. Do it correctly as needed and see the difference liming can make for crops over the next several years....See Morebeaglesdoitbetter
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