When they added that hutch thing onto the end of the cabinets they didn’t even think about how it would create that useless nook in there😳

Not good planning! They just threw up a wall extension to sit it on!

@lyn so my husband just got home and he doesn’t like the table where it is and I said so there just a useless area there and random fan and he goes...it’s not a random fan!! It’s there for a reason!

😩😩😩

@lyn I can’t win with him! We fight about everything home decor or decorative wise and he doesn’t care and says...well I’m
The one who lives here so it makes more sense for me having in over in the nook

sw, talking to you, about what I posted way back: extend island with a complementing and useful feature wood /painted unit.

Maybe a tv over console?

Of course, the table would have to move away from fp and doorway toward window.

@everdebz what window? The nook area or where it is now?

🤦‍♀️ sigh! Well I’m very sorry! There’s no point in continuing this I’m afraid. You most likely won’t get anywhere with such a stubborn hubby like this and you have three small children. Concentrate on them and next time you buy a house be much more discriminating before you buy! Some men think they know everything and there is no shaking that! Good luck swilkinson♥️

BTW, very arrogant of him to say that since HE lives there it should be his way! Especially since you are home all day raising HIS children 😳

When you draw layout of entire area, I can say more. We all have to sit on /sleep on ideas for a while.

@lyn haha well this is our final home to say the least and yup your right! I told him
Don’t worry I won’t mention anything more about the house

Ahh, your young! Nothing is forever ....

Swilk, smooth out the ceilings, if they’re not smooth already, paint the kitchen white, change the kitchen door style if you want. Definnately use soft close recessed hinges if you splurge on that. Buy the prefinished hardwoods, move the oval table lengthwise underneath the big window to enhance the window. add 2 club chairs to the empty space in the empty space at the corner of the kitchen. Forget about the soffits. Use this site and put in some professional grade low voltage LED, BOTH UNDER CABINET AND IN CABINET. Get rid of the ceiling fan and buy a 4 or 5 Post chandelier. Hire an electrician and have him center it BEFORE you start messing with the ceilings. ALL THIS will brighten/ lighten and modernize the entire space! FORGET ABOUT THE FIREPLACE RIGHT NOW. DIFFERENT BATTLE FOR A DIFFERENT DAY.

USE BLUM recessed soft close hinges

https://www.aspectled.com/products/3-15-led-recessed-downlight-ultra-brightness-9w#voltage=4&beam_angle=81&trim_color=76&led_light_color=11

Swilk, see post below. These pics show my in cabinet and under cabinet lighting, my recessed door hinges, back splash.

SMH🤦‍♀️

Haha I can’t even get my husband to agree on a table placement let alone all that bahaha but thanks!

Guess he didn’t read the previous posts! Your such a guy Robert 😩

Swilkinson, you should buy your husband a recliner and stick it in the middle of that room under his precious fan! Nothing else in the room; just the chair!

There you go, now the fan has a reason to be there‼️

😂

I snowed him and he didn’t say anything lmao

@lyn I gotta work on his getting the oak trim painted next 😂

I’ll at least start with the first floor-baby steps. Lol

@lyn I was looking at my kitchen lastnight and I feel like there’s just no way to reconfigure it to make it more open 🤷🏼‍♀️😩 I feel the layout is stuck. I wish there was a way to at least make it wider but there isn’t cu of the fkn bathroom behind the fridge area

@lyn he hasn’t said he doesn’t like the coffee bar in front of the fireplace

@lyn I do know he 100% wants to redo kitchen and flooring though. We knew that when we bought the house and he IS the one who mentioned getting an interior designer. He did saythat he just felt like the table was in the way where I put it 🤷🏼‍♀️after the heated attitude passed.

What do you think of this look in front of that big window?? And hanging a nice light in place of fan? I showed him and he said “now your talking” 🙄

Like! Now the table back in front of the large window. Either with or without the center leaf.

No putting that ☝🏼 look in front of the big window is what I mean

Table back in the nook. I still have the buffet in front of the fireplace

Umm. SURE. that’ll work. you have to be willing to compromise!

Now ease him on over to the flooring. store. Be gentle. Just a little nudge here and there. and put some floor samples in his hands. note People buy Into a product best after they’ve seen and touched it. The flooring guy will give you samples to bring home so u can lay them on the floor to look at!

Now come home with plastic flooring. YOU go shopping for floors and bring samples home for him to look at! Just no laminate please. You can’t put laminate down in a half million dollar house!

