I've always thought of them as being a dream, not a nightmare. A lifelong dream.

elmer has had a lifelong dream to wear a bra? Interesting...

Hahahahahaha!

I think everyone else understood what I said, sorry it wasn't as obvious for you.

Now that this one is here.........a friend of mine tried the Calvin Klein bras at Costco. She finds them extremely comfortable, so I tried some.

Pkg of 2 for $25, so a great deal! Sizing S-XL. Microfibre.

I bought the Large, but they flatten rather than support. She's very small busted so they work for her. Instead of trying the larger size, I'll just take them back.

While I'm there, I'll buy some kitty litter, recruit some kind shopper to help me heft it in the cart, so it's not such an effort to return them. Why do I find it more of a pain to return something than buy it in the first place, even though Costco is a breeze for returns. :-)

Has anyone bought these bras?

I have a great sense of humor. Some people's comments are consistently laughable.

if only you had sense the humor would come.

I'm reminded of the Maidenform bra, "I dreamed I was ... in my Maidenform bra." I assume this is what Elmer meant. At least that is my main association with bras and dreams.

Ah my mother's old joke... I bought a Playtex Living bra....and I don't know what to feed it!

Kind of, lars. Like many (but not all) boys, it was something I thought and dreamed of as I was approaching puberty. A topic I thought about long before I could finally get my hands on one.

Has anyone tried the shapermint bras? I keep getting ads for them on my Facebook page. I’m in search of a comfortable bra. For any of you 90 Day Finance tv show watchers, I would love to go to Molly’s store to get fitted for a bra.

Your post brought up "never again Costco!" memories regarding bras and underwear lol. I have found over the years that what they call M or L or XL in those two items is silly. One has to be built like a 12 year old boy to fit into their XL for bras and underwear. I've bought myself bras and panties there in my usual size and had to give them to the skinniest ladies I know lol. I would have returned them, but I didn't. Just passed along instead to happy recipients, who are built like 12 year old boys!

Bras don't bother me. I even wear one to sleep. I am "femininely blessed" and its just more comfortable for me. I used to HATE the bras my mom got for us. The ones in boxes in those huge drawers at the store. They were uncomfortable and unflattering and I think she liked that about them as she was very uncomfortable with having daughters. Or was once we started to get into the need-a-bra stage of life. She made us wear the most unflattering clothes ever made that we looked dumpy and awkward in.

When I started buying my own bras I got them at Victorias Secret. I really liked their cotton bras. Then I out grew them. I think the last bras I bought were from JC Penny online. I have a few preferences. I want an underwire,lightly lined,full coverage. And while I always have one white bra,I like pretty colors and patterns.

I really hate when I order a bra and then when I try it on it does that weird pointy cone thing. Really hate it.

There was a "joke" that my grandma used to say that mammograms and bras were designed by bitter flat chested women. Neither of them bother me and I am neither one of those........

Bras should be as comfortable as any other item of clothing. If it is a nightmare, you're wearing the wrong size.

If it is a nightmare, you're wearing the wrong size.

The nightmare is finding the right size & then ordering two more, exact same style & size & brand, receiving them and finding that the band is 3/4" shorter on the two just ordered and doesn't fit. Bali is the brand for anyone interested.

Yes, the nightmare is taking 3 or 4 bras into the fitting room (remember those days)? Even the same size would fit differently.

I threw mine away in 1981 when 4th child was weaned. Have never regretted it

I have bras of several brands but the most comfortable is Wacool, if I'm reading the name correctly from a faded tag. I would happily wear this brand all the time and will look for it next time I'm shopping for undergarments. I don't remember the cost, but it was worth it for the comfort it provides.

Oh yes, the lovely fitting room days. Back when you had to deal with all the jumble of bras on hangers all tangled up with one another. That's why I thought I was being 'smart' by ordering 2 more of what were supposed to be identical to the one that I wrestled with on the hanger rank and spent over an hour in the fitting room trying on a dozen different ones to find The One.

I've had lifelong love/hate relationship with this contraption. More hate than love. So much so that I made DH promise he would not bury me in a bra. I shall gladly jaunt off into the hereafter, flapping in the wind. :))

Finding a comfortable bra is a nightmare!

Took we awhile to master the art of unsnapping them with one hand!

In my working days, I was 'professional' bra fitter in a small lingerie shop that specialized in the hard to fit woman. A customer wanting to try on bras was accompanied by a 'fitter' to the fitting room, measured and assisted in adjusting a variety of bras in the appropriate size. When that person left the store, she had the best possible comfortable well fitting bra for her size. The store carried many brands in sizes from 30 AA to 56 I. That was 22 years ago, I think available sizes have increased since then.

