Wanted to second happyladi's Crizal recommendation. Best AR coating I've ever had! I always get AR for two reasons: so there is no reflection bouncing off my eyes if someone is looking at me. And looking outward at night especially, no light bouncing around. Takes the fuzzy halo off car headlights, etc. I used to get tiny wispy scratches almost precisely at the 1 year mark, and it was a rapid descent from there, so bad it was impossible to see through the swirls. (It was like the darn things were designed to disintegrate as soon as the warranty was up.) When my clinic offered the much pricier Crizal I tried it out of sheer frustration. And it comes with a 2 year warranty. With my current lenses it's going on 18 months and zero annoying scratches. (Rinsing under water is part of my twice daily face cleansing routine. Major lens mileage. It's those 'grab the shirttail' wipes that are damaging.) Now, a story about older women, eyeglasses and color. There is a gentleman that works in the optical department at my clinic. He dresses like a Brit going to tea with the Queen. Impeccable. So dapper and so adept at helping women pick frames, I adore him. (Plus he calls me 'darlin', gets me every time. ;) So anyway, last time I went for a plastic frame, haven't worn those since the 80's but the size and shape were perfect and they were oh so comfortable. Then chose the light golden brown tortoise shell. A good neutral. Being half blind is a real disadvantage trying on frames. My gentleman consultant is my best judge in all things eyeglass related, even beating out my brutally honest sister. He liked the frames very much but was "eh" over the color I had chosen. So safe and predictable. I needed an updated spare pair. He said "Here darlin', try these." He nudged me to the same frame in amethyst. Now I happen to love amethyst & purples, but for glasses sitting on my face my inner voice said "Uh, no way, dapper dude". Once they lined up the possibles on their camera machine, I became a little more receptive. Still had doubts because those machines are helpful but they make driver's license photos look like a pro studio job. Decided it was time to shake things up and go for it. Once my glasses came in the difference was amazing. You know the eye shadow palettes recommended for certain eye colors? Purples are often recommended for hazel eyes. The amethyst somehow plays off and really emphasizes the gold in my hazel eyes and absolutely brightened both my eyes & complexion. Heck, my cheeks even look rosier. Still pushing out of my comfort zone some, they were going to be my 'fun' pair when going out, etc. Well, my gentleman friend nailed it again. Wore the neutral, no one close to me noticed. The first time I wore the amethyst a girl at the insurance office was helping me and during a moment on hold she suddenly complimented the color. And the compliments kept coming, even 18 months later. (That never happens.) Usually where people are standing around killing time; grocery store checkout, in line at the bank. Always women, surprisingly often much younger women. I stopped to visit my cousin and the only change since our last visit several months prior was my highlights (too subtle to notice) and the frames. She was looking at me and said "Something is different." She paused, squinted, and said "Hey, did you get botox, you look younger". Nope and cool :) I don't even know where the safe neutral pair is, think in the console of my car. The amethyst are my everyday pair. Moral of this story is once you get the right frame size & shape for you face, don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and go for color! It might just surprise you :)

angelheart7 has a point. We try to describe it in a hundred different ways. Your level of confidence, if you are assertive or go for what you want in life (which was mentioned about nice guys not being aggresive) as well as being TOO aggresive (which someone else mentioned and felt it was a catch22) But, it's really not. The extreme of either is going to be less attractive, and as angelheart7 pointed out, it really does have more to do with that positive energy that you give out that other people can sense. It's not just about women/men relationships either. It's something that any other human can sense about you. Some people call it karma, some call it self fulfilling prophesies, auras, and who knows what else. The reason people say go exercise, is because this tends to increase confidence and energy which means you start acting differently. You walk around feeling good about yourself, looking cheerful and happy which then makes you a more positive person for people to want to be around. It doesn't have to be exercise, it could be any hobby or activity that makes you feel good about life. A few people have made really good points as well in regards to what it means to be a "nice guy". There's a difference between a guy who is nice, respectful, with a lively personality, a love for life, motivation and inspiration.. and a guy who is a rug and will let the girl he is interested in step all over him because he's "nice" and doesn't want to rock the boat. Girls DO like nice guys, but they don't like rugs. I don't know and of you guys who posted personally, so i can't give any specific insight as to why one guy in particular is coming across wrong to women or why they are not interested. It is much much more complicated than simply being "nice" or "not nice". There are so many different definitions of what it means to be nice. And it still depends on what girls you are aiming at as well. What it is they are looking for in a partner, and the body language signals you are giving in return. Maybe being nice is your best quality? Who knows! fyi as an interesting side note, they've done scientific research as well that shows women are attracted to more "cave man" types which are the rugged square faced guys (bad boys) when they are more likely to get pregnant, and attracted to guys with softer more feminine features otherwise. (guys who are more likely to stick around and raise the kids theory). So, it's true there is a lot of chemical stuff going on between men and women as well that we are usually unaware of. More than we realize.

OH NO!!!! I am a business woman FIRST....I am not CRABBY; However; I am a PERFECTIONIST.... I EXPECT things to done right the first time! I tell you once.. that's the way it is........I have thought the plan out and it WILL go that way. Do not ask WHY? You will benefit...."good things come to those who wait!" Suggestions are welcome...don't be offended if they are not accepted. AB

I had to rub my eyes and pull my ears to open my ear canals to make sure I was reading and hearing this correctly: The most fanatical expression, I think, of wanting to deny history of the U.S. is that of those who would like to 'demote' Thomas Jefferson from his position as a "Founding Father" of the U.S.A. and as founder of the University of Virginia, among other accomplishments. Some have said they would be willing even to scrap! The Declaration of Independence in order to reverse or expunge his influence -- all because Jefferson was a slave owner and he might have fathered at least one child (perhaps more) with his slave Sally Hemings (who also happened to be his deceased wife's half-sister). In some minds it is settled: recent DNA testings of Sally Hemings's male descendants indicate someone in the line of Peter Jefferson (father of Thomas) fathered at least one of Sally's sons. It is very possible it was Thomas, but it's also possible that it was Thomas's brother or either of two nephews who were known to be in the vicinity. So the evidence is not conclusive. Is that reason enough to negate everything else Thomas Jefferson did? These same fanatics would like to see all monuments and memorials to Thomas Jefferson changed, including Mount Rushmore. They have floated the notion that the heads of Jefferson and George Washington, another slave owner, should be re-carved to represent more worthy presidents. The four with the most mentions are Franklin Roosevelt, John Kennedy, Lyndon Johnson, and Barack Obama. I doubt that anything will come of it -- the hoopla has since died down a bit from about five years ago when I first got wind of it. I would say that nothing ever will be done that drastic, but now I'm not sure that redress seekers for grievances will ever completely let it go.