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Comments (1)Fall would be a better time to dig it,I the donor will wait until then, Summer digging is very risky. A big enough containor with some root pruning and a equal pruning of some bank tips to compensate for lost roots. Build a box, ceder or pressure treated, 3ft.x3ft.x3ft. Its quite a job, your going to need help. Its not a one man job. If your going ahead with this have a qualified person look at it. Digging in heavy soil can be problematic. Ron...See MoreHow do you solve the 'excuse me, I need that' problem?
Comments (9)I think Marcolo is right. It's probably only a very few things that cause the problem. I've had 6 people working in my kitchen with only a few 'scuse mes. In my old kitchen, no matter what, there was no way to have more than one person in the work area without them having to move over because they were totally in the way. In the current one, it's just a can I reach in there for a sec kind of thing. Partly that's drawers instead of doors, I think, but partly it is from organization. One thing that helps is that the optimal place to stand for prep at the island is in front of my fridge drawers, and for all that they're great, they don't need a lot of opening. You could replicate that by putting less used things where the prep chef's belly is. My secondary island positions are on the ends, and, especially the sink end, also don't need getting in much. The other end just has wraps, junk, boards and racks. Not high demand. There's enough room at the clean-up sink for the washer not to be in anyone's way, and the work area there is above the DW. By stacking used prep dishes in the least used corner, on the other side of the sink, the DW doesn't have to be opened while someone is working there. I try to pull out any pretty bowls and pie plates that I'll need for serving from the baking area before the cooking starts, so the baking counter is more available. There are wooden spoons in both the baking utensils drawer and the under cooktop drawer. There are some odd flatware pieces in the baking utensils drawer, for stirring, tasting, spreading, etc., so that kitchen flatware doesn't have to be fetched from the far side of the kitchen. There are mixing bowls in the island and the baking area, and also Pyrex pie plates in both. There are small prep bowls on both sides of the main prep area, so accessible to everyone. The only things I bought extra for this doubling was a couple of table knives to be put in the baking drawer. The forks and spoons are from my college set but those knives are weird. I got a couple of heavy duty ones, with good spreading blades, in open stock at the Corning outlet. The other things I just salted around a little. Maybe this kind of process would work for you? Designating undisturbed stuff for the standing areas and spreading things around a bit?...See MoreI know I need help so please don't criticize!!!
Comments (8)Dad has GOT to take a more active stance. Bio-Mom doesn't get to dictate all of the terms just because she has primary custody. The problems you describe are serious, and heading down a nasty, difficult road. If Bio-Mom doesn't change her ways, this child will be one of those 'never grow up, live at home' adults who can't hold down a job or maintain an adult relationship. I know Momma loves her 'baby', but it's going too far, waaay too far. Is there any indication that the child isn't capable of doing for himself? Any signs of a developmental disability? Since he's old enough to be in school, I'd schedule a conference with his teacher. Or rather, I'd make sure your husband does it, then show up there yourself "to be a supportive wife and stepmother." It'll be walking a tightrope, but it's necessary. See what types of difficulties he's having in school, of if he's able to cope there, but just not at home. Whether or not to include Bio-Mom is a tricky issue -- Maybe talk to the teacher first on the phone so you get an idea of whether or not she has the same concerns you do? If she does, let her be the one to take the lead with Bio-Mom on ways to encourage independence and self-reliance. If the teacher isn't concerned, it could be that stepson's behavior is specific to your household -- which would be a whole 'nother can of worms. (If you have the same last name as the child, odds are good the teacher won't even know you're the step-mom until you tell her -- Which of course, you'll do at the 'appropriate' time.) There are ways to encourage a child's independence without saying "You have to do it yourself." Try showing him once, then asking him if he can do the next one. (Make sure it's something small and simple where his chances of success are near 100%.) If he's slow to comply, be 'unavailable' to help for a few minutes -- maybe "as soon as I get back from the bathroom" or "take the clothes out of the dryer" or "stir the pot for dinner." He'll probably rather do it himself than wait. Or tell him how much the 2 year old looks up to him since he's so much bigger, and ask him if he can show the little guy how to do something. (Never mind that it could be the reverse...) Letting him know what to do, then walking away and leaving him to fend for himself can be a very effective strategy. Praising small advances, looking for good behaviors to reward, and admiring 'big boy' things may also encourage the types of behaviors you want to see. Good luck - and hang in there. Above all, try to remember that the little boy's self-crippling behaviors are a result of his mother's actions, not (yet) a character trait....See MoreI know how much I need to do this but I couldn't
Comments (5)I'm very happy for you about work, but you still need to get to the doctor about those head aches.I know you are scared and I would be too, but you will not be any good to any one else if you do not take care of yourself. I know I sound like I'm preaching, but you really do need to take care of yourself. Quit worrying about work, they seem to be very pleased with you at work, and they don't won't you feeling this way either. Now tomorrow morning get on that phone and call the doctor. It may not be anything real serious, but do you want to go through the holidays, feeling this way and not knowing? Not too long ago my dh was having alot of problems and I was just as scared as he was. The not knowing is almost worse than what is wrong. When they finally figured out the problem, we didn't like the answer, (m.s.) but at least we know what we are dealing with now. Please, Please go....See More- 3 years agolast modified: 3 years ago
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