Firstly, about that episode where your bio father suggested sex: you had no way to know to anticipate it, & you had no way to control or stop it. Although it *is* obnoxious, offensive, & disgusting to you & to me, it sometimes happens when bio family members meet for the first time as adults, so much so that counsellors now warn adult children who are meeting their birth parent(s) for the first time to be prepared. & your bio father's family troubles belong to him & to them, not to you. If anything, it sounds like your father brought you into the family to be used as leverage. Dispicable, but the responsibility & the shame belong to your bio father & not to you. Cut yourself free from that particular chain & don't look back. Today is what matters, & you & your children are living under unbearable stress, in a hostile environment, & you're all paying a terrible price. "He thinks I'm evil" is *not* the description of someone you can afford to turn your back on, let alone trust, let alone spend your life with. (note: He doesn't think you're "evil"; he knows that saying that will shatter you, & that's why he does it.) He's been lying to you & manipulating you since before you were married, his family sounds like a co-dependent, disfunctional mess, & sending copies of the facebook pages to all of them sounds like that you've been caught in the same web, going to everybody else for vindication or action instead of dealing with the one person who's actually accountable. If your husband doesn't have any consequences for continuing to behave as he always has behaved, *nothing will change*. He's entirely comfortable, even happy, with his life, he doesn't care that you're unhappy, & he controls you by striking at your most vulnerable points; why would he change anything? It's like raising a child; if you say, "do that one more time & you're losing computer priveleges for a week", & the child does it again, you *have* to take away computer priveleges for a week, or you're just teaching the child that (s)he doesn't have to pay attention to anything you say/threaten, that you're powerless, that (s)he can do *anything* & the worst that will happen is that you'll yell. If you tell your husband that he has to treat you with the respect to which anyone is entitled or you & the children are leaving, & then he says something obnoxious or betrays you by talking to his family about you or does any single obnoxious thing, you *have* to take those kids & leave. (In fact, at this point, I think you have to take the kids & leave anyway; your life & their lives are being corroded every day that you spend in the environment controlled by your husband & his family.) Although it isn't your fault, although you've been manipulated to think you "can't" do anything because you somehow bear the responsibility for his behavior, so far, you've been like the parent who threatens but does not act. Even if your husband never hits you, he's abusing you: A person who controls another person by manipulation, who calls her "evil", who blames her for his own behavior...is an abuser. Get some professional legal help, get some psychological help (abusers *never* go to counselling; they don't want any interference), investigate what kind of help is available for abused wives, & get your kids & get out of there. I wish you the very best.

frankginakay, Where we are staying, they offer the test there. We aren’t vaccinated but we’ve had Covid, so we aren't really worried about the test, but I've had quite a few friends go, some have had Covid, and some not, and have all made it through fine. I think Cabo is getting more crowded now, but more people should be vaccinated by then also. I can’t imagine if you are vaccinated, you’d have anything to worry about. I have decided not to get my 17 year old son vaccinated for awhile, especially since he has had Covid. Letting it play out. I'm sure the vaccine is fine, but for him being young-just feels more comfortable that way for us. I am the mom who got his childhood vaccines when he was a baby ONE AT A TIME. I know his pediatrician was probably aggravated at me, but I wasn't taking any chances. I just think giving that many vaccines at one time is not a "one fit for all" for every baby/toddler. That's just me, and I feel good about what I did. When it comes to things like this, I research the heck out of everything!

Angela, that confuses me. Why is it any more "gross" to add or remove grapes or cherries or whatever to a bag or container on the display than it is to just pick up produce on display and place it into the bags that are provided there by the store? Much of the produce here is in displays where you pick what you want and place it into one of those produce bags, it gets weighed at checkout. There are exceptions to that, of course, like bags of onions, apples or potatoes, sleeves of celery or those plastic clam shells of salad mix or berries, and I don't open those. Most are already sealed and cannot be easily opened at the store anyway. But if I go to the store and there is a bin of "loose" beets or leeks or whatever, I choose what I want. I don't see how that is different than placing or removing a piece of produce from the bags on display which are usually left open. My understanding is that the "pre-bagged" produce is for convenience to the consumer. That's one of the reasons that all produce should be washed before it's eaten. You don't know who has touched it, how many times, how it was handled before it was packaged. And, of course, most produce is grown outdoors in dirt which tends to be....well....dirty. Wind, rain, soil, animals, there are lots of contaminants before those apples/potatoes/cucumbers even get touched by a human. My only question is what would I do with that slimy piece of asparagus or mushy potato? I wouldn't want to leave it sit there mixed with the good produce and there are seldom bins for discard in the produce section. I wouldn't carry it though the store for the cashier to discard, so where do I put it? It's inevitable that some produce will go bad before purchase, do stores in other areas provide some way to to isolate compromised items? Annie

@Lars Right, what you're experiencing is what I'm experiencing. Are you using an adblocker? If you are, which one? I've been using Ublock Origin for so long I don't remember how to add a filter to Adblock Plus but it should be just as easy. In Ublock Origin, to add a filter that I was given, I would click my Ublock Origin icon, open the dashboard, paste the filter at the bottom of "My Filters", and click "Apply Changes". For Adblock Plus, there should be a similar way to accomplish the same thing. (there is, I just don't have it right here in front of me :) )