Do you dream of your deceased family members?
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Dreaming of deceased pets
Comments (8)Sunday is usually the only day that anyone in my family can take a nap. We relish it and so look forward to the time after lunch to hole up in our bedroom and catch up on sleep. Well, my 13 year-old son came into my room yesterday afternoon, sat in the chair and was very quiet. I spoke to him and he spoke quietly and deliberately. I asked him what was wrong. Paul said that he just had a dream that made him very sad. Our cats from SoCal (Chester & Darla - littermates) were playing with him and he was a bit teary because he misses them so much. I was surprised that my son was so sensitive to them being gone. It had been 2 1/4 years since we moved to Kansas City. Darla was gone just before we moved and Chester 1 1/2 years before that. They were lovely, lovely cats and cared deeply for each other. I'm really lucky that my son is so openly sad about missing them. I have never had a situation where I dreamed about a departed pet and this struck me because of this topic over the last few days. I don't know if this really means anything. We have two 4 month-old cats (2 sister siblings) and a puppy (12 weeks) so, perhaps, it is natural that this come up. I do refer to them (as I do my other long-departed furkids) so I don't know if I brought this on myself. There wasn't really anything I could do about his sadness. That was a bit frustrating since I didn't really know what to do other than to tell him that it was natural to feel that way. I had the best dog, Diamond (our field spaniel) die at 13 years-old from cancer on December 5, 1993. I always remember that day although I don't recall the exact dates my other dogs and cats died. Weird, huh? Robyn...See MoreDo you Remember your Dreams, or Feel they Have a Significance?
Comments (30)I have vivid dreams. I absolutely believe dreams they are significant. At least mine are. I have had dreams that have been in great detail showing me the setting,the people I am in, with people (I may or may not know) and what is being discussed. Even a decade later I found myself in the same scene, with the people in my dream with the same topic and even some exact words being used. After a somewhat traumatic experience in my late teens I had a recurring "nightmare" for years and years. In it I was running away from something in an alley. I would then see the ally's end blocked by a car. I would turn and run the other way. There would be a loud explosion in my head. I would reach behind me and the back of my head would be a bloody mess. I would come awake terrified (actually "feeling" the blood and gore on my hand)and then would always become confused as to why the back of my head was gone if I had been shot from the back. Almost years later I had to go back in time and deal in the environment related to the original traumatic events. I needed assistance regarding unrelated matter. I was given the assistance and ended up being helped more than I expected. That week I had the same dream come back. Only this time when I saw the car at the end of that alley I realized it was a sanctuary to run to, not away from. I had always been shot from the front in my previous dreams. I was just running towards the danger when I turned away from the car. After that final dream that clarified everything I have never had it again....See MoreIf you have a serious illness do you tell your family?
Comments (31)A hidden chronic disease, there are so many of them. Mine are migraines. For others, it is back pain or arthritis, or inflammatory diseases of various types. Hard to determine what others responses will be. Say you have migraines to someone who has them or has experienced them, and they will instantly understand, know how to help you, and be supportive. Others think you are making it up to get out of things. I met a guy once who got migraines, and he said, "Yeah, I know, most people think it is made up or a "girly disease." We commiserated. Another similar story, I moved for a job once, and someone I worked with offered to let me stay at his house until I found a new apartment. The first night we were watching TV in his family room and he said, "I hope you don't think I am too weird, but I have to do these back exercises or I can't function. I do them while watching TV." I said no problem, I totally understood and then I relayed my migraine experience, so I knew what it felt like to have a disease that many people thought was weird or "all in your head" (literally). So he told me that even his DOCTOR thought he was making it up about the pain or was just overly sensitive, UNTIL the doctor himself started to have back pain and back trouble. Then he realized how unfair he had been to his patients all these years. Some say suffering teaches us compassion. While there is not necessarily nobility in suffering, it can sometimes teach you compassion. Depends on the rest of your psyche and life experiences. The way I see it, there are some folks out there who have the capacity to care and support others, and some who do not. Ya just have to forgive the ones who don't and appreciate and bless the ones who do! I know I really bond with folks who have lost someone rather tragically, as I recently did my mom. Sometimes ya just have to experience it to know what it means. I have always tried to be supportive, but now I am especially aware of things I could do to reach out. Oh, and speaking of appreciation, I want to give a moment of thanks and remembrance to one of my Gardenweb friends, Tricia Evans, who also suffered from some "hidden diseases" and was one of the kindest souls imaginable. She gave me so much advice and help from the Cooking Forum. She turned me on to the book, "Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired." Love you Tricia, thank you God for putting her in my life!...See MoreWhy do people give money to the families of the deceased?
Comments (46)When my husband died, I had limited experience with the death of a loved one, so I didn't know what to expect, neither did I really know what was expected of me when others died. But I learned a LOT living through that time. When people die, others just show up. We didn't have a lot of relatives, but did have many, many friends. They just came. They brought food. Because so many people came and went, people were helping with memorial celebration items, my husband's family arrived from out of state (thankfully, housed by a next door neighbor), people just coming over to give me some love, etc. I was so grateful for the food that people brought because there were provisions to offer visitors or even have a meal myself that I hadn't had to cook or shop for. The outpouring was wonderful. I didn't know that before; I might have waited to be asked to come thinking that was the polite thing to do. One of the best things someone brought was a huge basket filled with non-perishables, like crackers and dried fruit and canned gourmet type foods - olives, pickles, smoked salmon, cookies, etc. I can't tell you how many times I was able to put together a little snack offering for someone visiting. Often it was because I was hungry, too. Since I wasn't really familiar with how nice that was, it hadn't been my way of behaving toward others previously, but now it is. I show up. I do what I can. I bring food, run errands. Give $ if it's needed. I learned a lot about what can help. The $ people sent me was almost always from his co-workers all around the state, few of them known to me. I did find it odd, but I knew it was given in love and caring for him and their admiration of him....See More- 5 years ago
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