I use Wacoal and Rosa faia, both are pricey but comfortable. Recently my daughter purchased two bras for me. Brand is TRUEKIND daily comfort bra. They are amazing, no wires and you forget you have one on. They can go over your head or with closure in the back. Soft as butter and wonderful lift ability. She got them online.

I will only wear one if I absolutely have to, and that is not too often nowadays.

I wear knit camisoles like undershirts and avoid the clothes that make it almost impossible to not wear a bra with.

They are supremely uncomfortable and always restrict my chest and cut into my back. When I sit with a bra on, I feel as if I have to fight to breath. I despise them!

Not the right one? Where can I find the right one and how far to go to procure something that I dont like in the first place, and to what expense?

I have tried the back extenders and not found them to be much of a help. I am a bit overweight, but not in to the plus size category so I dont consider myself to be particularly out of line with most of America.

Yaygal,

Since the Truekind bras were just gifted to you, I'm assuming the model name/number is still visible? Would you mind looking and reporting back if there is something to report? When you said it had lift, which I'm translating to mean support and control, I'd be interested in trying that out. Comfy and well functioning are difficult to get together. I'm either suffocating or asking why I bothered to put this thing on...

If one finds their bra uncomfortable go to a bra fitter for a good fit. I went to Nordstrom years ago for a good fitting, now I only buy Wacoal, I know my size so buying is easy. They are very comfortable once you know the right size and style for you.

Got some at Victoria Secret that were perfect. The ladies sit comfortably and well supported. Went back and bought a half dozen of the same ones in different colours...as someone mentioned....once you find the perfect ones, buy a bunch of them because you don’t want to be disappointed when you go back and can’t find the same kind again.

liira, I wear the Shapermint bras. I guess they’re basically sports bras and they do tend to flatten me a bit, but I don’t care. They’re comfortable. Good customer service, too.

Unless a bra is custom made for you, how is a bra fitter to provide you with such and such bra that is "the right size".

I have the most discomfort with the band. If I buy for the comfort of the band, it is difficult to find the right cup size. There are only so many bands sizes and cup size combinations to choose from. It is limited.

So, I could go in and try on numerous bras with all combinations of band size and cup size and still curse them all to hell. Then, there are those that cut into the armpit or those that leave love handles spilling out over the top of band.

If all the bra fitter is doing is pulling the bras from the racks, what is the difference?

Really, if there is a difference between me trying on various sizes and the bra fitter giving me ones to try, I seriously want to know, really. Some of you have been a fitter and maybe can address this. Do the bras get customized or custom made? Or, are they just pulled from the racks?

I can try any and all from a 36 to a 40 in all cup sizes until I arrive at one that just falls off and that is the most comfortable one. So, I hang it back up and walk away braless, having found the one that I like the most.......the one that remains on the rack at the store.

Those little hangers and the way they hang on the racks just makes me crazy. It is like juggling hair.

I havd heard many attest to the fact that corsets are more comfortable than bras. Wearing bras is still a relatively modern thing as we know them to be. Most of female humanity has done quite well without them. Breasts are a functional part of female bodies and are often occupied by small infants. We need them to be accessible when needed to keep tiny helpless humans alive.

Except that time has passed for me and I just want to be comfortable and wear warm soft undershirts and camisoles.

Sometimes, though, a garment needs for the breasts to be in a certain position on the body for the garment to fit well and feel good. I try to avoid those types of things. Sometimes I have to dig out one of the varieties that I keep on hand and pull it on. It gets either unhooked or pulled off as soon as possible. I am too old to be uncomfortable or to care too much about what anyone thinks. Slinky tops are not my thing anyway and never have been.

I remember my poor old mom in the nursing home where she wrangled herself into her bra every morning. And, there she sat mostly all day , slumped in a chair as many older people do.

At the end of the day her flesh would be contoured to the confines of the bra and the band and the straps.

It was what her generation did. I feel certain that my grandmother, born late 1890s never wore a bra. She was rarely not nursing a baby until, of course, she was much older.

My mothers generation (1920s)was one of the first to be born into a world where it was the norm.

I looked all over at the time to find something else for her to wear, but could find nothing suitable.

She had a large bust and in old age they would create warm friction as they laid snuggled against the body without a bra that provided a layer of fabric between. It was made especially bad by the fact that she slumped in the chair and she was in the chair for such long periods of time.

Old people are not the focus of consumerism and the market doesn't cater to them, except for a few old people stuff. I did look at some of the websites that sell garments for the elderly, but found nothing at the time. That might have changed in this past decade

I finally realized last April - I really could stop wearing a bra. Probably the only good to come out of COVID. I'm retired anyway, and of small size, so I've taken the plunge and don't miss them a bit.