Your request for help is quite broad and without a lot of specifics. That makes it hard to answer. I'd suggest breaking it down for yourself and for us like this: 1) Before you start choosing finishes, you'll want to solidify your kitchen and likely furniture layout/orientation. You'll get the most help with that if you post a current floor plan of this entire floor drawn to scale with measurements noted on. Your architect might already have a floor plan you can share here, or you could make one with a tape measure and some graph paper. Generally a 1 square = 1 foot or 1 square = 6 inches is a good, usable scale. Please indicate on the plan which sections of which walls are coming down and any other features (good/bad views out certain windows, fireplace, ducting that can't be moved, etc.). Also note anything you'd particularly like to achieve layout-wise (e.g., an island, a view from the island to the TV, etc.). Post that and and people will have enough information to make helpful suggestions. 2) While you're fielding suggestions about your layout, sift through Houzz and Pinterest to find some inspiration pictures you like. Look for rooms that really sing to you and have the kind of appearance or feel you really enjoy in a home and want to achieve here. Once you have found, say, six or more pictures like that, post all of them together on here and ask people to help you review the images and figure out what the commonalities between the pictures are. This will help you identify what specific things you really respond to so you can include those deliberately in your new spaces. 3) After you can articulate what it is your really like and want to bring to this space, THEN repost this question about colors choices and finishes with that information. Provide your final floor plan (the result of #1), explain what specific finishes you like or what you're specifically trying to achieve through finishes (the result of #2), and then ask us how we'd achieve those stylistic preferences in this space that you have planned. You'll get MUCH more targeted, helpful help. Only then will people understand your taste and the space that we've got to work with. THEN they can say helpful things like, "You might like X paint on Y surface with Q backsplash, plus maybe G feature on M wall? That takes advantage of your space for K reasons while adhering to your taste." Also, some side notes: a) I think you'll have an easier time balancing the dining set with styles you prefer if you break up the set across several different rooms. Use the table in the office, the chairs in the dining room, and the hutch in the kitchen or whatever. With all three - the hutch, table, and chairs - together in the dining room (and being the only furniture in that room), the country note you don't seem to be a fan of will inevitably dominate that room. b) I disagree with Sophie that it makes sense to hire an interior designer at this time. When you bring in a professional, you want to have some idea of what you're asking them for. Something you want them to help you achieve. I don't think you have that yet, and free discussion here is a good way to pin down your own thoughts a bit more. c) I don't think whoever said this looked like an inexpensive house meant it in a denigrating way. You mentioned several very large ticket items (kitchen reno and opening up two separate stories of your house), and I think she/he was simply trying to make sure you're not putting more into the house than you can get back when you sell. That can be devastating. But in case that made you feel weird about having posted, rest assured that people post on here with every single kind of house. Is this the grandest house we've ever seen? No. Is it the humblest? Also no. But no one cares. We're all just here because we like improving homes. The starting point really doesn't matter.

Its the one with this caption " June 15. I kind of like this transitional rustic vibe you've got going here, so I didn't paint your fireplace or add a mantel. I like the way it echoes your front door. I replaced the rug with a Moroccan style 9 x 12, but I like your rug better. I think you could use a swivel chair, and I replaced your coffee table with Crate & Barrel's Seguro. Also added frames and candles on the mantel and raised your drapes."

If you choose to seek help from a qualified interior designer be prepared for a long delay in the project commencing. I think you could benefit from someone who can do 3D videography and space planning. That way you can see the future space and tweak it as you go along in the process. They can add your finishes (cabinetry, flooring, countertops, etc.) to give you a feel for the way the space will look when all is said and done. This helped me immensely. This will take time, and money, tho. My design took 6 months.

Here are lots of photos of girls bedrooms, see if you can find one she would like. https://www.google.com/search?q=pink+painted+girls+room+seen+in+a+photo&client=safari&channel=mac_bm&sxsrf=ALiCzsbf43w5xOkiKVvOYwt7R_pKahsyrA%3A1656694729854&source=hp&ei=ySe_Yr21MaTn5NoP7sS0gA4&iflsig=AJiK0e8AAAAAYr812VOowQnyCXD8cGGlRPEjRSd5gaWc&ved=0ahUKEwj9vfzmlNj4AhWkM1kFHW4iDeAQ4dUDCA4&oq=pink+painted+girls+room+seen+in+a+photo&gs_lcp=Cgdnd3Mtd2l6EAw6BAgjECc6BAgAEEM6CwgAEIAEELEDEIMBOggIABCxAxCDAToOCC4QgAQQsQMQxwEQowI6CgguELEDEIMBEEM6BwguENQCEEM6CggAELEDEIMBEEM6DQguELEDEMcBEKMCEEM6BAguEEM6CwguEIAEELEDEIMBOgsILhCABBCxAxDUAjoICAAQgAQQsQM6CAguEIAEELEDOgsILhCABBDHARCvAToNCAAQgAQQhwIQsQMQFDoKCAAQgAQQhwIQFDoHCAAQsQMQQzoFCAAQgAQ6BggAEB4QFjoICAAQHhAPEBY6CAgAEB4QFhAKOgUIABCGAzoJCAAQHhDJAxAWUABYt7UBYMjAAWgAcAB4AIAB1gGIAbkekgEHMjYuMTIuMZgBAKABAQ&sclient=gws-wiz