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Comments (7)thank you justaguy2. Thanks, I did see the drainage hole step, I guess I was thinking that when it rains so hard the drain hole might not be able to keep up with the amount of rainfall. I suppose i could always drill more drainage holes at the same level. I cant see how that could hurt anything. I was planning on only growing carrots in 1 and celery in the other. Can you help me with what to use instead of compost please? thanks...See MoreAm not getting the vapor barrier thing, at all?
Comments (20)"He (GC) says that any water wicking through will have no chance to dry out if it becomes trapped by the vapor barrier, and you increase the chances of mold growing between the vapor barrier and cement board. This makes sense to me!' How can mold and mildew form and thrive between poly sheeting and cement board? Mold and mildew need food to survive. That food it cellulose. Cellulose is wood or wood-derived products like paper. Paper facing on kraft-faced insulation, paper facing on drywall, etc. Moisture trapped between a 6-mil poly vapor barrier/drainage plane and the cement backer board has no cellulose in sight, so the green stuff can't thrive. The moisture will eventually dry out back into the bathroom, just as Bill described. No poly vapor barrier? Then when the moisture gets behind the cement board and wets the the kraft paper facing of the insualtion, or the framing, then you get the funky green stuff. Moisture, spores, and food equals the dreaded green funk. It's tough to get your head wrapped around these concepts, but trust me, the way Bill and others have said is correct. Your GC is wrong. He may have good intentions, but he's just uneducated. Building Science is a continually evolving process. Changes to the building code normally lag bulding science by as much as a decade. Sometimes even longer. Too many builders don't learn about or apply changes made to the code until several years after the code has been changed. Many "rotted wall" stories are from having vapor barriers behind greenboard. Trapped water and the paper facing food source on greenboard leads to the dreaded green funk, soon followed by the wetting and rotting of the gypsum core of the greenboard. But who here has been tiling over greenboard? Only the guys who like greenboard because it's cheaper than cement board and easier to cut and hang than cement board. Greenboard was allowed by code as a tile backer in wet areas until January of '06. Yet I've NEVER used it as a tile backer. Doing what's allowed by code isn't always the right way to build. Remember, code is the MINIMUM building standard. In some areas of construction the minimum is good enough. In other areas it's far below. That's why the code evolves. Mongo...See MoreMIL issues
Comments (11)I have to say, I'm lucky with my MIL. She is a terrible cook and there have been a few times I suck it up and eat what she's serving. At parties, she knows I love to bake & cook (and that I'm very good at it) so I always cook the food and she always praises my efforts. For the most part, I have a wonderful MIL. (lol, nobody is 'perfect', right?) But, this thread has reminded me of my grandma. She always had a huge plate of food ready for anyone that walked in her door. If you weren't hungry, she'd take it as an insult that you didn't like her and/or her cooking. (She was an amazing cook!) I think to her, food was love and she was generous with it. My parents would get into discussions every time we went to grandma's house. Dad didn't want to upset his MIL but he also didn't always want to eat what she served him and/or as much (she piled it on). If you've ever watched the movie "The wedding singer" where she pays him with meatballs, it's kinda like that, you don't want to hurt their feelings. (I love her reaction as he's eating the meatballs!) Well, anyways... my point is that Grandma passed away 21 years ago and when I think back, I can still smell the sweet bread in the oven or the spices from her tamales... I didn't have a close relationship to her because we lived too far away to even spend the night every once in a while. I wish I had gotten to know her better and spend more time with her when I was growing up. Looking back now, I can see that my dad probably didn't always enjoy going to his MIL's because many of the gatherings became parties where there was drinking & dancing (loud music) and lots of food. My dad is a non drinker, and is more comfortable in a quiet setting... talking. My mom's family enjoyed big loud parties, so he went. He never complained but I'm sure he would rather have stayed home. From a kid's perspective, going to grandma's was the greatest. I loved her cooking, I loved seeing my other relatives and I am glad that my dad (or both my parents really) didn't complain (at least in front of me). There are times my parents (mostly mom) do things that are interfering or pushy, but I also know they won't always be around. They are my parents and unless they are starting a conflict with me or my husband (which they have never done), I suck it up and let most of the things go. (I've mentioned that my mom makes comments about my stepmom and I have told her how I feel about that) but I think it's silly to argue over who cooks/bakes the cake or get upset because she cooked and got a cake. It sounds like it worked out okay, but in the scheme of life, it isn't even something worth getting even a little mad over. The time will come when she is gone and how your kids remember her may become more important than who cooked dinner. That's just my 2 cents....See MoreChristmas approaching and no calls or plans
Comments (4)Mom2emall....How does one get used to a parent not caring about their children? I think that in time you will just come to not expect it. I kept telling my X that love was a verb, an action word. He never got it and now the kids don't see him. It has been over 3 years for my DS. My kids were not invited to their Dad's wedding. They have called on Father's day to see if they could spend the day with him and have been told no. X and wife never put up a Christmas tree. They had a room for the kids for about a year and then turned it into an exercise room. They stopped overnight visits years ago. I have been stood up at meetings for DS at school to discuss his learning disability. DS has waited for dad to come to baseball games and he never showed. I told him once that I could not understand why I had to fight for him to give to his children what I gave my SD ( his from 1st marriage ) willingly. You never understand it. You just resign yourself to it and hope that the kids will give up on her actually. Mine did. It made it so much easier for them. We just went on with our lives. I understand the hurt that your step kids are going through. I saw it with my SD while her BM treated her the same way as your skids BM does. I have seen it with my own children. It is heart breaking. What you can do is make your own traditions and memories and make sure that they know the joy of your love for them. It sounds like you do that and bless you for loving them so. You can do your best to put the pieces back together again with the love that you have for them. That is what will stay with them and hold them together through the sorrow that their mom brings into their lives. If you can let go of the anger towards her you will be able to move forward. I know how difficult it is. I am sorry for the kids....See More- 6 years ago
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