Sorry but you seem to be rambling. Advice for the future is to have all fixtures, finishes, appliances, picked out and delivered to the site before the job starts. As for your electrician, if he has messed up placement of fixtures, then he needs to change them. Unfortunately, since you hired him, it's now your problem to fix. Lesson learned.

This is exactly why all products should be picked before the first shovel goes in the dirt, especially for a remodel. Period. If he is the GC why are you chasing all of your subs. This is a broken record. Plain and simple you are the reason it is going so slow. Between the multitude of flooring posts to the simple posts about patching drywall. You hired a GC make him do his job, pay him to do his job or fire him and find someone else. I do not mean to come across as mean but you are the issue.

Designgirl, if u don't like rambling, this may not be for you. thx for your input in last msg.

I asked an honest question and got honest answers. Not feeling much better or less confused. Today I told the designer that cabs should've had a filler next to the wall so that the door would have room to open when I tiled to the ceiling. Designer knew I was planning on tiling to the ceiling and bid the job, saying we could always take things out of the bid, better to get everything in and take out rather than add later. I figured tile was a place I could save money so took the job out. She told me today that it was a group mistake. She said I should've told the cab installers when they were installing (I wouldn't have known this would be an issue) and she wasn't sure if I wanted to tile all the way to ceiling or under cabs. I wish she as the professional would've asked me or confirmed with me, not put it on me. I am hiring professionals to guide me and they have conflicting info. electrician messed up, GC, drywaller, and desigenr tell me there will be sheen creep. electrician tells me a bunch of lines. Fighting with people and being misguided is not for me. It's contributed to slowing things down, I think as people don't want to communicate much and I want to overcommunicate I'm sure.

Millworkman, I think I explained to you that the GC allows his clients to do certain parts of the job if they wish and we took this on thinking not much could go wrong if we spend the time finding good people and had a design for them to follow. Seems everyone has a better opinion and often times mess something up that they say is unfixable and I'm left not knowing how to "retaliate". designer said cabs can't be moved and gave her explanation. Tile guy said bringing tile in and using a schluter won't look right. designer says it'll look fine. do i believe the one who I think messed up (designer) and doesn't want to fix it or the tile guy who may not have a designer's eye according to desiger.

Designer said they would let me know with time when the next product was due and no need to pre-order items. I don't know that I could've pre ordered everything as some of it is easier to pick out when cabs r already installed...

Maybe I'm not cut out for this. Lessons learned, better contracts, not to trust someone's word, look over their shoulder, speak up and be more assertive and according to hubbie, not so friendly. How to make quicker decisions I don't know. I'm glad I didn't blindy follow the designer's thoughts as I would've not been pleased with a handful of items. I was going with the idea noone's perfect. and I have been pleased with them a lot of the time.

thx

Life is stressful enough right now, I can’t imagine the added stress of a remodel so give yourself a break. Even without a pandemic there are so many things to do and decisions to make it can be overwhelming.

If you have a designer available to you, maybe you should use them more. Have them bring you options and choose from those. Don’t worry about the thousand other options out there. At some point you have to just stop and choose. I love the hunt of finding the ”perfect” item (floor, knobs, tile, paint) and had a difficult time stopping the search, even after finding several that would have been great options.

Good luck to you. And again, give yourself a break.

I didn’t see your latest reply so disregard a lot of my post.

traci_from_seattle u r so kind. thanku :) not to mention items out of stock or delayed in this pandemic. I chose a floor. fingers crossed it will be available! last floor I chose was discontinued. doesn't have to be perfect, yes!

" I think I explained to you that the GC allows his clients to do certain parts of the job if they wish and we took this on thinking not much could go wrong"

You did which means you took on the responsibility of GC. You needed to get everyone together long ago and get everyone on the same page as soon as the finger pointing started. Actually the GC you hired to MANAGE your project needed to do this. And yes you have explained all of this yet here you are asking again basically the same questions as 3 months ago.

I hate to say but the delays are on you in a lot of this. I am GC on projects often and no way do I let the homeowner take on certain parts , this is what happens when you do. The floor should have been the first thing installed before cabinets to just begin to add to the mess. Obviuosly you did not have kitchen designer , for further reference INterior designers are not often KDs. As for the electrician who hired him you or your GC.?

Research takes time to learn what you need to know. If you're GCing you normally don't start until you've done your research. That's what we did. The build had contractors we fired for rough crew and drywall. Has to be done. Do it. Because you're taking time now to research you're going to take more time. Don't spin your wheels on that now. Do your best and the time is what it is. Always remember- you have to live with the product. Everyone else will walk away.

We sourced all the finish materials for three major jobs with the same contractor (bath, addition/new kitchen & bath, complete backyard).

None of these jobs started before we had decided, ordered and, in some cases, received every single item going in. Many of these sat with us for as long as a year. And, while we made a change or two it never delayed the project because we were all on deadline.

Time is money and if you are delaying the project-which you are - it costs the GC money both because your project takes longer and it delays the start of the next paying project. I hope they are billing you for change orders. I paid a couple myself.

I get the stress. It’s a ton of money and difficult to get a do-over. We spent probably $200k in total for our work. That was a huge investment for us.

But here’s the truth. When the project is done, there is always the possibility you might have done something different. And guess what? The more time goes by, the higher the likelihood. I have a couple do-overs on my list - luckily they are adding things we didn’t do originally to save a little money (in the short run).

So my best advice is to finish up with your existing service providers. They are a known entity and you will have difficulty finding new ones because people talk. I guarantee you will not come over well when you are interviewing new providers. The only other option is to allow the GC to bring in their subs at their going rates.

Own your responsibility and start being clear about what you want from here out. Past misunderstanding are what they are. Put things in writing and cover the paper when you talk to people. Add the comments and agreements to the paper and all sign. My guess is that the people doing the work for you will be more than happy to do that.

If you don’t like the result, and they followed the paper, then it’s on you.

Clear communication, timely decision making and an understanding of your capabilities is key to these projects and, frankly, a good life. For your own reasons, you’ve become paralyzed in this process. Recognize this and move on before you impact more than a kitchen remodel.

My customers always get what, why, when, and where, but I always keep who and how. Your GC failed to keep who and now you're both paying the price.

Thank you all for your input