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Landscape Design Forum FAQ - Improved
Comments (7)While I think that the "FAQ" as outlined by swanoir was presented tongue in cheek ('the humus'), many of the subsequent comments and/or links to threads that could/should be included in a FAQ were presented in a more serious tone. And maybe they do make sense as a foundation to a real LD forum FAQ. But I've also sensed something else in these comments that may contribute to the apparent lack of communication between new posters seeking advice and those that regularly frequent this forum and offer it. And that is that the long checklist provided by Miss R must be (or should be) answered in detail before posting. Well, of course not! But it is definitely something worth reviewing and giving some thought to. This checklist, or something very similar, is what most designers utilize when first meeting with a prospective client. It gives them a feeling for what the client wants to do with the property, how they intend to use it, what they hope to get out of it and how much effort (time/$$) are they are intending to put into it. Hopefully, reviewing an outline or checklist such as this could help to refine and focus some of those blank slate questions and even educate those new posters totally unfamiliar with the process the degree of complexity, the number of variables and exactly what is involved in the formulation of a landscape design. Even DIY landscape texts intended for the homeowner with no previous design or landscaping experience offer similar checklists to get one started thinking about the process. Obviously, this is overkill for those questions that are more issue-specific, but I think very appropriate for those that are much broader and far less focused....See MoreWho dat....Mar9th -14th
Comments (7)Here's the Facebook link with some pictures: East Alabama Food Bank Ride The picture of the waterway that leads to the gulf is especially beautiful. Is that the Pearl River? We lived in New Orleans for many years, and all those places you mentioned are familiar. Where did you live in NOLA & which high school? When my husband told me we were moving, my very first thought was that my son wouldn't get to go to Ben Franklin H.S. I'm finally over it -- 14 years later ;) Thanks for including us on your adventure. These stories are great. I shed a tear though when you wrote about calling Robert & feeling homesick. He must miss you something fierce. Best regards & blessings to you all, Caroline....See MoreIs this idea totally crazy
Comments (47)somewhat Off Topic... As for me and my house, we have bottles of soy sauce and oil behind our range. Not very artistic, I know, but very functional. We tried to design some "art walls" within our new addition so there would be large enough spaces to mount framed pieces. But...one spot on kitchen hall is on a wall with a pocket door. Can't pound into it, although DH has detected the horizontal framing within the pocket and we're mounting on that--no option for creative placement. Also, we've found that pieces on this hall wall may be knocked off the wall by a clumsy person entering the kitchen--aargh!--so we're avoiding glass-fronted pieces there (oils, fabrics, etc. are more forgiving). Another designated art spot has a light switch plate smack dab in the line of fire--unavoidable I was told because of the stud pattern--so our workaround is to offset the hanging hook to the side and mount a smaller piece. Another spot is over and behind the refrig and has proved to be problematic because of the angle for viewing--can't put etchings or small-figured pieces there, only grosser designs. Another spot is pretty good except there's now a pendant in front of it. So it goes. We had intended to run picture hook molding all around the ceiling edge in kitchen hall, lobby, and eating nook areas so we maximize the flexibility of art placements, but that may be abandoned. Hanging wall art on long pieces of transparent fishline from this molding would solve the problem of changing out the art frequently, before we tire of an image and stop looking at it, but this week we impatiently banged some regular picture hooks into the walls and put up a few favorite pieces. Good to see the old friends again. Maybe we'll just get a spare bucket of our paints and plan to respackle and paint as pieces get rotated about. Once we get our minimal 4-inch backsplash in place, we can decide whether we'll put small framed pieces on the paint areas above the backsplash and below the uppers. We've used Command hooks to temporarily mount framed pieces there during the remodel, for morale. Again, it's fun to have the old friends on the wall. You either live with art or you don't. The kitchen is yours and the art pieces are yours. You get to do what you want. Have fun stormin' the castle!...See MoreThe Other Side Of The Estranged Mother
Comments (15)mommybunny, You are correct in your statement "All my point was is that there are both sides to the story and that in some situations, parents are not as innocent as they portray themselves to be". People (even friends) forget that there ARE TWO SIDES TO MANY SITUATIONS of estrangement. Yes, there surely are some adult kids who are spoiled rotten and turn their back on good parents. But there are also parents who have created a lot of pain, and refuse to be accountable for anything. Keep in mind folks, that just like you never know what really goes on in marriages, nor do you really know what goes on in family relationships. People can be wonderful to friends and people they know, but can create tremendous pain within their own family. To those who jumped on mommybunny, have you lost the ability to rationally look outside of your own situation, and grasp that indeed a parent CAN be at fault in an estrangement? No one is suggesting that YOU are at fault, but that there certainly are situations where the behavior of a parent can certainly have caused some estrangements. If you are not actually capable of considering that possibility, then you have closed your mind to rational thinking. And unless you are actually capable of entertaining that possibility within your own estrangements, I don't imagine that healing will happen until you are ready to do so. Mommybunny, pull up discussions on detaching with love. It sounds as though even though you are an adult, locked within you is still the small child yearning for her mothers acceptance and approval. Yearning to hear a mothers loving words. And for whatever reason, it does not sound as though your mother is capable of being the mother you need her to be. Do not use her to validate how special and wonderful you are. Stop trying to jump through hoops to win her love and acceptance. She sounds incapable of giving it. Not because you are not worthy, but because for some reason, something is lacking within HER. Imagine yourself at a playground sitting on a bench. You see a lovely little girl who is precious. Your heart immediately leaps and you know you could love this child. The mother comes up and yanks the child away and tells her she is a stupid child. But you know that she is wonderful, and you wonder why that woman can not see this beautiful little girl for the gift that she is. Why is she so hard on her? And you wish that you could tell the little girl that she is nothing that the mother says. She is perfect, and you wish she were yours. Just because that mother cannot see her child for who she really is, does not mean that child is not precious. She is so precious, and was never responsible for the failings of adults and their problems. Work on forgiving your mother for not being the mom you needed her to be. Not because she deserves it, but because it will help you release all of the anguish within you. Understand that she is incapable of being the mom you needed her to be, (for whatever reason) and save yourself the emotional distress of replaying her hurtful words, and struggling to get her to understand (and apologize for) the pain she inflicted. I don't imagine she is the type to apologize. There are discussions on line on detaching with love and how it has helped many people. By finally understanding they will never be the person we wish them to be. Many people are not capable of changing. They are who they are. Find peace as you begin to heal. I imagine it would be so healthy if you could find a counselor to help you resolve the pain and anguish of this relationship, and find healing and peace over how unjust this all feels. I wish you well....See More- 6 years agolast modified: 6 years ago
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