A prefinished hardwood is going to be easier on the budget, is usually refinishable later on. Comes with a warranty. There’s no sanding. no staining no sealing.

And pop on over to sherwin Williams and tell them youve got a kitchen to paint in white and let them help you pick out some paint chips to take home and put a little tape on the doors and STICK EM UP! REMEMBER LET HUBBY HELP DECIDE!

Haha well my thought right now honestly with 2 young kids and not wanting to go broke since we just moved in and have a mortgage is I’d love to at least get oak trim painted and cabinets done and that random nook area by fireplace figured out. My pink floors I think will be offset and maybe not look so pink once I get all the oak white. I can’t expect IT ALL to be changed right away. If I can at least convince him we get all the oak on the first floor for starters painted I’d say we are golden! I just really think the white trim will make a world of difference, and even white cabs in kitchen especially when it comes to me trying to decorate. My house looks so bare! (Now that Christmas decor is down)....I know you hate the floor AND I do too!! But I want white trim and a white kitchen more 😂 I can work with the ugly ass floors for longer

Yep. Start with the trim and kitchen cabinets. Paint chips are free. Bring home some. Tell the guy/girl at the counter you need a painter. A really good one. let them help you pick some paint chips out. Do floors LAST. YOU DONT WANT PAINT “over spray” on the new floors. but you can get SAMPLES. THE FLOORING GUY KNOWS WHAT I JUST TOLD YOU “get it in the customers hand!!!”

@rob well we are refacing our cabinets, not painting. If soffits are able to be removed then we will just get all new uppers and just reface bottom ones

Rob, I don’t know why you keep trying to encourage her to do all this on her own when she clearly needs the help of a DESIGNER!

@lyn @rob yes!!! A designer! As soon as I get one I’ll let you know! ☺️

@lynn. Well I don’t necessariy think swilk needs a decorator but I’m quite sure you could use a psychiatrist. You haven’t had one pleasant statement to make towards me or about any other man. When you’re not ignoring or discounting someone elsea opinion your talking down to them. You may be the “end all be all“ of a designer but if you told me how arrogant my husband was, who works his ass off all day, I’d tell you To stuff it up your ass!

😂years of experience Robert. I really like men, have mostly worked with men. Appreciate the trades and defer to their expertise when I do work with them! I also recognize when someone is out of their element, has bought a large home and needs the help of a DESIGNER! People with far more experience and more years and many more homes in their lives know the value of hiring a designer. I understand that you don’t want nor see that value. This is a young couple with very little experience and not a lot of vision. Trying to design a home on a forum by consensus of many opinions while it may be fun is going to get this couple ( who obviously has communication problems) nowhere! I don’t have a problem with you personally as I don’t even know you and I’m sure your home is lovely but your experience is quite different than Swilkinson’s. I’m sure you don’t mean to insinuate that staying home and raising children; taking care of a family and large home is not also hard work! I know you could not be that insensitive.

A good designer can help a couple who can not agree to come to a consensus and agreed vision. They are not just someone who picks out paint and pretty fabrics! In reality they are part visionary and marriage counselor, hand holders and encouraging confidence builders! Find someone that you can trust and connect with! Whether it be a man or women BTW!

@lym yes me and my husband do have communication issues. He’s a know it all and stubborn and arrogant sometimes so no hard feelings there. I know what he is believe me!! Not saying I’m easy to deal with either but I know how to decorate more then he does lmao. Our first house looks the way it does because of me AND put 100 grand equity into it. He bought the house in 2009 as a bachelor-did nothing with but move in with his old beat up college furniture, met me, we traveled and lived up our lives to the fullest, got married, planned to build, it fell through, then we were stuck in a dump and I forced to remodel. He bought the house for $116,000 in 2009 & now we sold it for $275,000...never would’ve sold it for that if we didn’t do all that we did to it because of ME! Now we found anew house that we didn’t plan on ever spending this much on with a mew home but IT HAPPENED and it’s a dated home that needs HELP!

My old
Living room

The walls use to be BRICK RED and the red brick fire place. He had no area rug and a ripped
Beat up sectional in the corner and an ugly
Gold ceiling fan with zero decor and some end tables he look like he built himself. Oh and his tv was shoved on an ugly stand where that white square thing is on the wall
Himself

No curtains in any windows except what they previous people left. It was bad. It’s like he moved in and was done

Your previous home was beautiful swilkinson! I’m sure your new one will be even more so!

@lym yes I’m sure! With just a lot of fighting and arguing and disagreeing we will get there! 😂