I think I’d do something else w the hardware. Dark pewter ... black ... ORB .... cup pulls on drawers . this will change the look a bit and the tones you have will play well w darker hardware. Maybe a backsplash change later on. No other changes needed. I like all the shades and bit of varying colors together . It’s not cookie cutter and there’s no reason to feel upset . Let it grow on you.

I think it's a swing and a miss with the cabinet color. It's not horrible, but I don't think it's the best color choice either... it's just kind of blah. I agree with @herbflavor that changing the hardware to black or ORB might help, and would be cheaper than repainting.

If you think changing the cabinet color is your better bet, take it slow. Go to your paint store and ask them to order you large swatches of paint colors you like... or purchase sample jars (this can add up) and paint on poster board. Tape to your cabinets and live with the colors for a week, look at it in all day lights, different parts of the kitchen where light may hit it differently. Then decide.

Looks like you have plenty of light coming in. I say paint them the darker color in the granite:

Not a designer or somebody who can make a decision.

I think adding darker cabinet pulls/handles will help tie in the darker color in the granite. I once saw where someone tried out a new style of cabinet pulls by attaching a few temporarily with sticky tack & it was a simple way to get a feel for the style without going to the trouble of actually attaching them.

Personally I don't see a problem with the cabinet color! The backsplash might be a bit too stark, which makes the cabinets and counters seem like a bad match. But I agree with what someone else said about adding in some accessories before making any other big decisions, because pulling in darker shades that way can make a big difference!

I think your kitchen is beautiful. :)

I like the cab color. The stone has lots of warm tones to it,* so I think you sorta got what you asked for, even if it's not what you imagined. But if you don't like it, you don't like it. Sorry that you are disappointed!

My option 4 is "live with it a little while" before making any other moves, if you can. Try to accessorize as others have said.

(Spend this time learning more about color theory and undertones, and reviewing the decision process for this color -- "we asked" "that was chosen" ... did you see a sample of this before starting? Is it a shop color or a paint brand color?)

Option 2a. Explore if a glaze would be possible that could tone down/neutralize the greens -- note that I have no idea if this would be possible at this stage, let alone less expensive than a whole new paint job, just spitballing.

Option 3a. IMO the bright white backsplash is the thing that is really clashing here!

*If I recognize that stone right, I had the same one or very similar in a former residence, where it was paired with a very cool-gray marble backsplash and that always bugged me so much!

For me, even if you got the gray you asked for, there would be a disconnect between the cabinets and the counter. On my monitor the counter is very beige.

You may be into something with the green. Someone just did a kitchen in green.

I agree that the white BS doesn’t tie in either.

I am not understanding how going with gray will tie in with the counters.

On my monitor, the cabinets work very well with the countertop. What doesn't work with the cabinets is the wall color.

You have a warm stone countertop, warm cabinets, and cool walls. I know Repose Gray is supposed to be a warm gray, but next to the cabinets and countertop, it's decidedly cool looking. The wood flooring looks fairly warm as well.

The cabs match the counter. But is is all just one tone. In the video it all looks the same color, no contrast. You need color in there. Maybe pops of red in accessories...or any other color you like, really.

I see 2 options here- either paint the cabinets white and call it a day or paint the cabinets a darker gray on the same strip as repose gray (mindful or dorian) and replace the counters with something along the lines of carrara.

Edit* Actually, take a look at the counters with a large swatch of the grays I mention- it could possible work because the counter does relate to your floor color.

I'm sorry your color selections have created this conundrum. I think it's very helpful to ask the paint guy to print out formulas of any color you are interested in. Even on the same strip, it's not simply a matter of degree, sometimes other pigments are added and even when you change paint types (enamel vs latex, exterior vs interior) the formula can change. If you want a pristine look, I would repaint the cabinets. The whites confuse the overall look, the white back splash and pantry door could be toned down in a subtle way that would balance things out visually. I'm very sorry that you have to make new decisions. Please keep us posted.

It doesn’t look bad on my monitor, either. After getting cabinet hardware and living with it a bit, couldn’t you cheaply repaint the walls rather than the more expensive cabinets if the wall and cabinet colors together are still bothering you?

I agree would change the wall color. Cabinets look pretty

Another vote for changing the walls, and consider black hardware. Also color in accessories/rug/art, etc.

In the photos, the cabinets look stark, but in the video, the look warm and go well with the counters. Live with it for a while. Add some plants or lean a picture against the backsplash to break up the wall of white.